To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

Adults need fruit too.

Who deliberately fucks up their child’s party??

This is the crux of the matter. What caring husband and father would do this?

This is not an incident I would allow to be glossed over. It speaks to his contempt for his family, his immaturity, his selfishness and lack of pulling his weight when it comes to parenting.

He's done it on purpose for what reason? Are you thinking he's intentionally trying to ruin/put a damper on the day? Is he being spiteful? What's going on? And... has he done this before?

He took food out of your children’s mouths and you still call him your husband? So, you stayed with him? You saw who he really was in times of need, and you decided you still loved him and he’s the man to spend your life with. Wow.

I do blame the women when they stay.

Please may I have the recipe for jam slags?! 🤣 Hope you ds has a lovely birthday!

Fucking hell. He can bring them back or not come home, surely!! You’d be furious!! Tell him you’ll be going past a very expensive cafe if he’s not home in an hour with everything, and he can find himself somewhere else to sleep. Who deliberately fucks up their child’s party??

We need a pic of the jam slag … unless that is Mr Arsehole has taken them all

I'm actually all for women leaving and finding peace within themselves without a partner. OP clearly doesn't have to stay in any relationship she's not happy with, but what would be the point in me telling her to LTB when plenty of other people have already said they would?

If you've managed to find a man that does actually hold consideration for anyone else, especially their wives and children, then please do tell us where to find them. Because a lot of us out here are having to play mum AND dad due to selfishness and laziness.

Agree @fiftiesskin - its more shit than the other shit, but still same shit.

It's been going on since I joined MN so 20 years - always you get a significant number of posters going on about poor hungry men. Unsettling.

It's like a worse version of men who take stuff that is for their kids' lunchboxes.

There's always a fair number of people who say "What's the big deal? He was just hungry. Buy more". But there isn't always the money to buy more and, even if there is, that's a fat lot of good at 7am in the morning when you're packing the lunchbox and you don't have anything for your DC to eat. In these circumstances, I've found that the best thing to do is to walk out of the house and leave the offender to get said child to school and prepare some kind of lunch, even if it makes them late for work.

I remember that thread. All those ‘ just make some more biscuits OP’ comments made me feel MN had been infiltrated by the Stepford wives!

I do think what OPs H in this thread has done is a level up from that though. It’s fucking disgraceful to eat your own child’s birthday party food.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5078082-baked-23-cookies-dh-ate-8-of-them?page=22&reply=135437622

This is fascinating, as a week or so ago there was a thread from a poster who'd baked biscuits for the kids' lunches and her DH helped himself to a big portion of them, and there was a massive pile on saying he was entitled to have them and she should simply bake more - as in her fault for not baking extra to cover his lack of self control. (Sorry have only read OP's posts so someone may have already mentioned this).

I HATE stuff like this - I remember when we were really hard up, I mean literally counting out pennies at the till for a loaf of bread, and if I bought fruit for the kids H would always have a portion. We had no money for fruit for the adults. But he'd always take some. Obviously that's an extreme example, but I bet if I posted that at the time there'd be some way of making it my fault!

I don’t think that’s extreme at all. I agree.

I bloody hate this ‘men! What are they like!’ sort of comment. It’s minimizing comments like this that lead to women doubting themselves and staying in shit relationships.

Men very clearly do not lack brain cells. This man is a selfish, deeply unpleasant man who has a contemptuous attitude to his wife, not much regard for his own child, and an extraordinary sense of entitlement.

Jam slag just about the best thing I've ever seen on mumsnet ... just wondering what ops suggested spelling options have seen over the years to remember the word slag. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Why? So he can take even more??
He didn't bother asking about the ones he did take

This must be my favorite Mumsnet post ever!

If he isn't offering a decent explanation (there isn't one) and a grovelling apology (as if..) by the time he gets home you need to have serious words. How dare you spend all that time and effort making something delicious that's not for him!!
You shouldn't have to but next time leave a massive sign next to the baking saying Do Not Touch, you Twat!

On the other hand 'tart' and 'slag', while having different meanings sometimes both also mean a promiscuous woman. I love it 😂

You need to rename him The Jam Slag

@Birump - what ended up happening? Did you have time to make more - or was it a quick trip to Gregg's?

I would be furious too. You say it's happened before so he clearly is a selfish individual ( being kind about it) or else an absolute c**t if, as I suspect, he did it deliberately, knowing full well that they would be for the kids playdate

Why would she reward him? He is not even sorry!

No there is no way he didn't know. Fine you said you sometimes bake, but you do tell him help himself. I don't bake so I'd have bought, if cakes/ pastries had appeared in kitchen DH, would have said something like 'these for something' with or without DS having a birthday the next day

I'm guessing it's slags as in slag heap rather than promiscuous woman but yours sound fun 😂

I assumed it was slag heaps as well; I used to live off a road called “Slag Lane”…..🤣