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To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

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CrikeyMajikey · 01/06/2024 19:06

Typical dick move by a man.

I’m intrigued by the Jam Slags.

Sweden99 · 01/06/2024 19:04

thecatsthecats · 01/06/2024 18:58

It's funny how people who pick on communication issues always pick on the OP.

"Is all this baking for something special or can I take it to work?"

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It was why I ased whether it was his birthday. A long shot but might have caused confusion.

thecatsthecats · 01/06/2024 18:58

TheTartfulLodger · 01/06/2024 09:25

I suppose this is where communication can be quite helpful i.e. 'these are for the kids, please don't eat then'. Never assume anything.

It's funny how people who pick on communication issues always pick on the OP.

"Is all this baking for something special or can I take it to work?"

dapsnotplimsolls · 01/06/2024 18:53

Your DH is an arse. Your Mum is a genius.

Naran · 01/06/2024 18:47

Your dh sounds like a self obsessed moron

that said, I’d like a jam slag!

Sweden99 · 01/06/2024 18:47

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:31

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

@Birump Was it his birthday or something?
It might be he got the wrong idea because of that. Otherwise it is all extremely bizarre.

diddl · 01/06/2024 18:45

Well on the back of this thread I was going to do some baking & I have no jam!

We used to make "thumb tarts".

Small ball of pastry, make indentation with thumb, blob of jam.

IDontHateRainbows · 01/06/2024 18:40

Is a jam Slag like a jam tart only, tartier?
Like a next level tart?

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/06/2024 18:38

Why wouldn’t someone ask before taking all of the g food?

id go berserk

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/06/2024 18:37

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/06/2024 18:36

I’m assuming it’s not this 😂😂

It’s loose and expanded 😂😂😂

KTSl1964 · 01/06/2024 18:36

He too everything - who for? Is he always such a greedy bastard!!! How selfish - horrible man - 👨 yuk

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/06/2024 18:36

I’m assuming it’s not this 😂😂

To think it was obvious they were for the kids??
WimpoleHat · 01/06/2024 18:36

What kind of complete idiot would think his wife baked party food for him to bring to work?

This is a good point, actually…..

I am the person who does all the meal planning, shopping and cooking in our house. I’m generally a decent cook and I try to make nice family meals, so everyone is happy with that arrangement. Therefore, everyone will ask me before eating anything that isn’t “bog standard” in case it’s an ingredient for a recipe. Not because I’m some sort of control freak about food, but because it might have been earmarked for tomorrow’s dinner. (So a banana, a packet of pasta, some cereal? All fair game. A packet of smoked salmon or chicken thighs? Someone would ask me if it was okay to eat it before they snaffled it for lunch. Because that’s just courteous. There’s no way anyone could see specially baked treats, all in 8s, and think it’s just general food for general consumption and not something special. I agree with the posters saying he’d done it on purpose…..

NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/06/2024 18:34

I want a jam slag

BusyMummy001 · 01/06/2024 18:33

Read this to DH, who can be a thoughtless dck (but he’s my thoughtless dck)… and he thought, quote ‘what a moron’. No excuses. Hope you managed to rebake/replace the items and make it a lovely birthday play date for DS, but DH was a twat.

WimbyAce · 01/06/2024 18:28

I just despair at these threads. Yet another useless dad that has not contributed anything to his child's party. Firstly why is he not at the party? I know you have downplayed it but surely your own child's birthday party is important? And then he's eaten the home baked treats. Does he actually have much input with his child on a normal basis? Or is he just a selfish tw#t?

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 01/06/2024 18:26

LutonBeds · 01/06/2024 09:17

I assume ‘jam slag’ is a typo? 🤣 But I’m curious (and hungry) now. And yes, H deffo knew it was for the party.

😂

IAmNotASheep · 01/06/2024 18:22

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:31

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

I just googled what a jam slag is
The only thing that came up was jam slag mushroom and your thread 😄
If you’ve made any more can we have a picture and recipe. If you’ve got the time with all the extra cooking OP

TellMeWhoTheVillainsAre · 01/06/2024 18:12

LutonBeds · 01/06/2024 09:17

I assume ‘jam slag’ is a typo? 🤣 But I’m curious (and hungry) now. And yes, H deffo knew it was for the party.

I googled - thought it must be a nice pastry I'd never heard of. Just got pictures of rocks.

mikado1 · 01/06/2024 18:05

Taken it for work?? 😤 I'd be raging. Eaten one or two not great but fine. We had an uninvited onetime friend call to the private house after a funeral and fill her tupperware (!) with the lovely baking people had dropped in. Didn't touch the shop bought mind and couldn't understand the offence taken! He'll have to get the oven on if they've been eaten in work!

Hydrate100 · 01/06/2024 18:02

Birump · 01/06/2024 09:13

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

I'd be fucking fuming!!!

What's a jam slag btw?!

rinseandrepeat1 · 01/06/2024 18:00

@Birump
Do jam slags look like this picture?

To think it was obvious they were for the kids??
Yetmorebeanstocount · 01/06/2024 17:58

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 01/06/2024 09:22

He's a selfish jerk and a liar who doesn't GAF about messing up his kids birthday, that's pretty low.

This.
He knew.
He was greedy.
He didn't care about the party, his child, or you. He only cared for himself and his own wants.
He was probably jealous that you would bake for someone else (his child) but not for him. His thought process went something like "she has baked for someone else but not me - that's not fair, I want my share, I'm going to take what I want and serve her right".

OP - you know if this sounds true.

uhOhOP · 01/06/2024 17:38

OhHelloMiss · 01/06/2024 10:12

How many kids coming? You said it's NOT a party but a play date

8 kids to a play date?

Maybe the boy is 8-years-old, so having eight of each item is just symbolic.

2catsandhappy · 01/06/2024 17:35

Previously poster but just remembered from the film 'Amadeus' the Nipples of Venus cakes.
Cake inuendo is not new.
So hoping your ds has a lovely day.