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To push ds into claiming

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:44

Ds has just finished uni and never worked through me and ex dp give him £450 a month between us plus I've always bought him the odd thing and gave a bit extra here and there.
Me and his dad are seperated and his dads just received notification that he will now be charged full council tax as ds has finished uni I'm under strain financially. I've told ds he needs to claim universal credit until he finds a job but he keeps saying I want my results first. Am I wrong in pushing him to claim to take some pressure off me and dp. Fwiw he would get around £370 per month as living at home.

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ilovesooty · 31/05/2024 17:04

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

Why hasn't he done this stuff ages ago?

Uncooperativefingers · 31/05/2024 17:04

And stop giving him money each month

Sirzy · 31/05/2024 17:04

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:56

Ds doesn't expect to be kept he does intend to work meaning I trust him to not take advantage.

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But he is taking advantage if he is expecting you to fund him doing nothing all summer.

he needs to be looking for work now, even if it’s something temporary. Both parents need to be clear than funding has stopped now his course has.

RedHelenB · 31/05/2024 17:04

No harm in applying for UC and applying for jobs.

Uncooperativefingers · 31/05/2024 17:04

What is his field? Chances are a MNetter can offer some good career advice.

I think you need to make it clear doing nothing for the next 3 months is not an option

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 17:04

He should know roughly what his results will be unless he was on a very marginal %. It’s usually not a big surprise on results day.

TeaKitten · 31/05/2024 17:03

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

If you are supporting him being unemployed and only applying for jobs in his field then you should carry on paying for it. If you can’t afford it he gets a job like any other adult who likes food.

Strictlymad · 31/05/2024 17:03

No he shouldn’t be applying for uc, he should be applying for job seekers allowance. And treat job hunting like a full time job, shop, bar, pot washing at restaurant. Not sitting about waiting for results. Fwiw when he applies for his degree job the prospective employer will like that that he’s made use of the time, not sat waiting.

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

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Overthebow · 31/05/2024 17:00

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:55

I'm not aware of those

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You’re not aware of any grad schemes? At all? There’s literally hundreds. His uni should have told him about some but usually students also research themselves and make connections during their degrees, do internships etc. the big ones like civil service often have applications in the autumn the year before but there’s lots of applications throughout the year. Most students apply to loads as they aren’t all degree specific. It’s a bit late now though to be honest.

Graciiee · 31/05/2024 17:00

He needs any job right now, he could have a job in days if he actually tried.

LIZS · 31/05/2024 16:59

Where is he studying, are there any seasonal jobs or internships there? Grad schemes are not always open or start recruiting until autumn. If he has a career path linked to his studies has he made any contacts or have relevant work experience ?

Ponderingwindow · 31/05/2024 16:58

Yes, he needs to apply for benefits.

he also needs to treat job searching like a full-time job. It’s reasonable to be searching in his career field for now, but he really should have started before he finished university. Up every morning, researching companies and positions and figuring out where to apply.

The first few applications will be slow, but as he gets into the swing of things they will get faster. Have him save everything in word documents so he can reuse it as appropriate for each different online application.

flamebrick · 31/05/2024 16:57

He'll need to get his finger out if he wants a graduate job for August — the vast majority of schemes will have started recruiting in October/November and will have already made most of their offers. He needs to jump on Gradcracker ASAP as time is not on his side. If he fancies a graduate job and misses the boat for August, it'll likely be another year before he'd start earning (or at best, a January start)

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 16:57

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:55

I'm not aware of those

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No but he will be...

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:56

Bogeyes · 31/05/2024 16:54

Why would he bother claiming or look for a job when you and his father are keeping him in clover?

Ds doesn't expect to be kept he does intend to work meaning I trust him to not take advantage.

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Cadela · 31/05/2024 16:56

He’d have to do and prove 35 hours a week of job searching and attend weekly work coach meetings with uc for very little money, when he could just get a job (any job!) and earn a decent monthly wage.

something2say · 31/05/2024 16:56

The benefits system is clearly for those who just find handouts easier.

Not!!!!

If I needed a job, I could find one today. Fgs stop teaching him to think he can just coast off other people all his life, its atrocious.

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:55

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 16:54

Wait, he’s finished uni? Didn’t he apply to all the grad schemes earlier in the year for an August or September start? He’s a bit behind if not, the next lot of grad schemes are usually for the following year. He may just need to get a job, any job, which shouldn’t be too hard to get or take too long, to tide him over until he finds a decent grad job. UC shouldn’t be an option.

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I'm not aware of those

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Octavia64 · 31/05/2024 16:54

He needs to get a temporary job while he does his graduate applications.

This is completely normal.

Doing applications for graduate schemes takes up a lot of time so many people choose not to do it in their third year and instead get a temporary job - admin, bar work etc - and apply for the next year.

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 16:54

Wait, he’s finished uni? Didn’t he apply to all the grad schemes earlier in the year for an August or September start? He’s a bit behind if not, the next lot of grad schemes are usually for the following year. He may just need to get a job, any job, which shouldn’t be too hard to get or take too long, to tide him over until he finds a decent grad job. UC shouldn’t be an option.

Bogeyes · 31/05/2024 16:54

Why would he bother claiming or look for a job when you and his father are keeping him in clover?

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:52

TeaKitten · 31/05/2024 16:50

How long are you expecting it to take? Bar jobs are easy to come by this time of year.

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I don't know from experience it can be difficult even getting a response in job applications.

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BingoMarieHeeler · 31/05/2024 16:52

He can get 2 months + of bar work, supermarket work etc in his uni accommodation, and that will help him get a job in his next place of residence. Benefits shouldn’t be the default really. Loads can happen in a couple of months - he might decide to work his way around the world, find someone at one job to help him get a job somewhere else, might find his passion, might do anything in that time!

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 16:51

Bar job
Coffee shop
Supermarket

Even if only zero hours, he's got away with not working all through uni. He needs to step up now.