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To end this friendship

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whoopdedooo · 30/05/2024 18:06

I recent had a big falling out with a friend.

Her behaviour was appalling and was directed at my child, needless the to say due to that the relationship was done immediately.

There is a mutual friend who is aware of the situation and all the details of what happened and who has continued to see me and other person.

Mutual friend is a very nice person and our children play nicely together.

However I'm struggling to get past the fact that she has made excuses for the other person following their behaviour towards my child and has continued to spend time with a person who assaulted my child.

As nice as she is I don't think I can continue to be friends with her. While it's nice to say I don't expect people to choose sides in this situation I actually do.

I'm very hurt but what happened and this may be clouding my judgement. AIBU?

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whoopdedooo · 30/05/2024 18:16

The other person physically assaulted my five year old leaving my child terrified and resulting in the police being involved

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whoopdedooo · 30/05/2024 18:14

She's a nice kind person, and we have play dates now and then. We're not best friends by any stretch but do see each other a lot on the school circuit.

Initially I was understanding of her position as it's all very awkward but after having a few weeks to think about it I actually don't think we can all be friends individually.

I am still absolutely raging inside about what has happened and I don't like feeling like I'm potentially being reported back on and that she finds that type of behaviour acceptable.

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TeaKitten · 30/05/2024 18:10

What did the ex friend do?

Kitchenwitchery · 30/05/2024 18:09

I don't think it's possible to comment unless you give an idea of what the other person did to your child. There a big difference between for example hitting the child or giving her astern telling off.

HeadacheEarthquake · 30/05/2024 18:09

There's two sides to every story...

purpleme12 · 30/05/2024 18:08

People will often not choose sides and will often continue to hang out with people who haven't done anything to them.

I can see where you're coming from.

On the other hand, is it worth losing the friendship for? I guess I'm wondering if you're bothered about staying friends with her

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