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Can't visit friend as her dog is racist

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CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 19:15

I was making plans to visit one of my best friends.
She is white and I'm mixed race.

She told me she was concerned as her new dog who i haven't met, is racist.

Anytime he sees a person who is not white he goes mental.

This is honestly not a fake post.

Not sure how to respond. Advice welcome.

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fieldsofbutterflies · 01/06/2024 17:59

qpid5tunt · 01/06/2024 10:49

This is why it's so important for dog owners to socialise their dogs from day one, with all types of people (as well as other animals,) old, young, male, female, disabled, people in uniform, black, white, short, tall etc etc. Would prevent many problems. If dog owners can't be arsed to socialise and train them then they should think twice before getting a dog.

Yep, in an ideal world that's what everyone would do. But in reality, it's not always possible - for a whole variety of reasons.

And even if you do manage it, you can't always prevent negative experiences from causing problems into adulthood.

Deboragh · 01/06/2024 17:57

Theyhadsomehoneyandplentyofmoney · 31/05/2024 19:37

My friend dog goes crazy when she sees tall men with beards.

Yea, I had a dog who was similar, hated strangers with beards, tho didn't have a problem once he got to know them.

RecklessGoddess · 01/06/2024 17:56

It's literally impossible for dogs to be racist, wgst a ridiculous thing to say. Her dog obviously doesn't see many people who are not white, and it probably just scares them because they don't understand what they are seeing!

Panjandrum123 · 01/06/2024 17:55

Our first collie dog was ‘racist’, he used to spend his holidays with my grandparents, they walked him in the nearby park and he would bark at black people. My grandfather was mortified, he loved people.

Our second collie had a thing about people in dark suits, mostly navy and dark brown. He would go mad at the milkman in his navy overalls, but the milkman wasn’t having any of it and they became reluctant friends. On another occasion, our car broke down and an officious policeman came to tell us “you can’t park there”. We tried to explain, all the while the dog was going mad in the back of the car. He threatened consequences if we couldn’t control our dog.

Greenshed · 01/06/2024 17:54

😂😂😂😂. A racist dog? Come on.

Here4thechocs · 01/06/2024 17:50

Iiquidsnake · 31/05/2024 19:21

Have you looked at diversity and inclusion courses for dogs?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
omg !

CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 01/06/2024 17:40

XenoBitch · 01/06/2024 00:33

My sister's dog is scared to death of the fridge freezer. When they bring shopping home, her dog has to be put in another room.

Dogs are weird, but so lovable.

They are! My sister’s dog throws the vacuum & the lawnmower by the wheels so has to be popped into a different room/her house.

Our dog has been in a sulk because the one of the 2 6 month old kittens we’ve just rescued looked at him!

OneTC · 01/06/2024 14:22

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 20:17

Tbf my old dog hated anyone wearing a hat. No idea why 🥴

As someone who wears a hat all the time this is pretty common. And taking your hat off works.

My sister's dog barks every time at my OH who is brown and he ignores pretty much everyone else. He comes round to her very quickly though. He's obviously not racist and is just a bit spun by the difference I guess

bouquetofpheasants · 01/06/2024 14:10

qpid5tunt · 01/06/2024 10:49

This is why it's so important for dog owners to socialise their dogs from day one, with all types of people (as well as other animals,) old, young, male, female, disabled, people in uniform, black, white, short, tall etc etc. Would prevent many problems. If dog owners can't be arsed to socialise and train them then they should think twice before getting a dog.

Perhaps you could organise dog classes with one of each of these people and animals you mention, so that us dog owners can socialise our dogs to your happiness.

bouquetofpheasants · 01/06/2024 14:05

Rubyupbeat · 01/06/2024 11:42

@ChardonnaysBeastlyCat What a silly, silly person you are!

For what?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 01/06/2024 12:29

Rubyupbeat · 01/06/2024 11:42

@ChardonnaysBeastlyCat What a silly, silly person you are!

For pointing out dogs cannot be racist?

OK then.

LazyGewl · 01/06/2024 12:15

BewaretheIckabog · 01/06/2024 08:31

Mine has a picture of Tommy Robinson above his bed and goes to Klan meetings!

😂😂

Rubyupbeat · 01/06/2024 11:42

@ChardonnaysBeastlyCat What a silly, silly person you are!

Rubyupbeat · 01/06/2024 11:41

They are not racist, in the way we would see racism, but if they are not used to seeing black or asian people some dogs will react, out of fear.
Also, my white friend grew up in a very predominantly bengali area, and her dog hated bengalis, because as a puppy she would be tormented daily by bengali kids, spitting at her and throwing things and dogs never forget, it led to her being very reactive to them, they were scared of her once she was fully grown . She was fine with black people.

BewaretheIckabog · 01/06/2024 11:20

qpid5tunt · 01/06/2024 10:49

This is why it's so important for dog owners to socialise their dogs from day one, with all types of people (as well as other animals,) old, young, male, female, disabled, people in uniform, black, white, short, tall etc etc. Would prevent many problems. If dog owners can't be arsed to socialise and train them then they should think twice before getting a dog.

Unfortunately you don’t get that luxury with rescues.

greenpolarbear · 01/06/2024 10:50

buy a white chicks mask from ebay and recommend the dog sign up for the Reform party

qpid5tunt · 01/06/2024 10:49

WittyMcAdder · 31/05/2024 19:20

Dogs that have not grown up seeing types of people, will often be fearful of those types as adults.

e.g. dogs growing up and only seeing white people, are often fearful of black people (also vice versa).

This is why it's so important for dog owners to socialise their dogs from day one, with all types of people (as well as other animals,) old, young, male, female, disabled, people in uniform, black, white, short, tall etc etc. Would prevent many problems. If dog owners can't be arsed to socialise and train them then they should think twice before getting a dog.

Choochoo21 · 01/06/2024 10:45

Dogs pick up on our energy.

If you are in a predominantly white area and you see a black person and feel some sort of way about them, then the dog will pick up on that energy and think there’s something to be wary of.

Some dogs don’t like men and it’s because of past experiences or the owner’s energy changes when men are around.

If these things happened when the dog was young and they’ve not been desensitised to it, then they’re going to stay that way and it potentially get worse.

The best thing you can do is go around to hers and get the dog used to you (do it slowly over time and give it some treats).

Meeting outside on mutual ground and going for a walk with it, will be much easier for the dog than you coming into it’s safe space.

Georgyporky · 01/06/2024 10:37

NDN's dog hates men !

dicokno · 01/06/2024 10:15

I have a friend whose dog barked at every black person they saw. Took a while but she managed to train him not to do it.

I have a man-hating cat. She hisses at every man she sees. I haven't managed to train her not to do it unfortunately.

fieldsofbutterflies · 01/06/2024 09:54

Lots of people are saying it’s down to bad socialisation but it’s practically impossible to expose your dog to everything by the time the socialisation window closes.

Also, you even if you socialise your dog perfectly, they can still have bad experiences and get frightened.

Butterleigh · 01/06/2024 09:04

I once had a misogynist cat 🐈‍⬛

Devilshands · 01/06/2024 09:02

It’s a failure of socialisation and very common. Dogs don’t like things they don’t know and if she hasn’t properly socialised her dog with a variety of people and every day things then she has failed it tbh.

longdistanceclaraclara · 01/06/2024 08:52

My old boy was racist, he was also hatist, glassist, too big flappy coatist, brown shoeist, and a load of other foibles. Horse is the same he's binnist mainly. They're just animals.

tolerable · 01/06/2024 08:51

is this a reverse?yip,yip,yipeeeeeeeee

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