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Lacky301 · 2024-05-31T15:44:21+00:00

Ds has just finished uni and never worked through me and ex dp give him £450 a month between us plus I've always bought him the odd thing and gave a bit extra here and there. Me and his dad are seperated and his dads just received notification that he will now be charged full council tax as ds has finished uni I'm under strain financially. I've told ds he needs to claim universal credit until he finds a job but he keeps saying I want my results first. Am I wrong in pushing him to claim to take some pressure off me and dp. Fwiw he would get around £370 per month as living at home.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 17:12

I think @TeaKitten is spot on.

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Byronada · 31/05/2024 17:12

That's not what this is about it's about ds having some money whilst he sorts his career not a lifestyle choice

What a piss take. Tell him to get a summer job.

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:12

rwalker · 31/05/2024 17:08

You don’t need to push him to claim anything
what you need to do is stop giving him money
I can’t see any reason why he couldn’t get a job to tide him over anything

getting a job can be a very long process you’ll be bank rolling him for months

Exactly which is why I mentioned him claiming universal credit also people on here are saying they can get a job same day but it's not always that straight forward. Also ds has said he will take a random job until he finds one in his field

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ilovesooty · 31/05/2024 17:11

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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He can go and work in an unskilled job while he's sorting his career can't he?

NoTouch · 31/05/2024 17:11

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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He has some money by earning it in a temporary job whilst he sorts out his career.

It is going to look much better on that CV with a job on it rather than employer thinking he is a lazy sod living off mummy/daddy or the tax payer (which seems to be the truth!)

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 17:11

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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Are you joking?

He needs to work while he 'sorts his career'.

Sirzy · 31/05/2024 17:09

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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So he gets a job.

the university town near me has bars and shops looking for staff left right and centre because most courses are coming to an end. He can work and job hunt for his dream job.

TeaKitten · 31/05/2024 17:09

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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The more you post the more you sound like you are just having a nice Friday afternoon mumsnet wind up

wishingitwasfriday · 31/05/2024 17:08

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:51

He wants to use up the rest of his accommodation which he has until August then come home properly.

Then he needs to get a job where he is and earn some money. Supermarkets/bars etc will be looking for staff

rwalker · 31/05/2024 17:08

You don’t need to push him to claim anything
what you need to do is stop giving him money
I can’t see any reason why he couldn’t get a job to tide him over anything

getting a job can be a very long process you’ll be bank rolling him for months

flamebrick · 31/05/2024 17:08

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

Is he in touch with his university careers service? Unfortunately I think this is quite an outdated job-hunting approach in most fields. Many of the big grad employers require applicants to use their own template and don't even take CVs these days. As Overthebow says, he will know roughly what he'll get in terms of results already, even if it is borderline. And even if he genuinely has no clue, many schemes don't have a minimum grade requirement — why doesn't he apply for those?

Sunnysummer24 · 31/05/2024 17:08

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

He is already about 6 months behind in this. He needs to get his finger out and get kind of job because at the moment is isn’t going to look very attractive on the jobs market.

DishOfLeaves · 31/05/2024 17:08

Yes to waiting for his results before applying for a job in his field at this point but also he can get any job he can in the meantime. This whole prepare your CV is bullshit, he wants the summer off and for you to fund it but doesn't want to tell you that. I suggest you cut his money to the tune of the increased council tax amount his Dad is getting charged. He is no longer considered a student so of course a single parent will be charged the full rate.

amijustbeingsuspicious · 31/05/2024 17:08

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

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He can get a job tomorrow to have some money, not benefits.

amijustbeingsuspicious · 31/05/2024 17:07

He can get a bar job to tide him over. Or work in a cafe.

like literally every single friend of mine did a decade ago whilst waiting to get a degree related job. Although tbf a lot of us had thought ahead and had something in the pipeline.

this is not what benefits are for!!!!!

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:07

Byronada · 31/05/2024 17:05

No wonder this country is in a mess. People thinking that those perfectly capable of working should just be given benefits. It's an absolute joke and mugs like me are paying for it.

That's not what this is about it's about ds having some money whilst he sorts his career not a lifestyle choice

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MultiplaLight · 31/05/2024 17:07

I'd be worried he hasn't already got a job to be honest.

Sounds like he's mugging you hard.

Hermittrismegistus · 31/05/2024 17:06

Is this a windup?

Beezknees · 31/05/2024 17:06

Stop giving him money. He is an adult, he can claim JSA.

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 17:06

Byronada · 31/05/2024 17:05

No wonder this country is in a mess. People thinking that those perfectly capable of working should just be given benefits. It's an absolute joke and mugs like me are paying for it.

Yep, it shouldn’t even be an option.

TigerRag · 31/05/2024 17:05

Strictlymad · 31/05/2024 17:03

No he shouldn’t be applying for uc, he should be applying for job seekers allowance. And treat job hunting like a full time job, shop, bar, pot washing at restaurant. Not sitting about waiting for results. Fwiw when he applies for his degree job the prospective employer will like that that he’s made use of the time, not sat waiting.

He can only get contributions based JSA if he meets the criteria. UC replaced income based JSA

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 17:05

What is his degree/field?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 17:05

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 17:02

I've spoken to him and he plans on sorting his CV then applying for jobs in his field but I think he just wants his results before doing anything and to make use of his accommodation as it's paid up until August. I don't want anybody to rely on benefits and I don't for a minute think ds does but I thought it would tide him over

So he wants to loaf about for 3 months at his parent's expense?

I know what I'd be saying to my sons if they thought this was ok.

Not that they would, they worked all through uni to bring a bit of money in as well as studying hard.

Byronada · 31/05/2024 17:05

No wonder this country is in a mess. People thinking that those perfectly capable of working should just be given benefits. It's an absolute joke and mugs like me are paying for it.