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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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Theredoubtableskins · 01/06/2024 14:26

And why did he take so much? I think that backs up the idea that he did this on purpose. He knew what he was doing.

Theredoubtableskins · 01/06/2024 14:26

If you think he has done this deliberately then that pretty much shows what sort of person he presents himself as to his family. If that’s what you think of him then he must be a pretty selfish shitty person. Why are you with someone like that?

Have you managed to sort something out for the party?

MonsteraMama · 01/06/2024 14:24

Are you married to a raccoon? If nothing else that's a huge amount of food for one person to have for lunch! I'm no Mumsnet teeny tiny, I can put away a good few sausage rolls, but 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 brownies and 8 jam slags whatever they are? For lunch? Nah. He's either part trash panda or he's done this on purpose for whatever horrible reason you'd steal children's party food.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 01/06/2024 14:24

Really fancy a cuppa tea and a jam slag now (whatever they are).

yes- he was selfish, can’t believe he’d do that to his child on a birthday.

Propertyshmoperty · 01/06/2024 14:17

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 14:11

I’d love to know who has voted YABU Op?!

Probably @LonelyBones who called her thoughtless for not baking him enough to take to work since he enjoys her baking....

Either that or her abusive husband's found AIBU.

HereForTheFreeLunch · 01/06/2024 14:14

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 14:11

I’d love to know who has voted YABU Op?!

I guess OP's 'D'H and his jam slag scoffing friends are here!

HereForTheFreeLunch · 01/06/2024 14:13

I hope you went and got the best, most special and most expensive goodies you could buy for your DS's birthday party.
And I hope he had a great time!

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 14:11

I’d love to know who has voted YABU Op?!

ConstitutionHill · 01/06/2024 14:10

Whoa. That's a real ick right there!

A greedy, selfish person who would nick the treats for their own kid's party.

Really unattractive and I can't imagine ever fancying them again.

Bringonthesunforthewashing · 01/06/2024 14:07

LondonFox · 01/06/2024 13:39

Next time bake something drenched in laxative.
After literal shitshow at work he may get the message.

@Birump please please do this!!!

Great idea @LondonFox

I would be totally and utterly livid if dp did this! I often bake sausage rolls and pies solely for dp to take to work.

He would never ever take any without checking first. It is manners if nothing else.

So you told him and he wouldn’t bring them home!!! He’d be under the flipping patio if I was due on.

I am angry for you. Don’t get mad though, get even. Laxatives in the next lot 😁

CatamaranViper · 01/06/2024 14:07

TonTonMacoute · 01/06/2024 14:02

True, sadly. They are mostly completely oblivious to this sort of thing.

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Oblivious to what? Not knowing that food that you didn't buy, weren't offered or didn't prepare isn't necessarily for you?

This is up there with people who take the specially prepared vegetarian plate at an event leaving none for the actual vegetarians. Entitled, ignorant dickheads.

Thisoldheartofmine · 01/06/2024 14:06

The jam ball was a ball of pastry with jam in that sat on top.
ah ha , that sounds like it might be it.

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/06/2024 14:06

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 01/06/2024 14:04

Is she his mum?? Is it his birthday?? Nope and nope

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@LonelyBones

quite right! She could always stay up late tonight baking for him though couldn’t she? That would be thoughtful of her , and kind.

LemonMead · 01/06/2024 14:05

Of course he knew. What a self-centred, selfish arsehole

ifIwerenotanandroid · 01/06/2024 14:05

My (not entirely serious) suggestion is to make him an individual dog food pie for his dinner tonight, & if he objects then you insist that it was not obvious that dog food is for dogs.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 01/06/2024 14:04

LonelyBones · 01/06/2024 09:48

Im going against the grain here and going to say that, you should have made more or enough for your DH if you knew that he enjoys your baking. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and now you're angsting over the baking for the party. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is she his mum?? Is it his birthday?? Nope and nope

TonTonMacoute · 01/06/2024 14:02

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

True, sadly. They are mostly completely oblivious to this sort of thing.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 01/06/2024 14:00

LondonFox · 01/06/2024 13:39

Next time bake something drenched in laxative.
After literal shitshow at work he may get the message.

This 😂😂😂

Sugargliderwombat · 01/06/2024 13:55

I'm here just for the info about jam slags.

RishiFinallyDidTheRightThing · 01/06/2024 13:52

He's either greedy and selfish or greedy and stupid.

PS I want a jam slag.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 01/06/2024 13:52

he's taken most of it

really or is that an exaggeration or just a phrase ?

out of 8 of everything, what did he leave

selfish selfish man

is he the father ?

Persipan · 01/06/2024 13:49

RegimentalSturgeon · 01/06/2024 13:12

Intrigued by a recipe that makes exactly eight brownies. How big are they?

If you made one egg's worth of Nigella's brownie recipe you'd get 8 small brownies. Or, realistically, do a two egg batch to get 8 more generous ones. The egg is the only element you can't easily scale up or down.

gardenmusic · 01/06/2024 13:46

You clearly spent time, love and money on someone else, you wicked woman, and got your comeuppance!

GingerPirate · 01/06/2024 13:43

LizzieSiddal · 01/06/2024 12:42

Does he do things like this a lot. He sounds quite nasty.

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Wow - on purpose 😲 🤬

Ellaelle · 01/06/2024 13:43

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Bring it hack for what? You seriously can't nip out to the shops? If he does bring them back I hope you don't give it to the other child after your husbands paws have been all over them!

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