To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

If I had baked for a kids party I would probably say that that's for tomorrow.

Equally here we tend to ask about food.

Anything that might have been bought to be used in a meal or anything "out of the ordinary" that might be for a particular purpose.

Have a feeling that Op's husband would "forget" thought even if told.

I'm sorry OP, men really do just lack brain cells it seems. Tell him not to come home for dinner, he's took enough food to cover his evening meal.

Also, I'm gonna need the recipe for these promiscuous pastries 👀

I'm guessing it's slags as in slag heap rather than promiscuous woman but yours sound fun 😂

Genuinely would re-evaluate my marriage over this. Selfish, pathetic man. Why the fuck couldn't he nip to the shop for his snacks? He DEFINITELY took them knowing they were for the party, I don't understand this behaviour. The bar for husbands and fathers is so low... Start putting yourselves first, fuck him, he's not in it for the family is he, all about himself.

He needs to bring it all back, and apologise, at the barest of bare minimum.

Of course it was obvious and he damn well knew that.
I'm afraid your H is a selfish, lying prick who has deliberately chosen to ruin your hard work & your child's party.
If this is not his first offence of this nature, I'd seriously be re-evaluating our relationship as apparently he can only think of himself.

This might sound extreme but I'd actually consider ending a relationship over this
He clearly knew they weren't for the taking and instead for his 8 year son and friend. Just spiteful and nasty

@Birump can you go retrieve the baking? What a selfish *rse. Or send an Uber round for it. Anything to make sure he, knowing it was for today, gets none 😡 (I know this might be costly but it’s the principle and he needs to get the message) 🤣

Did you live in Gormenghast? This is wildly wonderful and mad at the same time.

He’s vile, idk how you could stay with a man like that.

My mum had two ancient old aunts when she was growing up. Sisters called Aunt Mould and Aunt Slag. No one ever batted an eyelid at their names until about 10 years ago when they were mentioned in front of my DH and he thought he must have misheard! 😄

Sorry, totally missing the point of the thread. YANBU and the jam slags are making me chuckle. Hope your DS has a lovely time with his friends!

I agree with leaving him out of family meals for the foreseeable future. Families represent collective, mutually supportive group living structures and his anti-family behaviour marks him as unsuitable for inclusion within the collective.

No they’re not. Stop it, women like you let men get away with their deliberate incompetence just because you believe their penis power makes them dunderheads with any household chore or event. They know exactly what they’re doing, they simply dont care.

I think he's a Jam Slag .... with his little jammy balls.

What a selfish dick. Poor DS.

Did he just take some for himself, or take most of it to give to his workmates? Either way, I hope you had enough to make the party a success.

Where does it say ‘he took a couple of sausage rolls?’ I can’t see that in the OP??

Cut holes in the front of all his boxers. When he asks why just say "it wasn't obvious that you needed them. I thought I could take them"

But no YANBU. Did he know you were having a children's get together? Perhaps he thought they'd be spare, but it's still selfish and greedy, he should have asked.

What a selfish bastard.

Jam slags 😂

So he hates his son?

My suggestion to this discussion would be to give your DH a blow to the head with a frying pan and when he is out, drive and dump his comatose body by the dumpsters behind a Greggs, with pastry crumbs a plenty on his clothing.

Make sure it's not a local Greggs and don't leave any identification on him either.

Who wants to drive???

In all fairness, don't be including him in what you cook for the family for the time being. When he apologises, and only when he apologises, should he be included in the pot.

The fact that he's not remorseful for potentially ruining his kids party speaks volumes to what kind of bloke he is. IF and big if, it was a genuine mistake he would try his hardest to bring them back or order a whoosh / deliveroo / urgent delivery or be profusely apologising for making such a thoughtless "mistake".

I'm guessing you've had to now rush around to clean up his mess.

Wow. I’d be locking him out the house if he didn’t bring them back for the party. What an utter dick!

I can see it might be a genuine mistake if he'd taken one sausage roll and one jam thingy, but he didn't: as you say he took most of it. May I suggest you insert any remaining jam slags up where the sun don't shine? On your H, of course.

My ex would do similar stuff but not this bad. If I tried to get ahead for the next morning by laying the table for breakfast at night, he'd come home (he worked very silly hours) and use the crockery & cutlery etc on the table.

I think it's a form of jealousy.