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Can't visit friend as her dog is racist

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CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 19:15

I was making plans to visit one of my best friends.
She is white and I'm mixed race.

She told me she was concerned as her new dog who i haven't met, is racist.

Anytime he sees a person who is not white he goes mental.

This is honestly not a fake post.

Not sure how to respond. Advice welcome.

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Jenasaurus · 01/06/2024 02:21

My DS whippets hate cartoon characters, cyclists and Alsatian's.

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyHusband · 01/06/2024 01:46

Totallybannanas · 01/06/2024 01:04

Is it true dogs are more weary of black dogs? My friend has a black Dane and I'm sure she told me this. Is it to do with their vision or something? There was a reason

Yes i believe it is true due to them only seeing in shades. They cannot distinguish features so clearly so a black dog bounding up to your dog is more likely to get a negative reaction.

SD1978 · 01/06/2024 01:41

Although I wouldn't call the dog racist, but there is definitely a different reaction to anyone who looks different to the owners.

SD1978 · 01/06/2024 01:39

Those saying it's a wind up- genuinely it's not. My friend's dog only reacts to men who are of colour- I understand those of you thinking/ accusing responders of this being a wind up- but it genuinely isn't. The dog will o it react to those men, white men get no reaction at all. Its fecking embarrassing when you walk him

thelittlestkiwi · 01/06/2024 01:37

My dog is racist. Which is embarrassing as we are a mixed race family. She is utterly adored and no one in the family would ever harm her.

She also hates fluro and cycle helmets.

We made an effort to walk in more diverse areas and that seemed to help.

anothernamitynamenamechange · 01/06/2024 01:34

Moier · 31/05/2024 19:27

My dog hated males.. maybe because she was brought up in a house of females

Its very common in wolf dogs and wolves to be more cautious of adult males than women.

Losetowin · 01/06/2024 01:32

Reading all the reasons why peoples dogs take a dislike to certain people has made me chuckle a bit thinking about how some claim their dogs can “read” everyone.

I’ll save and show this thread to the ones who are SO convinced that their dog/all dogs are great judges of character and are always bleating about if a dog doesn’t like you there’s something wrong with you blah blah.

Obviously with dogs there’s no malice or whatever but it’s very clear that a dog not taking to you doesn’t necessarily reflect badly on you. You may just be white, black, fat, tall, thin, wearing a nice hat or headscarf, delivering mail etc the list is endless 😂

ProfTeeCee · 01/06/2024 01:28

My dog is like this too 😫

5YearsLeft · 01/06/2024 01:27

This covers all of it really well with actual behavioral experts.

  1. of course a dog isn’t racist because that’s part of human society.
  2. BUT yes, they can be afraid of certain groups of people (skin colors, genders, wheelchair users, postmen!). This talks about how to fix it.
  3. It also discusses why we call dogs “racist” or why we’re concerned, even though of course we know they can’t be (it’s American so it talks about American history, but also because dog owners are afraid people will think that they’re racist).

Good article. Good advice.
https://www.tuftsyourdog.com/dogtrainingandbehavior/my-dog-is-racist-and-im-mortified/

My Dog is Racist, and Im Mortified! - TuftsYourDog

Alabama-native Maegan White loves traveling with her husband and their dogs, Maui and Dexter. Maui, the couple’s boykin spaniel, is so friendly that he helped neighbors from India overcome their fear of dogs and even adopt one of their own.

https://www.tuftsyourdog.com/dogtrainingandbehavior/my-dog-is-racist-and-im-mortified/

Losetowin · 01/06/2024 01:19

Fiftyfivegrapes · 31/05/2024 19:48

My dog hates white people ! I think because from a puppy till age 1 he only saw black and brown people so to him white people were different and scary ! Even our vet was black ! He goes mental each time he sees a white person barking and shaking !

This makes sense, I don’t buy the dogs can’t see darker peoples features. It’s more that some dogs in the UK are going to be around mainly white people so some are alarmed at someone different. I’m not surprised to hear it’s the same the other way around.

OP, I’d suggest she keep your dog away from you or keep it on a leash initially. I generally don’t like dogs and when I was younger visiting friends they’ve been happy to put the dog in another room or whatever.

HiFillyJonk · 01/06/2024 01:12

My friend's usually placid border collie was racist - went berzerk around our black friends.

