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To push ds into claiming

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Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 16:44

Ds has just finished uni and never worked through me and ex dp give him £450 a month between us plus I've always bought him the odd thing and gave a bit extra here and there.
Me and his dad are seperated and his dads just received notification that he will now be charged full council tax as ds has finished uni I'm under strain financially. I've told ds he needs to claim universal credit until he finds a job but he keeps saying I want my results first. Am I wrong in pushing him to claim to take some pressure off me and dp. Fwiw he would get around £370 per month as living at home.

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Castleview6 · 31/05/2024 20:25

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:00

Physiotherapy

Then surely he can walk into a job in the NHS - they are crying out for physios. I assume he’s done placements etc? He could be a health care assistant whilst waiting/ applying - I’m sure agencies would jump at the opportunity.

RuinedBack · 31/05/2024 20:24

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 18:29

Well I'm guessing ds may want some time out after concentrating on his studies for such a long time but in doing that it appears he's earned lazy arse title

Universal Credit is not to give a teenager some time out, that is a ridiculous attitude to have

Besides which, he will have a work coach who will push him to look for work. He will have to attend regular appointments at the job centre and prove how he has been spending 37.5 hours per week looking for work, applying for jobs and attending interviews. Personally, I would rather just get a job!

If he needs some advice then maybe he can take a leaf out of my 17 year old daughter's book. She's at college but wanted a casual job. She created her CV, printed it out and walked around our local towns, dropping it into every business that she passed. By the end of the second day, she had a job

HollyKnight · 31/05/2024 20:23

Also, a lot of Trusts (if not all of them) have rolling job adverts for waiting lists for various HCPs, which includes students who are due to qualify this summer.

Your son should have applied and been on the waiting list for a physiotherapy job already.

amijustbeingsuspicious · 31/05/2024 20:22

Castleview6 · 31/05/2024 20:20

Well done your son. My daughters the same - has been working weekends since she was 15. It’s really good for them and has really helped her overcome social anxiety. She’s doing her GCSEs now and it’s something else for her to think about.

we didn’t give her the choice about ‘finding her feet’ - if you want to live then you need to work. You don’t expect others to pay you benefits when you’re a fit and healthy 21 year old. They are there for people who really need them.

Honestly these posts are heartwarming

Panicking23 · 31/05/2024 20:21

While he's been concentrating on his studies, so has every other student. Most of which have also been working to fund their studies, volunteering in relevant fields and forward planning. Yes, he's perfectly entitled to claim universal credit but he's a major red flag to employers having very little work experience by his age, in comparison to his peers everything screams lazy little mummy's boy and your attitude pretty much confirms it. You're not doing him any favours, he's in for a massive struggle here and needs some tough love.

amijustbeingsuspicious · 31/05/2024 20:21

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:18

I don't think people are listening properly he has worked before uni and I've disclosed his degree.

You are not listening! He can work somewhere locally for 2-3 months until he moves (if he moves). That’s fine. Lots of people want students to cover summer work.

1 events company is not very inspiring is it?!

Cm19841 · 31/05/2024 20:21

Is your son 24? Is this serious?

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:20

Naran · 31/05/2024 20:18

OP this stuff about staying in his accommodation as it’s paid for is a red herring. If he lives at home, the total costs from May til August will be lower - he’ll be sharing meals with you etc.

He wants to have a 3 month summer without doing anything. That is fine - but it is not fine to try and claim benefits to facilitate it, I don’t think.

No he isn't staying with us he's come back temporarily then he back in his uni town until August

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Castleview6 · 31/05/2024 20:20

NeedToStopSpendingOnCrap · 31/05/2024 20:15

What area do you live in approx. Maybe we could all find him a job.
Carer work
Fast food chain
Cleaning
Warehouse

My dc got a job at 16 when at school in a local take away. £4 odd an hour.
He now does hospitality 16 hours a week at £11 so not amazing but along side college. Extra in half term. Doesn't particularly like it but it's a job
He walked around every weekend into the same places until a job was available.

He wouldnt even know UC was an option.

Well done your son. My daughters the same - has been working weekends since she was 15. It’s really good for them and has really helped her overcome social anxiety. She’s doing her GCSEs now and it’s something else for her to think about.

we didn’t give her the choice about ‘finding her feet’ - if you want to live then you need to work. You don’t expect others to pay you benefits when you’re a fit and healthy 21 year old. They are there for people who really need them.

quantmum · 31/05/2024 20:19

Byronada · 31/05/2024 20:06

I was angry when I read this thread earlier. I've now just got home from a 10 hour shift and I'm exhausted. I'm 58 and I've worked for 42 years. I just want to weep at the idea you expect me to find your lazy son. You should be ashamed.

