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Would you cancel? Important family event including many over 80s. Host has woken up with Covid

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loveyouradvice · 01/06/2024 08:42

Just that really - my partner, the host, has Covid.

We have 30 people coming to our house for an important family event today. All cooking and prep done. My partner central to it - big speech planned etc. (Not a birthday)

I am so out of the loop on how people are around Covid now

Two options
YABU - My partner - the host - isolates self having finished final prep
YANBU - Postpone event until Sept. Not worth risking over 80s getting Covid. Host is integral to event. Everyone more relaxed and just a shame this is how it is

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PleaseletitbeSpring · 01/06/2024 09:56

Frail family member, late 70s, died this week after catching Covid. Far too risky.

JoniBlue · 01/06/2024 09:55

I'd cancel.

Rosebel · 01/06/2024 09:51

I'd give people the choice. People tend to carry on as normal. Due to where I work we do have to inform them if we have Covid but still expected to work. People go shopping,, to the gym, most people don't even test now.
So give your guests the choice and if too many say no the leave it until September.

heretodestroyyou · 01/06/2024 09:46

LizzieBennett73 · 01/06/2024 09:24

Covid is just another variant of the flu virus. There is no need for ongoing hysteria about it.

I would let people know and give them the choice.

I wouldn't host or go to a party with flu either. Would you?

TheBanffie · 01/06/2024 09:46

Absolutely postpone. Even with vaccination getting Covid in your 80s could easily be fatal or cause a hospital admission. If you continue and someone catches it and is seriously ill it is your fault.

heretodestroyyou · 01/06/2024 09:45

I would postpone. Even if your partner kept his distance, you possibly are brewing it as we speak. I just wouldn't want to risk other people getting ill for a party.

I know it's disappointing but I really wouldn't bother with a half arsed attempt at carrying on.

Echobelly · 01/06/2024 09:44

I'd postpone. SIL did the same when she got COVID 2 days before her 50th birthday party and it wasn't even there were vulnerable people - she had a lovely party a couple of months later.

GiddyMare · 01/06/2024 09:43

I don't even own any covid tests. My previous work told us not to test unless a HCP told us to. Current job says you can come into work with covid but have to wear a mask. These are both jobs dealing with the public.

However, now you have tested and dp has it, I'd probably cancel. Even if they know and choose to come, you'll feel silly if they all get ill. Last time I had it, I felt horrible and was only 39.

FiveTreeHill · 01/06/2024 09:41

LizzieBennett73 · 01/06/2024 09:24

Covid is just another variant of the flu virus. There is no need for ongoing hysteria about it.

I would let people know and give them the choice.

If you had flu would you continue to host a party with a load of 80 Yr olds?

Cancelling an event because you have a virus is not hysteria. It's normal behaviour

crenellations · 01/06/2024 09:41

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People who have a modicum of responsibility and giving a shit about loved one's health are definitely testing.

What an odd thing to say.

Postpone OP - it's gutting but it's the sensible option. Long covid is definitely still a serious thing.

HcbSS · 01/06/2024 09:38

StandardSize14 · 01/06/2024 08:48

Why's he testing can I ask? Especially if he feels fine ?

This

WaitingForMojo · 01/06/2024 09:38

I’m not overly cautious. I’m not one of those people still wearing masks and isolating like it’s 2020. But i definitely wouldn’t go ahead.

WaitingForMojo · 01/06/2024 09:37

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Lots of people I know are testing

WaitingForMojo · 01/06/2024 09:36

I wouldn’t but then we’be had one elderly family member die of covid (pre vaccines) and another hospitalised on cpap with complications ongoing two years later (fully and recently vaccinated).

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 01/06/2024 09:33

Let everyone know - their choice to come or not.

Host stays out of the way and wears a mask.

Thisoldheartofmine · 01/06/2024 09:32

@LizzieBennett73 flu is incredibly disabling .Plus it's been around in various mutations for a lot longer than covid which has a wider range of symptoms,varying in severity and some with long lasting effect.
Its not the same as flu.

DingDongDenny · 01/06/2024 09:28

I'm still testing when I feel ill because my 80 year old mum almost died the last time she got it and it has left her almost blind and with diabetes.

Craftysue · 01/06/2024 09:27

I think you need to tell people and let them decide. I'm immunosuppressed and I wouldn't be attending. Id be unhappy to turn up and be told that the host had COVID and hadn't let me know

TheYearOfSmallThings · 01/06/2024 09:25

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LizzieBennett73 · 01/06/2024 09:24

Covid is just another variant of the flu virus. There is no need for ongoing hysteria about it.

I would let people know and give them the choice.

JWhipple · 01/06/2024 09:24

Cancel. I had COVID twice, first time was off for two months, second time was over Christmas and was off a month. There's no guarantee people won't just be "poorly for a couple of days". I've had vaccines and boosters as am a health worker

Thisoldheartofmine · 01/06/2024 09:24

I don't really see the point of testing if you then ignore it

I would treat covid the same as if it were flu or noro or any other mildly serious virus. Tell the guests your ill and will need to postpone. It happens. If they still want to see each other they can meet at someone elses house, as normally happens if a host has to cancel due to ill health. You aren't responsible for the social life of all these people, but you would be responsible if you made everyone ill
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tiggergoesbounce · 01/06/2024 09:23

I would obviously postpone - I would hate to pass any illness onto my 80 year old relatives or anyone else. It's grim feeling poorly.

My nan is 86 and would say she would attend anyway as she still thinks she can fight anything - we know differently, so i would take the decision to protect her.

Your DH may not feel ill but the person he passes it to may.

nordicwannabe · 01/06/2024 09:22

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Ccchhhhheeeerse · 01/06/2024 09:22

I would cancel. If oldies coming.

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