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Can't visit friend as her dog is racist

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CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 19:15

I was making plans to visit one of my best friends.
She is white and I'm mixed race.

She told me she was concerned as her new dog who i haven't met, is racist.

Anytime he sees a person who is not white he goes mental.

This is honestly not a fake post.

Not sure how to respond. Advice welcome.

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BewaretheIckabog · 31/05/2024 19:43

OP I’m sorry nobody is giving you advice but without knowing the dog it’s difficult.

The only thing I would suggest is meeting the dog on neutral territory and seeing how it responds to you.

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 31/05/2024 19:42

tkwal · 31/05/2024 19:36

I'm no expert but I always believed dogs vision was monochrome and not only that but not all white people are pale, skin colours, whatever your race ,skin tone varies

Close - they can see blues & yellows

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 19:41

Honestly, this is not a windup. I said i would like to come visit her. She was enthusiastic but she said, I am worried about my dog. He seems racist as anyone who isn't white - on tv or in person - he goes mental at.

I don't think it's relevant, but she is 'Up North' and i am 'Down South'.

She was 100% genuine in her concern!

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 31/05/2024 19:38

It’s a fucking dog.

it probably has four brain cells and they are all concerned with food, wee and chasing the cat. There really isn’t any more capacity there for anything else.

Dogs react to things they are not used to whether it's skin colour, walking sticks or clothing. My dog went berserk the first time she saw a man pushing a wheelbarrow. They don't have to think it through.

Didsomebodysaysnacks · 31/05/2024 19:40

Remember the racist goose on the news a few years ago?

Anyway, having had a pet that was sexist, a lot of it is just building trust over a prolonged period of time.They've generally had a bad experience with someone that looks like you so are scared. You hear it a lot with beards especially because, to them, people all look pretty similar. If you go slowly and carefully you can help a scared little doggy feel safe.

Personally I'd just file it under not my problem and meet up away from the dog.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 31/05/2024 19:39

Not a wind up, our dog was like this but it’s improved since she has seen black people on tv and things more! But we can’t watch things with animals in it without her going bonkers.

TheSnowyOwl · 31/05/2024 19:39

We had a sexist and beardist dog once. She came from a rescue centre and they had a few long conversations with us about how we had to watch her with men, especially those with bushy beards.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 31/05/2024 19:38

It’s a fucking dog.

it probably has four brain cells and they are all concerned with food, wee and chasing the cat. There really isn’t any more capacity there for anything else.

Whatsmyusername1235 · 31/05/2024 19:38

What the hell have I just read 😂

LoveSandbanks · 31/05/2024 19:38

Grasshopper75 · 31/05/2024 19:23

My rescue dog used to bark at any non white people because she hadn't ever seen them before. She also barked at people in wheelchairs and on crutches etc as it was unfamiliar to her and she felt threatened. She's much better now as we've exposed her to more people, but it's been bloody embarrassing and awkward at times!

My dog went nuts once at a bloke that had no legs in a wheelchair. The time that someone came out of the sea in a wetsuit will be etched on my mind forever. I think she thought aliens had landed.

Flickersy · 31/05/2024 19:38

My dog did this once. Went bonkers barking at some poor man (who was not white) just out for a walk. We didn't live in a multicultural area and obviously the dog didn't come into town with us so she hadn't had any exposure to anyone who wasn't light skinned.

It was absolutely mortifying. Up until that point I hadn't even realised it could even be a thing.

OhmygodDont · 31/05/2024 19:37

Mum has a rescue dog that lived chained to a radiator and beaten if it messed in the house… wonder why.

Dog would go nuts at all Asian people.

Theyhadsomehoneyandplentyofmoney · 31/05/2024 19:37

My friend dog goes crazy when she sees tall men with beards.

JeepJeepJeep · 31/05/2024 19:36

My dalmatian only likes spotty people.

tkwal · 31/05/2024 19:36

I'm no expert but I always believed dogs vision was monochrome and not only that but not all white people are pale, skin colours, whatever your race ,skin tone varies

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 31/05/2024 19:35

Via work, I've visited a place where the big dogs were trained to be racist it transpired.

I heard of another staff member going in with the police and that dog was trained to attack people dress all in black ie police officers - this was years ago

I felt sorry for the dogs and this is why I advocate dog licences where propectiver owners have to sit an exam and if they pass they take a re-test every 5 years or sooner if concerns are reported.

BewaretheIckabog · 31/05/2024 19:35

I had a racist German Shepherd. He got over it when we moved to a more diverse area and had black friends in and out of the house.

I now have a rescue who does not like Pakistani women who dress traditionally. I live in an area with a huge Pakistani population and it is not good.

WineIsAFruitRight · 31/05/2024 19:35

Owner of a racist lab here! Bloody mortifying, especially as my son's best friend is Indian. No idea why!

ActualCannibalShiaLeBeouf · 31/05/2024 19:35

I actually read that dogs don't like other dogs who are black. Something to do with not being able to make out their facial features so can't tell if they're a threat or not. We have a mainly black dog and other dogs always have a go. Unfortunately she's a feisty little thing and gives as good as she gets

scratchyfannyofcocklane · 31/05/2024 19:34

My dearly departed westie was the same. He also barked at anyone wearing a hat! It was very embarrassing...

LatteLady · 31/05/2024 19:34

My granny had a dog who my mother told me always barked at Protestants... this was in Ireland in the 1930/40s, apparently he was beside himself when the Church of Ireland vicar appeared!

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 31/05/2024 19:34

I know someone with a racist dog. Seems to be a thing.

was fixable via food bribery- you could offer to turn up with a whole tub of roast chicken (bones removed) and be the fabulous type of human who just keeps handing over chunks of chuck for no good reason other than making the association in the dogs mind that people of colour are providers of high value treats and worth being lovely to just in case they’ve got a load of spare chicken about their person.

LordPercyPercy · 31/05/2024 19:32

Dogs are totally like this, in both directions depending on what they are used to.

NuffSaidSam · 31/05/2024 19:32

My dog is sexist. And doesn't like people with any kind of headwear so she's also against Muslim women in headscarves and Sikh men in turbans.

Surely, you can meet your friend away from her dog though?

ItNeedsToChange · 31/05/2024 19:31

Moier · 31/05/2024 19:27

My dog hated males.. maybe because she was brought up in a house of females

My dog is exactly the same. Hes 2 and has only ever spent time with me and my 2 DC and my female friends,

Yesterday I had a plumber round and a few hours later my friends partner moved my washing machine for me and both times the dog was hysterically barking at them.

The plumber didnt want to enter my house because he didnt know the dog was in his crate, he was a huge guy too