I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it myself.

Arseconono · 01/06/2024 01:06

LazyGewl · 01/06/2024 01:01

Has this been picked up by the DM yet? I can’t wait for their expose on racist dogs.

dogs that read the DM are deffo racist.

Totallybannanas · 01/06/2024 01:04

Is it true dogs are more weary of black dogs? My friend has a black Dane and I'm sure she told me this. Is it to do with their vision or something? There was a reason

LazyGewl · 01/06/2024 01:01

Has this been picked up by the DM yet? I can’t wait for their expose on racist dogs.

IRole · 01/06/2024 00:49

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CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:53

I honestly don't understand the hate against pet corrector?

Because using it on her dog is going to reinforce the issue the dog has with people of colour?

The dog, if indeed it hasn't been exposed to different ethnicities, and does have such an issue, it's first proper exposure in the home is going to be 'pet corrected by person of x ethnicity, of which I already had issue with (for whatever reason'?

It's common sense, really.

Just ignore the dog completely when you go. Don't look at it, talk to it, anything. Just completely ignore. It'll soon come around.

Arseconono · 01/06/2024 00:45

My dog is fine with people - but doesn’t like dark coloured dogs… is he racist?

GrimDamnFanjo · 01/06/2024 00:44

This is true. When I was socialising my pup I had a spreadsheet of people and experiences for him to discover so he'd get used to differing things.
Postmen
Revolving doors
Walking on different textures
People with disabilities
Older and younger people
I almost punched the air with joy when a uniformed delivery man rang the doorbell. He was a Sikh with a turban - bonus points!

TheCryingTheBitchAndTheFloordrobe · 01/06/2024 00:40

I'm surprised people are so shocked by this. I'm from the Caribbean and it's really common there for Black people's dogs to be massively reactive to white people and vice-versa.

XenoBitch · 01/06/2024 00:38

Bunnyannesummers · 01/06/2024 00:37

This is my current dog with French bulldogs. Mortifying. He growls everytime he sees one, one went for him in the street for no reason and he’s hated the breed as a whole since.

My dog is the same with any flat faced breed. I think it is because they can't read them properly, as they don't have proper snout/mouth that they can read.

Saying that, my dog is a greyhound, and she is not that keen on other greyhounds.

ZoeCM · 01/06/2024 00:38

I don't know why people are disbelieving the OP. This absolutely does happen. Dogs have different eyesight from humans. To some dogs, people with darker skin tones look as though they have "shadowy faces", which they find unnerving if they're not used to it. Some of them will also bark at women in niqabs for similar reasons.

Bunnyannesummers · 01/06/2024 00:37

RobertaFirmino · 31/05/2024 23:23

If a dog was actually racist, wouldn't its prejudices be directed towards different breeds? Like a British Bulldog hating on a German Shepherd because of WWII. Or a Jack Russell grumbling about black Labs, saying 'They all look the bloody same!'.

This is my current dog with French bulldogs. Mortifying. He growls everytime he sees one, one went for him in the street for no reason and he’s hated the breed as a whole since.

ClairDeLaLune · 01/06/2024 00:36

BiL’s dog is sexist and hates men.

Neighbours’ dog is cyclistist and hates me because I’m a cyclist! Possibly many on MN would hate me too!

XenoBitch · 01/06/2024 00:33

CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 01/06/2024 00:24

My sister’s dog would bark at black people. It isn’t dog racism, it’s barking at the fear of the unfamiliar (although our old dog was pugist, hated them after he, a 50kg dood, was attacked by an untrained small, snuffling thing on a string).

Our remaining dog is very much not ‘racist’ and adores our black vet from South Africa (he is a frequent flyer with regular blood tests as he has medicated hypothyroidism). His vet says taking his blood is 2 seconds to do the actual blood test, then 5 minutes for cuddles lol.

Ted’s a big, fluffy, gentle bear of a dog who attracts lots of children for stroke and hugs of all creeds and colours.

However, chimneys give him the bloomin’ willies.

My sister's dog is scared to death of the fridge freezer. When they bring shopping home, her dog has to be put in another room.

Dogs are weird, but so lovable.

Margo2023 · 01/06/2024 00:30

Interesting thread. However really baffled at the amount of responses agreeing with the OPs use of the term racist here. Keeping in mind it is a dog.