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Can't visit friend as her dog is racist

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CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 19:15

I was making plans to visit one of my best friends.
She is white and I'm mixed race.

She told me she was concerned as her new dog who i haven't met, is racist.

Anytime he sees a person who is not white he goes mental.

This is honestly not a fake post.

Not sure how to respond. Advice welcome.

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CharlotteLucas3 · 31/05/2024 23:54

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 31/05/2024 19:30

I have read that some dogs can be reactive to people of colour - apparently its because they find their features harder to distinguish/read.

No idea how true it actually is/whether it's a load of racist bollocks or not.

It does make sense…a lot of dogs don’t like black dogs for the same reason.

I’ve got one who loves everyone and one who hates high viz, mobility scooters, border collies, French bulldogs, cats. He was six months old when I got him and he’d missed his socialising window.

DopeyS · 31/05/2024 23:41

There will be very good training guides on how to desensitise dogs to specific triggers. Sometimes it's a negative association, I remember reading about a dog that would go crazy at people in hi-viz vests. He'd been run over by a bin lorry and obviously associated the worker that helped with the pain he'd felt.

Sometimes these things make sense and sometimes they don't. My dog lost his absolute shit barking at a terror out the window which turned out to be a small bucket being blown around the neighbours paddling pool.

He also went insane barking at a snowman at the park, barking and bouncing towards it. Then peed on it and walked off like nothing happened 😂

Theuniversaluseofloafers · 31/05/2024 23:38

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:53

I honestly don't understand the hate against pet corrector?

Right- so the dog is scared of a black/mixed race/darker skinned people.

one of the people he is scared of goes round his gaff- he is scared and reacts with aggression…

and the person confirms to the dog that he is right to be scared of them by doing something horrible and scary to him.

And you think this will stop the dog from being scared?

Theuniversaluseofloafers · 31/05/2024 23:25

Grasshopper75 · 31/05/2024 19:23

My rescue dog used to bark at any non white people because she hadn't ever seen them before. She also barked at people in wheelchairs and on crutches etc as it was unfamiliar to her and she felt threatened. She's much better now as we've exposed her to more people, but it's been bloody embarrassing and awkward at times!

Yep- loads of dogs bark at my wheelchair. They just don’t get it and it freaks them out.

Loads of dogs also hate men or women or children, or people in hats or glasses. I can easily believe some are frightened by people with certain skin tones.

They are creatures with memories and emotions- it isn’t surprising that they develop preferences or fears based on their experiences, both good and bad.

Copperoliverbear · 31/05/2024 23:25

What a load of rubbish

RobertaFirmino · 31/05/2024 23:23

If a dog was actually racist, wouldn't its prejudices be directed towards different breeds? Like a British Bulldog hating on a German Shepherd because of WWII. Or a Jack Russell grumbling about black Labs, saying 'They all look the bloody same!'.

LumpyandBumps · 31/05/2024 23:18

My dog is Postmanist. He doesn’t care what colour they are, or even if they are Post women. He just hates them.

lonelywater · 31/05/2024 23:15

every day really is a school day....

willstarttomorrow · 31/05/2024 23:06

Our elderly cat hates men. She turned up in our garden about 10 years ago- aged around 5 and has never been reclaimed. DH had just died and so it has only been me and DD in her house. When men turn up she is clearly very fearful. She was neutered (not chipped) but had obviously been owned. She was a timid little thing so assume she had suffered some ill treatment she associates with men. Happy to report that our long- term lodger cat now knows she is queen cat of the universe (despite the squillions of foster cats and kittens.....) and we are her slaves.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 31/05/2024 23:02

LakeTiticaca · 31/05/2024 22:03

My cat despises everyone, regardless of race

😀

Ponderingwindow · 31/05/2024 23:01

I have a cat who is the sweetest thing in the world. Put a hat on and she will attack. She is terrified of people in hats and goes into instant assault mode.

we keep her indoors and our heads hat free.

Tiredanddistracted · 31/05/2024 22:57

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:53

I honestly don't understand the hate against pet corrector?

Not hate, per se. I have a can myself which I take on walks just in case my dog is attacked by another.

