Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

@Branwells77 Why isn’t the kitchen clean and tidy in the first place and the Bathroom should always be clean too.

Although I definitely would change sheets, this is the sort of comment that drives me mad about these cleanliness threads. Can posters not conceive that people’s lives are busy and their homes are lived in? Things aren’t spick and span all the time.

It would 1000000% need changed.
If you're having guests in quick succession, just have a second clean set ready and waiting to go on so you're not waiting for the used set to be washed and dried.

yes my male husband and I have discussed this before. He also agrees with partner A and thinks used sheets are revolting

I am like partner A. but for the record if for some reason you only have time to do one, clean sheets are more important than a tidying blitz around the house. People will see through a bit of surface mess, but it is absolutely disgusting to sleep in someone else’s sheets

Not changing bedsheets between guests is the equivalent of using someone else's toothbrush. The thought is excruciating.

I don’t really see how it’s different to sitting on a train for a long period where a previous person has been sat with their greasy hair.

Planes, and often trains in first class, have disposable anti-macassars (probably not called that these days) for this very reason, and they get changed (though possibly not every journey.)

Most people would agree that a tidy up is necessary.

Absolutely EVERYONE should change bedding between guests - even the crustiest student.

Partner B is either being economical about what his their family said, or else their family are grim

Would Partner B be happy in sleeping in the bed that their guests had slept in for one night?

B is clearly the man, typical

I know. It’s revolting.

this is a great idea!

Partner B clearly was not raised right. Entire family needs basic education on hygiene.

I would just make it clear to your guests the situation I.e. as they head to bed say "I told H to give you clean sheets, but he said you were fine sleeping in the ones that dirty Derek slept in last week; that certainly wouldn't be my preference, so let H know if you'd like some clean ones and he'll sort that for you now."

Or, if you're away when the friends stay over, next time you see them tell them"sorry I was working when you stayed over, I was horrified to learn that H didn't give you any clean sheets to sleep in, or towels to use, he promised he'd sort it before your arrival."

I imagine with those kind of comments, you'll either shame H into doing the laundry needed, &/or people won't want to stay at your place in future - win!

I guess I’m pretty laid back. I don’t freak out about sitting on a well used train. Likewise, I would happily sleep in a friends lightly used bedsheets.
But…I do like the house to look clean and tidy (but lived in) - when we have guests.

I have so little space in my kitchen that if I leave washing up by the sink instead of in the dishwasher, I’ve got no room to make a cup of tea!

I'm worried by the 7% who think that it's fine for guests to sleep in someone else's dirty sheets!

I don't think you're helping your argument 😂 I don't want to feel like my bed in my friend's house is a dirty train seat or peed on park bench.

But I do disagree with most people on the first point – if visitors are frequent and close to you, I think it's ok if your house looks a little lived in.

I’m going to go massively against the grain here.
Most people when they stay over at another persons house wear some form of PJ’s. So whilst I do always change bedlinen…I don’t really see how it’s different to sitting on a train for a long period where a previous person has been sat with their greasy hair.
Or trying on clothes in a shop.
Or sitting on a sofa someone’s had there feet up on.
Or sitting in a park bare legged where a dog had probably pee’d.
Chill out a bit people - it’s not the end of the world to lie in sheets that have been slept in.

Surely dishes stacked in the dishwasher are as dirty as dishes stacked by the sink. It's just about presentation (which I don't doubt is important to an extent), not really hygiene or cleanliness.

You were obviously Partner A because you said "house should be generally tidied". Partner B would say house made gleaming. Honestly if your guests are very frequent plus close to you I think it's fine to leave your house as is or a little bit messy (not a total pigsty obviously). However of course bedsheets should be changed!

Partner B is grim. YES you need to change bed linen between guests! Imagine going to a hotel and they’ve just kept yesterday’s bed linen on because the previous guest only stayed one night?! Vile.
and I mean… I’d want to be keeping basic standards of cleanliness and tidiness in my home, not dishes piled high!

I think if his family are staying regularly (for example) then he may well be right that they don’t care. Generally though it’s not nice to sleep in bed with unchanged sheets that someone else used first and agree most people would prefer not to.

I don’t think you need to be immaculately tidy and I wouldn’t really do more for a friend or family member staying than I do for myself tidying wise

The house should be tidy, but I would say it depends on the guests notion of tidy!

Once one person/pair has slept in a bed NO-ONE ELSE sleeps in it until the sheets are changed! You presumably know what washing powder you use and could tell a guest if they asked. If you haven't changed the sheets since the last guest you MUST be able to tell the next guest, every washing product, hair care product, make-up, skin cream, medicine, oil, perfume etc the last guest used, in case of allergies - it's stupid. Just stop being disgusting and lazy and change the sheets!

Partner A is right, Partner B is a minger.

@archer240200

they will care and think you’re gross if you don’t change the sheets, end of.