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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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OneNiftyPoet · 01/06/2024 13:40

Tell us the jam slag recipe please!

LondonFox · 01/06/2024 13:39

Next time bake something drenched in laxative.
After literal shitshow at work he may get the message.

Blondiney · 01/06/2024 13:37

A jam slag sounds wonderfully sticky.

Pieceofpurplesky · 01/06/2024 13:36

My mum used to make something similar but called it a big jam tart! The jam ball was a ball of pastry with jam in that sat on top.

Your H is a dick.

PilingOnTheAgony · 01/06/2024 13:35

He's taken the stuff for people at work? So he gets to look like the good guy there, while giving not a solitary fuck about his wife and child? What an insufferable cunt.

Zanatdy · 01/06/2024 13:32

Out of order - unless you regularly bake goods. Still it’s good manners anyway to check if you can take it for work when you haven’t cooked it

Renamed · 01/06/2024 13:29

He did it on purpose - to ruin the party? Or because he thinks all sausage rolls should be for him, fuck the kids? This is so nasty. I hope you manage to have a good party (and I hope the kids take something of his and ruin it)

AppleStruddle123 · 01/06/2024 13:25

I bake so rarely this would be grounds for divorce!

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 01/06/2024 13:23

Persipan · 01/06/2024 12:47

I have been to the shop for jam, and will be making an attempt at inventing jam harlots this afternoon. Watch this space.

I am SO HERE FOR THIS @Persipan

Maray1967 · 01/06/2024 13:22

ChillysWaterBottle · 01/06/2024 13:16

I agree. This behaviour is so out of the norm for my partner and anyone I know it just seems awful and weird.

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Exactly. And comments that he might apologise and you can move forward etc are unbelievably naive. The only way a moron like this is going to learn not to behave like this in future is if he is seriously inconvenienced himself. I hope OP has warned him about what is going to happen to his favourite stuff if he does not return the food or replace it.

HoldingTheDoor · 01/06/2024 13:17

You don’t have to go to such unhinged extremes to get respect. I’m quite capable of standing up for myself without behaving like someone who is genuinely disturbed.

ChillysWaterBottle · 01/06/2024 13:16

custardlover · 01/06/2024 11:41

This is so very weird. Does he not like his child? It would be genuinely worrying and sinister to me.

I agree. This behaviour is so out of the norm for my partner and anyone I know it just seems awful and weird.

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 13:14

CrispieCake · 01/06/2024 13:11

I value my time and the effort I make on behalf of our family and our DC, and I expect other members of the family (at least the grown-up ones) to do so as well.

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@HoldingTheDoor

I bet that poster doesn’t get mugged off on a daily basis like most women on here do though

RegimentalSturgeon · 01/06/2024 13:12

Intrigued by a recipe that makes exactly eight brownies. How big are they?

CrispieCake · 01/06/2024 13:11

HoldingTheDoor · 01/06/2024 13:09

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

You sound like someone I’d happily invite over and ask to look after my small children.

Actually on second thoughts you sound genuinely unhinged and badly in need of therapy.

I value my time and the effort I make on behalf of our family and our DC, and I expect other members of the family (at least the grown-up ones) to do so as well.

HoldingTheDoor · 01/06/2024 13:09

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

You sound like someone I’d happily invite over and ask to look after my small children.

Actually on second thoughts you sound genuinely unhinged and badly in need of therapy.

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 13:08

Ick

ick

ick

Hard to feel attracted towards greedy men

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 13:07

HappyGoLucky96 · 01/06/2024 09:21

He only took a couple sausage rolls fs not to far I’m sure u can jump to Greggs

@HappyGoLucky96

yeah I’m sure she’s got nothing better to do than piss out going to fucking Greggs cos her greedy and inconsiderate ate everything

Waffle78 · 01/06/2024 13:03

Twat the least he could have done was ask before he took them.

Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 13:03

CrispieCake · 01/06/2024 11:45

He's trampled all over the OP's time and effort for their child and responded contemptuously that he's too busy to fix the mess he's made (the implication being that the OP's time is less important so she can just run around sorting everything out so their DC has a good day).

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

OP, does he have any hobbies? Is he into running? If so, maybe it's time for his running kit to go missing for a bit?

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Yeah ok, that’s not scary at all.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 01/06/2024 13:00

I've learnt quite a bit about baking from this thread... 'Jam slags'? Who knew?! Grin

OP... what have you decided about replacing these things? Can you bake them again or will you get replacements from the shops?

In terms of your husband, yes, it was bloody obvious they were for his child's party, he's probably already eaten them which is why he won't can't bring them home. He doesn't want you to call him greedy and selfish (he is).

I would definitely speak to him about this to ask why - but also say that in future, if you've made something, he is to ask before he takes any of it. No excuses and crystal clear so that there is no doubt.

viques · 01/06/2024 12:55

Bjorkdidit · 01/06/2024 09:35

I'm thinking something like this:

https://bakingwithgranny.co.uk/recipe/buns/rasp-buns/

Which was found by googling 'jam rock cakes' to be safe.

I think I would call those jam titties.

🙂

And henceforth Jammie dodgers will be known as jammie twats in memory of the OPs responsibility dodging OH.

middleofnowhere666 · 01/06/2024 12:52

If I were you I would now order pizza's, macdonalds etc to be delivered and use his card to pay for the kids food.

Tunefultwix · 01/06/2024 12:52

GingerPirate · 01/06/2024 12:22

Very harsh responses, though.
Surely this can be rectified - possibly by the DH
buying and bringing home some stuff...

He's refused to do that, though, when asked.

slideawayy · 01/06/2024 12:51

Marking my place for jam slag update.