To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

Divorce him, obviously.

No they really are not.

Men are not infants.....although some might act like childish ass-wipes.

I have been to the shop for jam, and will be making an attempt at inventing jam harlots this afternoon. Watch this space.

DH - classic ManTwat behaviour

Jam Slags ✊🤝🙌

It's about respect for people's ability to plan. I don't get people who say "of course everyone should be able to eat all the food in the house, they live in the house too".

Someone - ideally both parents, but quite often only the female parent - has the responsibility of making sure the household has everything they need on a day-to-day basis. This is not only staples like milk, cereal, bread, but also any additional items required for special events so the household can offer appropriate hospitality to guests. If a greedy arse comes along and eats all the chicken so that the rest of the family is on plain pasta that night, then that's not ok.

A party is a family event at which the entire family - including the twat "D"H - offer their hospitality to their guests. It doesn't matter if he's not present at the event, the hospitality is being offered on his behalf to invited guests in celebration of his DC's birthday.

He should therefore show an interest in the planning of the event as it reflects on him too. At the very least, it is offensive that he has actively sabotaged it. It shows that he doesn't care about the smooth running of family life and doesn't really view it as being his responsibility. Instead, it is what he wants in the moment which is the most important thing.

Personally, I'd be similarly trashing his ability to plan and wasting his time. His keys wouldn't be where he left them, his food would be unexpectedly left out of the fridge and his laundry not dry. If he thinks it's ok to make extra work for others, I'd be throwing that right back at him.

I’ll bet he stuffed his face AND took some to work since you say most of it’s gone. What a twat.

Same 😂😂

These comments are hilarious 😂 yeah leave him.. I'm sure the child's dad taking some of his party food is waaay more traumatic to a child than having parents go through a divorce anyway. LOL

And before anyone says having a selfish dad will do damage blah blah, we don't know this man is as evil as you all like to believe. All we know is that he took some sausages rolls and cakes to work.

Yeah I'd be annoyed and let it be known I was annoyed but I'm sure it can be forgotten about in a few days if he apologises and realises it was a stupid thing to do.

I've googled a jam slag and I can't find the jammy treat anywhere 😔 I want to know how to make it.

OP now we need to know what jam balls are as well!!

PHOTO of jam slags with jam balls please!

Does he do things like this a lot. He sounds quite nasty.

Your DH was a twat. But I'm now mainly following for resolution re: "jam slags"

You think he has done it on purpose?

Does he usually enjoy making things difficult for you OP?

Joy-sponge bordering on the nasty. (husband not OP)

It’s only a sausage roll I wouldn’t mind

Is it because they’re even tartier than a tart, so a slag? 😂

This opens up a whole new world of jammy treats… a jam hussy, a jam whore, a jam harlot 😂

I'd be fuming too. What a selfish miscreant!

Not the point of the thread I know but if you’re using the word jam slag rather than jam tart because you think it sounds nicer trust me it doesn’t. Tart isn’t much better but slag is a horrible word. It could have been worse though it could have been jam slut.

Now to the point. YADNBU. He knows it’s his sons birthday I assume. It surely doesn’t take Einstein of even someone with no intelligence but a bit of common sense to realise that the food was for your little ones birthdays. Why would you be baking him a 32 lunch platter for him to gobble up on his own.

omg I would kill him.

Or, if he really won't bring them back, I'd be tempted to storm his place of work and wrestle them off him.

What a knob!

I think the responses would be less harsh if there were any evidence whatsoever that OP's husband was interested in rectifying the problem - rather than the complete lack of accountability he's shown so far.

My 7yo asks if he can have some when there are any cupcakes/cakes lying about.

I'm not sure why this is such an unrealistic expectation for an adult male. To exercise a modicum of self-control.

These are clearly the tossers who ate their flatmates' food when living in flatshares/uni accommodation because "it was around" and "they felt like some". It's not acceptable at age 18, it's not acceptable at 30 and it won't be acceptable at age 70.

Of course they're harsh responses! OP thought she had done the party/playdate preparation and now she needs to find time (and money) to do it all over again. Her husband is now at work. Not everybody can just drop everything and nip home during the working day. For all we know he is a surgeon or a police officer or a firefighter or a retail manager on the busiest day of the working week (the last was the reason my Dad worked virtually every Saturday of the year).

Are they? Because I have not yet met a single man who is the way you say all men are.

Very harsh responses, though.
Surely this can be rectified - possibly by the DH
buying and bringing home some stuff...

You’re right - that’s not the point. There is no excuse for what he’s done - he’s tried to sabotage the child’s party.

That’s another option, yes - if I went down this route he’d know that I’m going to proclaim why I’m here very loudly if there’s a reception desk or site office etc