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Birump · 2024-06-01T08:13:50+00:00

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date. Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies. Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work. im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Princesscounsuelabananahammock · 01/06/2024 17:34

Firstly, when you're a parent you really don't get to 'not really do birthdays' for your own child. I'd be telling him I don't give a flying fuck what he does for his own birthday he helps out and makes his child's day special. Birthdays for young kids aren't optional. They're the kind of occasion that will stick with a child for better or worse. He is being a dick in the first place not to be joining in your efforts.

Secondly, there are no words for the selfishness of taking your baking.

What positives does this man bring to your's and more importantly your son's life OP?

feelingfree17 · 01/06/2024 17:31

Rude, and probably an element of jealousy there. Also very disrespectful to you, he should have checked with you. But then again , he knew what the answer would have been, so he just took them.

I bet he is the type who would go crazy if you showed him such little respect, and no doubt did very little towards the party.

Nanny0gg · 01/06/2024 17:30

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Why?

Is he always this nasty?

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 01/06/2024 17:29

Even if it wasn’t obvious: he should have asked instead of taking most of them for himself.

SingleMummyHere1 · 01/06/2024 17:28

What a dick. Imagine doing that to your own kid. He'll he playing the big man at work, so kind of him to bring in baking for everyone....

Nicebloomers · 01/06/2024 17:27

Is he generally jealous when you pay your son attention or specifically spend time doing something that benefits him?

nozbottheblue · 01/06/2024 17:27

...and I need a picture of the slags please! 😁

nozbottheblue · 01/06/2024 17:26

I like it- a slag being one step up from a tart, perhaps? 😊
Hope you get it sorted in time OP, I too would be furious and he'd have to do a lot to redeem himself.

Scruffily · 01/06/2024 17:21

Did he take 48 items of baking all for himself? If so, he's a greedy bastard.

I bet he knew full well it was all for the party but fancied what he saw and reckoned you would just magic up more. This looks very much like one of those planned incompetence tricks.

Projectme · 01/06/2024 17:18

"Not the first time he's done something like this". Urgh. Horrible, selfish, entitled, arrogant arse.

Any normal person would check and ask if it's OK to have any of the food.

What other examples of selfish behaviour does he exhibit OP?

GingerPirate · 01/06/2024 17:12

Persipan · 01/06/2024 16:09

Right, here we go! After several iterations I think I have produced something worthy of the name 'jam harlots'. Essentially a sort of double-walled freestanding jam tart. Instead of pastry, I used the same biscuit dough I use for stained glass biscuits (it's very buttery and very forgiving). For some unaccountable reason, the posting interface is inviting me to mark these as 'sensitive images'? I can't think why.

(To be absolutely clear, these are not jam slags. I've just taken the opportunity to have a little too much fun. And, at this point, far too much jam...)

Very good!
Now, would it be alright if I took one for my husband?
I don't have kids or like sweet stuff much,
and he's a very decent old gentleman with a sweet tooth 😂

FangsForTheMemory · 01/06/2024 17:05

The point is that the husband here will have looked at all the nice baking and resented that the OP has put this effort into something that IS NOT ABOUT HIM. He's taken the food to ensure it IS about him.

Bahhhhhumbug · 01/06/2024 17:05

Persipan · 01/06/2024 12:47

I have been to the shop for jam, and will be making an attempt at inventing jam harlots this afternoon. Watch this space.

Hahaha, thar's funny , yes watching impatiently

gardenmusic · 01/06/2024 16:57

fiftiesskin · Today 16:54
gardenmusic · Today 16:25

Is your DS his DS?
What?! Why is this relevant?

Is it ok to nick the birthday food of a child who is not your own?

Of course it's not OK, and unfortunately it can be very relevant. I am glad that you do not know this.

GoingDownLikeBHS · 01/06/2024 16:56

Blimey. That escalated quickly! FFS @Theredoubtableskins you ok hun? For what it's worth I am divorced. But yes, you did find a way to make it my fault - well done!

@Persipan we all love your jam harlots, v. Waitrose level methinks.

stayathomer · 01/06/2024 16:56

Hope the party went ok after that op, definitely put the feet up this evening!!

fiftiesskin · 01/06/2024 16:54

gardenmusic · 01/06/2024 16:25

Is your DS his DS?

What?! Why is this relevant?

Is it ok to nick the birthday food of a child who is not your own?

Conniebygaslight · 01/06/2024 16:51

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:32

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

If you know he’s done it on purpose, that’s so awful for you and your son OP. Is he your son’s dad? How could he even think about doing this to his own child and wife!

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 16:51

BrendaSmall · 01/06/2024 16:23

You’ll be surprised how many actually do!
I always bake for my husband’s lunch!

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Why? Does he not have the capability to make his own lunch? Or does he do all the other cooking in return for your family?

Nicebloomers · 01/06/2024 16:49

Persipan · 01/06/2024 16:09

Right, here we go! After several iterations I think I have produced something worthy of the name 'jam harlots'. Essentially a sort of double-walled freestanding jam tart. Instead of pastry, I used the same biscuit dough I use for stained glass biscuits (it's very buttery and very forgiving). For some unaccountable reason, the posting interface is inviting me to mark these as 'sensitive images'? I can't think why.

(To be absolutely clear, these are not jam slags. I've just taken the opportunity to have a little too much fun. And, at this point, far too much jam...)

I would be a jam slag for your jam harlots

TakesTheCake12 · 01/06/2024 16:47

LostTheMarble · 01/06/2024 15:00

No they’re not. Stop it, women like you let men get away with their deliberate incompetence just because you believe their penis power makes them dunderheads with any household chore or event. They know exactly what they’re doing, they simply dont care.

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This is called weaponised incompetence!

steppemum · 01/06/2024 16:46

The jam harlots are wonderful and really made me laugh.

I think I need to make some for an event/party and just let one or two people know the name so we can have a private giggle.

JamSlag · 01/06/2024 16:34

Persipan · 01/06/2024 16:09

Right, here we go! After several iterations I think I have produced something worthy of the name 'jam harlots'. Essentially a sort of double-walled freestanding jam tart. Instead of pastry, I used the same biscuit dough I use for stained glass biscuits (it's very buttery and very forgiving). For some unaccountable reason, the posting interface is inviting me to mark these as 'sensitive images'? I can't think why.

(To be absolutely clear, these are not jam slags. I've just taken the opportunity to have a little too much fun. And, at this point, far too much jam...)

You actually made them! I love you.

Peachy2005 · 01/06/2024 16:30

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:31

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

Are people hard of reading?

The OP literally told her H she was baking instead of buying party snacks (see 2nd paragraph)! He did it on purpose!!

CrispieCake · 01/06/2024 16:29

Locking him out's not a bad idea. Just tell him you have too much on - beauty sleep etc. - to come down and open the door for him.

Maybe he can magic a bed out of thin air in the same way that he expects you to be able to magically produce more party treats. And if he can't, well like him you don't much care, do you?