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To put up with feeling this crap

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amidsummernightsdream · 31/05/2024 19:43

Sat here fed up after another day of being bone tired. And I mean tired to the actual bone. I feel ill I am that exhausted.

Backround, I have for the last 18 months been experiencing the following symptoms:

Forgetting words/ saying wrong words continually throughout the day (this symptom is concerning me the most)
Extreme exhaustion
Extreme irritability, anger, low mood.
memory/ brain fog/ difficulty concentrating
Significant increase in migraines
palpitations
Dizzy when standing up from bending down
sickness with movement / had to give up my pilates class

Doctor just not interested and basically eye rolled me and told me to take anti depressants. Im not depressed, I physically feel terrible!!

This has all started within this specific time frame and I rightly/ wrongly believe there is an underlying cause, whether that be vitamin deficiency, perimenopausal. Dr disagrees

Had bloods done and show no sign of perimenopause. Bloods show all ok but low folate and ferritin was 11, which they said was fine but i know that to be low, so been taking folate, high strength iron, b12, magnesium, high strength vit d and omega 3
My mood has actually improved considerably in the 3 months ive been taking the supplements but the physical symptoms persist.

Doctor said no more blood tests needed.

I literally cannot carry on like this. I’ve been moody and irritable today but BECAUSE i feel horrendous and still have to carry on life with work and a 3 year old.

I just cant enjoy anything at all. It’s mine and dh anniversary tomorrow, we have childcare and a meal booked and ive been looking forward to it so much but feeling like this it just seems like a waste of money

What are my next steps, what can I do?

I’m nearly 39, work part time, dont smoke or drink, heathly bmi, dont do formal exercise but active. Diet could be better but honestly isnt full of crap and just average

OP posts:
AwfulMIL · 31/05/2024 19:56

Have an orange with an iron tablet as the Vit C helps it absorb.

any positively triggers if you look at the days/weeks/months before you started feeling really ill.

AceOfCups · 31/05/2024 19:55

Did your onset of symptoms coincide with a Covid booster? Your lists of symptoms is almost identical to a friend of mine who had a bad reaction to a booster and still doesn’t feel quite right several years later.

Alittlelostinlifeisi · 31/05/2024 19:51

How are you sleeping? Are you getting your 8h with no interruptions from children, partner or screen? Are you drinking enough water? Would you be constipated? Are you happy with your life? Have you noticed if there are certain thought patterns that you have and leave you feeling drained? How long is this going on? Is it linked with a time of the month? Have you any other symptoms? Are you breastfeeding?

Collywobblewobbles · 31/05/2024 19:51

No, that's not normal and honestly, there could be various causes!

What I would do:

  1. get copies of your blood results & check whether you were actually in normal range for things or at the low end of a normal range
  2. seek a second opinion - see a different doctor, possibly female because the dismissal you've been given smacks of medical sexism
  3. keep a symptom diary. It's the single best thing you can do to aid a diagnosis and help you be taken seriously.

Keep it for at least 2 weeks, record hours slept, track diet (just so you can prove calorie intake / balanced diet) and activity as well as symptoms.

This will do two main things: it will help highlight patterns and add weight to your claims so a doctor can see how debilitating it is.

Make notes on the debilitating effects - what are you now unable to do that you could before? What adaptations have you had to make to function?

And keep pushing - don't give up. Good luck!