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People who knock and don't stand visible by the door

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:12

Im not waiting for a delivery or anyone to arrive. I was having nap, Maybe I'm just in a grumpy mood. But why do people do this? Bang on the door/ring doorbell the sender out of view of the eye view thing or camera. Had it just now. Banging the door..ring the bell. Can't see them. I thought it was my husband as allbi could see was side of jumper arm. So I opened the door.

No. It was a delivery driver wanting me to take a neighbours parcel. That's fine. But why hide your self? Happens a lot! we have mNy delivery drivers. Male and female. The female drivers never do this.

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Springchickenonion · 01/06/2024 10:14

No windows. @FarmGirl78 you are right. I'm just exhausted. Insomnia, and working 6 days a week and 4 kids. To have someone banging at the door for a neighbours delivery sent me over the edge yesterday

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Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 10:14

FarmGirl78 · 01/06/2024 09:28

Are they moving to the side so they can see through a window whether you are approaching the door? Every second counts for timed delivery drivers so it's useful to see if anyone is on their way to the door. I see Patients in their own homes and I do exactly the same.

Stop being so grumpy - it's only your own day you'll spoil!

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For me, no, they’d need to step back to see through a window.

FarmGirl78 · 01/06/2024 09:28

Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:23

The doorbell is in the middle high up face height (average height) its just a path. Nothing behind them they need to get away from. They can just step back a little so they are visible. They move to the side out of the way. Literally no reason ti do this.

I am grumpy though. I haven't slept well in ages and was in a deep sleep nap and it woke me up. To have a neighbours package thrusted in my face.

Are they moving to the side so they can see through a window whether you are approaching the door? Every second counts for timed delivery drivers so it's useful to see if anyone is on their way to the door. I see Patients in their own homes and I do exactly the same.

Stop being so grumpy - it's only your own day you'll spoil!

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Springchickenonion · 01/06/2024 08:24

@WonderingWanda I understand that. But my car keeps being broken into. Apart from that I don't look at my doorbell.

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Springchickenonion · 01/06/2024 08:23

Exactly @Myblindsaredown knock. Take a step back. That's it. Not difficult is it. I have always made sure that the person would be able to see who I was when knocking.

I don't stand out of view of the door.

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WonderingWanda · 01/06/2024 08:22

Maybe they don't want to be on camera....in the same way you don't want to speak to people you don't know. I'm sick of all these cameras everywhere recording me and my neighbours being able to keep track of my every move.

Myblindsaredown · 01/06/2024 08:21

I’m with you, I hate this, I can see folks out the side window at the door, but if they stand really close to it, ie noses inches away I can’t, and I can’t fathom why people stand so close to someone’s front door. A lot of delivery drivers do it. Standing all but pressed up against someone’s front door is odd and must feel odd, just stand normally ffs.

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Springchickenonion · 01/06/2024 08:21

@mumda oh I didn't know that was a thing! Thank you

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:24

@mrsm43s fair enough. We get a lot of jehovas witnesses, people selling things etc in my area. I don't want to speak to them. So I look who it is first.

Ask the next JW ones to be put on the list not to visit.

That's that sorted then. Won't stop the Mormons though.

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Springchickenonion · 01/06/2024 08:13

@SoupDragon I have a stupid camera as my car has been broken into twice. I don't particularly like a camera either to be fair.

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SoupDragon · 31/05/2024 22:18

They're not hiding, they're just not bothering to think of the best position to be in.

Or they've picked the very best place to stand in to avoid the stupid camera.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 31/05/2024 21:53

I've never had an eye view thing or s camera. I just open the door. If it were Jehovah's Witnesses or something, I'd politely tell them I'm not interested and close the door again.

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 31/05/2024 21:17

People do this at my door. I don't have a ring doorbell though. My front door is on the side of the house with steps going up. For some stupid reason people like to knock the door & then stand at the bottom of the steps, so I basically have to come out of my house to see who it is. Utterly pointless & drives me mad.

TheDandyLion · 31/05/2024 17:40

StrawberrySquash · 31/05/2024 17:28

But what if it's a tiger?

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Invite him in for tea.

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:40

Fair enough. I'm unreasonable. I accept that.

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:38

I'm not over thinking it. It happens alot.@sophi1995

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rwalker · 31/05/2024 17:37

I work for one of the utilities never even accrued to me to make sure I was in range when I knock on a door

sophi1995 · 31/05/2024 17:37

I doubt he was intentionally hiding from you. You're overthinking this, especially with the "female drivers never do this" comment.

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:34

@KrisAkabusi no out of the way as in out of the way of view. There's nothing to get away from. No flower pots, no fence nothing

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:34

@thedendrochronologist it's not a ring one. Just one from amazon. I don't use it to answer the door. It's more because someone broke into our car twice. I check the peep hole before opening really.

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KrisAkabusi · 31/05/2024 17:33

They move to the side out of the way. Literally no reason ti do this.

There is. You've literally just said why. So that they're out of the way if the door opens outwards or somebody steps outside.

scalt · 31/05/2024 17:33

In the book About a Boy, it's noted that at first, Will looks at empty space when he opens his front door, because his caller (young Marcus) is a good foot shorter than the average hawker selling J-cloths, so he wasn't standing in the right place.

thedendrochronologist · 31/05/2024 17:32

You need to check your ring doorbell. Mine has 180 vision. It's impossible not to be seen on it unless you are Spider-Man.

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:32

@KreedKafer alright love. I have a peep hole too. It's not about the camera. It's about not making yourself visible when your knocking at someone's house when they aren't expecting you!

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Springchickenonion · 31/05/2024 17:31

@scalt no problem with people knocking and normally I just answer but I wasn't expecting anyone/thing and just feeling rubbish and didn't want to deal with anything unnecessary. But they kept knocking and ringing. Neighbour was out. But because my car was there they said I must be have been home... 😐 I would have ignored it if they didn't keep banging

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