This. Tell him to start supporting himself while waiting for his results - he could get a job in McDonalds or a supermarket or anything - or use his indicative grades to get an assistant physio job or something in an adjacent field. Why should the working population pay for an able-bodied 24 year old hang out for the summer? As his parent, you really shouldn't

Birch101 · 31/05/2024 20:19

He signs up to a temp agency whilst he is applying for his professional graduate roles - that's what I did

Naran · 31/05/2024 20:18

OP this stuff about staying in his accommodation as it’s paid for is a red herring. If he lives at home, the total costs from May til August will be lower - he’ll be sharing meals with you etc.

He wants to have a 3 month summer without doing anything. That is fine - but it is not fine to try and claim benefits to facilitate it, I don’t think.

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:18

I don't think people are listening properly he has worked before uni and I've disclosed his degree.

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Hairyfairy01 · 31/05/2024 20:18

Physiotherapy!!! Most will work shifts as a physio assistant, HCA, sports centres etc whilst on the course (also the normal retail jobs). He should know if he is due to pass. Has he passed all of his placements? All of his assignments and exams to date? The only thing he may be a little unclear on is if he is getting a 2:1 or a 2:2 if he is borderline.

Band 5 rotational posts in the nhs for newly graduated physios have basically gone now. Where has he done his placements? Why hasn't he applied for jobs in those trusts?

HollyKnight · 31/05/2024 20:18

So ds says he doesn't know if he will be getting a job in his uni town or at home as he doesn't know if he's passed yet and would have to quit the job if in his uni town as he's using the accommodation until August

Why does it matter if he has to quit a job? Plenty of jobs have high turnovers in staff. It isn't an issue.

CadyEastman · 31/05/2024 20:16

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:13

So ds says he doesn't know if he will be getting a job in his uni town or at home as he doesn't know if he's passed yet and would have to quit the job if in his uni town as he's using the accommodation until August

Has he not heard of Temp Agencies? Although he'd be lucky to even get one of those jobs if he's never worked at 24.

Holluschickie · 31/05/2024 20:16

As everyone has said, I don't think the taxpayer should be funding your son's quarter life crisis.

Castleview6 · 31/05/2024 20:16

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:09

He's signed up with a events agency I've already stated this.

When did he do this? If they’re not offering work he needs to spread the net a bit wider. He can put together a CV in an hour and have applied for jobs tonight. I’m fairly certain he’d have interviews and offers on Monday if he’s just looking to get a job to tide him over.

again, what’s his degree in? Or is there a reason you’re not answering this question? It’s relevant both in terms of hours in Uni and future job applications.

NeedToStopSpendingOnCrap · 31/05/2024 20:15

What area do you live in approx. Maybe we could all find him a job.
Carer work
Fast food chain
Cleaning
Warehouse

My dc got a job at 16 when at school in a local take away. £4 odd an hour.
He now does hospitality 16 hours a week at £11 so not amazing but along side college. Extra in half term. Doesn't particularly like it but it's a job
He walked around every weekend into the same places until a job was available.

He wouldnt even know UC was an option.

HollyKnight · 31/05/2024 20:15

He probably doesn't want to apply for UC because he would have to prove that he is looking for work. As he does not want to look for work yet it is not really appropriate.

Lacky301 · 31/05/2024 20:13

So ds says he doesn't know if he will be getting a job in his uni town or at home as he doesn't know if he's passed yet and would have to quit the job if in his uni town as he's using the accommodation until August

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TruthorDie · 31/05/2024 20:13

Area = arse!

TruthorDie · 31/05/2024 20:12

I voted you are unreasonable as he’s 24 and never had a job. He needs to look for a job, rather than sitting on his area with everyone else paying for him

coupdetonnerre · 31/05/2024 20:12

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caringcarer · 31/05/2024 20:12

Overthebow · 31/05/2024 18:12

It’s not new, it was like that when I graduated 14 years ago and it had been around long before that. We had a well established careers fair for the grad schemes at my uni every year and everyone applied for the grad schemes from the autumn before graduating and throughout the year. I think it was called milk round before my time at uni.

It was milk round. I graduated over 35 years ago and attended and applied for jobs on the milk round in my final year. Me and most of my friends had jobs lined up after graduation because we applied in our final year.

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