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Why don't women with kids force the dads to have them 50% of time?

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DontCheetoTheCheetah · 31/05/2024 11:43

Disclaimer: I dont have kids and dont want them so prepared to accept my POV might be odd but...

...Just read a thread where a woman was talking about disputing maintenance costs with her ex and mentioned he never has his kids overnight, adding that its his choice.

Why wouldn't you just force them to have their kids? Im think if I were a mum I'd quite like to have half my time to just chill and have some downtime without my children? Or is it that when you have kids you cant bear to be wthout them?

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Usernamewassavedsuccessfully · 31/05/2024 11:48

I didn't have a much longed for child to foist her on a disinterested twat. And I would rather spend time with my child than anyone else on the planet. Luckily, she does not want to spend time with him and you are not in charge of policy making.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowItHaveAGin · 31/05/2024 11:48

DontCheetoTheCheetah · 31/05/2024 11:47

If they can't look after their own kids, I would report them for child neglect

The kid isn't neglected though, because mum is looking after them, so how would that work?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 11:48

Why doesn't anyone without a job, force an employer to employ them?

Why doesn't anyone without a partner, force someone to be with them?

I mean it'd be just as easy as forcing a parent to be with their child if they didn't want to be.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowItHaveAGin · 31/05/2024 11:47

🤣🤣 what would this forcing look like?

Drop the kid on their doorstep and run?

Back in the real world, you can't force anyone to parent.

Original poster
DontCheetoTheCheetah · 31/05/2024 11:47

If they can't look after their own kids, I would report them for child neglect

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IncognitoUsername · 31/05/2024 11:47

Presumably you mean if parents are not together?
I’ve always spent more time with DS than DH has as he’s the main earner so is out of the house more. Just like I do more of the housework etc as it’s hard for DH to do half when he’s not in the country.

LordBummenbachsMagnificentBalls · 31/05/2024 11:47

Are you suggesting women leave their young children standing on a doorstep, ring the bell and run away? How do you force someone to have children when they do not make themselves available?

Barrenfieldoffucks · 31/05/2024 11:47

How? Pretty sure 1000's of mothers would love to know.

Theimpossiblegirl · 31/05/2024 11:47

If it was that easy to get some fathers to be involved with family life there would be fewer divorces.

YomAsalYomBasal · 31/05/2024 11:46

Because if I don't want to spend time with him, why would I force my kids to? It's in their interests not to.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 31/05/2024 11:46

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

ConflictedCheetah · 31/05/2024 11:46

How would you do that exactly? Force someone to have the kids? Drop them on his doorstep and hope he's home every week?

SweatyRubble · 31/05/2024 11:45

😂

Thank god you've suggested that - I've been wondering how to get him to see them more.

Obviously it wouldn't work because:
A) how the hell do I make him open the door to them
B) I'm certain it wouldn't be in their best interests to stay with someone who is being forced into looking after them.

But then you knew that and are just goady.

Allfur · 31/05/2024 11:45

Some mums want the kids to themselves surely

Nigellasstickytoffeepudding · 31/05/2024 11:45

And how would you force them pray tell?

TheTimeTravellerswifeisaFraser · 31/05/2024 11:44

Thanks for the laugh OP.