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Bringing a SEN child to an expensive holiday

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sandygrapes · 30/05/2024 18:16

That is known for being good with children and families. It's not an adult only or 'popular with adults only'

H thinks we can't go there with him because people pay too much £££ to be disturbed like that

Thing is, he is non verbal and noisy, that's true. He shouts and makes loud stimming noises when both happy and upset/frustrated

But, I have noticed sadly that even though he is loud and obviously incredibly unusual in his behaviours for the average passer by, I often see I act 10 times more respectfully and cautiously than those of other DC, who don't obviously have his care needs and are just being DC. They're often allowed to do stuff I just wouldn't allow in public like running about and getting in peoples way without apology

His favourite thing is food and water/swimming! He would love it

We usually go away in cheaper places and have been surprised that we keep finding AI's with little to NO English people and found the Spanish/Greeks and Turks incredibly accepting and just very 'live and let live'. You get a feel they aren't always looking or shocked. That type of thing which is quite common back home in the UK

AIBU to think we should take him despite all the noise?

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hilbil21 · 30/05/2024 18:26

My son is autistic so it wouldn't bother me (although he's verbal and doesn't vocally stim), but I have a friend who has a son who is quite loud and I know she's very conscious of disturbing people in other rooms who are trying to sleep etc - she's going to opt for a villa instead.

MidnightPatrol · 30/05/2024 18:25

I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at this OP.

TBH I think in any family-orientated hotel people would be quite relaxed.

Go and enjoy your holiday!

Littlebitofsomething · 30/05/2024 18:23

Yes if self catering, possibly not if a hotel as it sounds like your husband wouldn't be comfortable.

sonofrageandlove · 30/05/2024 18:23

this would disturb my peaceful holiday plans BUT Anyone who would be bothered by this should go to an adults only hotel. Which is what I would do. So it’s fine!

PinotDragon · 30/05/2024 18:22

He has as much right to an expensive holiday as the next person. End of. If you can afford it you go and other people be damned. He will no doubt be less intrusive that a group of drunken hen/stag parties would be!

CelesteCunningham · 30/05/2024 18:21

If he'll enjoy it, and you'll enjoy it, then of course! Go for it.

If it will just be a stressful experience for you then don't, but anywhere that markets themselves at families with children should be more than suitable.

Littletreefrog · 30/05/2024 18:21

You have as much right to be there as everyone else. Unless it is a designated 'quiet' hotel whivh I very much doubt then crack on and enjoy yourselves.

sandygrapes · 30/05/2024 18:20

Sorry, forgot to add - The place I am thinking of IS, as far as I know, very popular with English families

It's in Greece

Again I hate to bring stereotypes in, but I find the English (I am English) quite different to say Spanish people - My mum is from Andalusia and people are just more... chilled about kids and loud noise as a whole?

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R41nb0wR0se · 30/05/2024 18:18

Definitely take him! He has as much right to a good holiday as any other child!