I am now aware that this should have happened sooner. I have been in my current relationship for 4 years. In the beginning things were amazing my partner was my best friend. I understand in a relationship you make compromises and I have done that. Problem with that was I'm was trying to set boundaries way too late. My partner has lived with his grandparents since we met. He came to visit weekly and I was always ok with it. A lot of things he did I was uncomfortable with, but I never spoke up about it until a couple months ago.
The very things that I have asked him not to do he continues to do. So we don't argue I sometimes just say nothing. The past 4 weeks I have had very bad nausea so I'm not able to do much. I'm not sure when he's coming or when he's leaving I just would like to know. Today I really haven't been feeling well so I asked if he was visiting today if so could he come tomorrow... I was so very wrong for thinking that was a harmless thing to say. He asked me why and I told him why. Then he began raising his voice and swearing at me. I let him know I did not want to argue and he kept going. I got upset because I usually let him come whenever he wants, but with me being sick and not really having much time to myself I figured I could just ask him to come a day later.
Sadly this is not the first time. He recently suggested moving in and I told him how that would not work for us at the moment. He got upset with that as well Just a little more info I pay all the bills, do all the cooking etc. some days I just wanna lay and do nothing. The conversation ended with him telling me that I can have all the time I need and to not call/text him. The only reason I asked him to come a day later was just to relax and have some alone time. We would have still talked on the phone, but he didn't want to hear that.
After first I was angry that he responded that way now I'm thinking I'm crazy and walking away from this relationship to focus on me and my baby is what's best.