But as a training tool, it doesn't always work. In your circumstances, the dog will be barking because it is under the mistaken impression that people of colour are to be feared. Pet corrector, whilst not painful, is frightening for dogs. By using it, you'll basically be telling the dog that it is right to fear you and that it should redouble its efforts.

This then means that, best case, it will continue barking at you and other people of colour it meets and, worst case, it could escalate to a bite as it feels you have not heeded its 'stay away' warnings with barking, growling, etc.

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:56

Hermanfromguesswho · 31/05/2024 19:20

My Mums dog is like this also. And also a chihuahua. I don’t know why and didn’t quite believe her till I saw it!

I have a chihuahua. Never had a issue so don't think it's a problem with the breed.

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BrickTraybake · 31/05/2024 22:54

I feel like I shouldn't be laughing as much as I am 😂😂😂

giddy90 · 31/05/2024 22:53

My mums dog hates people with beards. Weird creatures dogs lol

fieldsofbutterflies · 31/05/2024 22:53

AliceOlive · 31/05/2024 22:25

Our old girl, a yellow lab, just would not recognize other dogs unless they were also yellow labs. Occasionally she’d notice another yellow dog, but she just ignored all dogs that were not at least yellow.

That's so funny Grin

My beagle definitely knows other beagles - he gets so excited and sings the song of his people!

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:53

Tiredanddistracted · 31/05/2024 22:50

@CaliforniaCookie just because I know you have a LOT of posts to wade through, in which tediously literal people deliberately misunderstand your wording, wanted to repeat the pleas not to use pet corrector with this dog. It honestly will do far more harm than good in this instance.

I honestly don't understand the hate against pet corrector?

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Tiredanddistracted · 31/05/2024 22:50

@CaliforniaCookie just because I know you have a LOT of posts to wade through, in which tediously literal people deliberately misunderstand your wording, wanted to repeat the pleas not to use pet corrector with this dog. It honestly will do far more harm than good in this instance.

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:46

echt · 31/05/2024 22:44

Dogs cannot be racist FFS. Change your wording, OP.

So if a dog barks at ONLY people of colour, what else would you call it, if not racist??

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echt · 31/05/2024 22:44

Dogs cannot be racist FFS. Change your wording, OP.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 31/05/2024 22:44

cerisepanther73 · 31/05/2024 20:26

@CaliforniaCookie

L.o.l 🤣 is this attempt at being a bit spicy troll 🤔 or a wind up then?

quite perculair real Strange mumsnet thread this one isn't it

i suspose its the weekend and certain ones out there,
get bored and restless and make things up to get a reaction from posters online on websites like this

Just wondering as i am of afro Caribbean British ancestry myself,

Is this one of those yapping small dogs types like Jack Russell ect,

What breed is it then?

Yiked Really hope it's not a a large dog breed like a Rottweiler that's like that then??? !!!

Nah - it's real. I would have thought it a wind up were it not for my friend's dog - not a rescue - with out of control barking at any black man

CaliforniaCookie · 31/05/2024 22:42

Thanks everyone feel less abnormal now having seen all these posts saying it really is a thing about racist dogs. Had an honest chat with my friend about all this and how it made me feel. She is fully supportive and has decided to educate herself on how best to intergarte her dog with people of mixed race heritage before my visit. She didn't truly appreciate this was such an issue until i sent her this post to look at. She's mortified.

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Sleepydoor · 31/05/2024 22:41

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 31/05/2024 19:34

I know someone with a racist dog. Seems to be a thing.

was fixable via food bribery- you could offer to turn up with a whole tub of roast chicken (bones removed) and be the fabulous type of human who just keeps handing over chunks of chuck for no good reason other than making the association in the dogs mind that people of colour are providers of high value treats and worth being lovely to just in case they’ve got a load of spare chicken about their person.

love this

Katbum · 31/05/2024 22:40

i had a rescue that used to bite black males. Not ‘racist’ as that’s a cultural construct dog’s don’t get. But most definitely fearful of a ‘type’ due to whatever had happened before, perhaps no exposure to different races, or perhaps different ethnicities have subtly different scent?

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