11 year old wants ear piercing

Let her get the second lobe done,not the helix because they hurt alot so maybe she could get it done when she's older ,like,e 13 maybe whatever you think.

Also agree that 13 is fair for second piercing. I think I'd say Helix should be older though. Just my opinion. And it should be tied in as a reward for a good school report at the end of the year.

The 2nd lobe is a ear piercing yes ( depending on how fleshy your ear is ) but a cartilige piercing is a world apart

The second lobe id fine imo
The helix is tricky to heal and at 11 I would not recommend tbh. See how she goes with the lobes first and then maybe the helix when she’s a bit older and not doing so much activity/play. I had my helix at 12 and kept sleeping on it and catching it etc.
They do all look lovely though!
Please find a reputable piercer who uses a needle too

Apologies if somebody has said this, but if school has any restrictions on piercings, the helix will heal up really quick if it doesn't have something in it. Also, I seem to remember that after piercing, a stud has to be kept in for longer than 6 weeks, so she wouldn't even be able to get it done at the start of the summer holidays.
For this reason, maybe a compromise could be having the lobes done at 13 then the helix at 16.
That is, ofcourse, if you are minded to offer a compromise.

I think let her get the 2nd lobe piercings and then maybe the other one in a couple of years.

Although really, they're just ear piercings aren't they and she's old enough to look after them. It's awkward. Everyone has just differing views on it.

Well she may want them pierced, you may allow her to have them done. But what is the point at her age as most high schools will not allow her to wear them. 🤔

DD wanted this when she was 13 but we couldn't find a piercer who would do cartilage under 14 and when she turned 14 they wanted to see ID as proof. She now has 2 helix and 2 lobe piercings. She wants more but school only allow one pair of earrings until y10.

There are many lovely ear cuffs /fake helix rings to buy until she's old enough to take care of a helix piercing.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say let her do it.

I have piercings and I love them, plus ear piercing is relatively low risk. She's old enough to understand the importance of cleaning etc.

Years ago I was out somewhere I'd never been before , three girls (about 12yo) came up and said "Can you go with us to get her bellybutton pierced , her Mum says its ok"

I'd never seen these girls , so the Hell was I being their Consenting Adult (before you needed photo ID).
I said "If your Mum says its ok get your Mum to take you"

Seriously , if the school at at all strict about piercings then you might be ok with the 2nd lobes but there's every chance she'll have to remove them at least for PE . DD Secondary was far less strict than Primary . She didn't get her first lobes done till she finished Yr 6 .

Primary School wouldn't allow any piercings at any time . Not even taped .

If you say "OK you can have your helix done" then it could be academic if the schools say "No" and the piercers won;t do it ,

I'd offer a compromise and take her for her nose pierced instead of the helix.

@Kira4 I doubt very much that any piercer will do it for her! I, a granny, took my very tall 15 year old grandaughter to get a second piercing and I had to provide passport at 69 years old for id!! that was just in January!! I told my grandaughter that the helix is actually really sore being done!!

Mine (when I was 31 ish) healed pretty easily too, which surprised me after hearing all the stories about how troublesome they can be! Maybe I was just lucky though, as I don’t recall doing anything specific to get it to heal other than just leaving it alone?

I definitely wouldn’t let my daughter get a helix piercing at 11. Like others on this thread, I had to be very careful not to knock it when hair washing/brushing hair for a while and couldn’t sleep on it for a month or two. My cousin had one this year and almost had to go to A&E as it became infected after 6 months. Luckily, out of hours managed to get it out and it calmed down after a while but they did seem worried for a bit.

I’m not sure how to explain it really but it just doesn’t look right to me for a young girl to have it. A bit like seeing her in high heels, make up etc, a helix piercing just seems too grown up to me for someone in primary school/lower secondary.

I have a fair few ear piercing, my girls had their lobes done at 8/9.

I've told them both I'm not particularly bothered about what else they want - I feel like I can hardly say no with all my holes! They know they will hurt and have to heal so it's their choice imo. I have said I don't like face piercings though, bar a tiny nose stud.

2 girls in my daughter's year 6 class had their belly button pierced at Easter which I was shocked about tbh, I think body piercing is completely different to ears and would definitely not allow that at 11.

My helix has been absolutely fine - it can be uncomfortable to sleep on but I can live with that!

I'd say yes to the second lobe but probably no to the helix at this age. I have a lot of piercings and was young when I had them done but I didn't get anything other than earlobes until I was 14.

My daughter had no problem as a dancer. She does have to cover it (but not her industrial) at work though for food hygiene reasons.

The daith was my first cartilidge , it heals nicely because its tucked away and it really wasn;t painful .
I don't wear ear-pods , you'd have to consider how they fit .

I just had it changed after 2.6 years (so I was happy it had healed )

New tragus is ok but tender , the forward helix is still a little git!

If your daughter’s school doesn’t allow multiple ear piercings, and she has to keep taking a helix piercing out, it will never heal properly and will just keep getting infected - even if she had it done at the start of the holidays, it wouldn’t be anywhere near healed by the time term starts again

This x100
You don't even touch a cartilige piercing beyond gentle cleaning and drying . No twisting or fiddling and certainly no removing . .Some sites suggest 6-12 months to heal a helix so there's a lot of differing advice and a lot deoends on the individual self care .

I would say no. Most schools won't allow it anyway.

@70isaLimitNotaTarget i want my daith done too! Is that as bad to heal? I’ve also got my tragus done and that’s not been easy either.