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Sleeping arrangements at childminders

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Dinoswearunderpants · 30/05/2024 15:46

Hello

I'm trying to work out AIBU here. My DS is 3 and when he sleeps at the childminders, he sleeps in his buggy.

I've never particularly liked this arrangement but there are several kids (within the ration limits) who also sleep in their buggies so I haven't said anything.

The childminder told me the other day that my DS soiled his self whilst asleep. She explained she was in the garden with other children (who we not sleeping) and didn't get to my son in time.

She said he was calling for her when she did come in to check on them. I don't know how long they were left alone to sleep but it has to be for some time as he's usually pretty good with his toilet training.

It makes me sad thinking my poor DS was calling for help and she wasn't there. I didn't say anything as I just wasn't sure what to say but now thinking about it (she told me 2 days ago) I'm really annoyed.

We won't see her for three weeks now due to holiday but should I bring it up when we return?

It's that awkward situation as I know my son is very happy there. She does generally care for them very well but this sleeping situation just doesn't feel right.

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SleepingStandingUp · 30/05/2024 16:01

Could she hear him from outside but was too busy to come or didn't hear him until she wandered inside? I mean od put my little ones down for a nap and then be in a different room to the with the other kids, or in the garden if I could hear so I think it's
A. Could she reasonably hear them?
B. How often was she checking on them?
C. Could they get out the buggy and this what trouble could they get into unsupervised?

HaveSomeIntrospect · 30/05/2024 16:00

Legally, the childminder must be able to hear or children at all times. Even when they are asleep.
it is a legal requirement as per the eyfs. I was an outstanding childminder for 13 years, until very recently. The childminder should be using baby monitors when the children are asleep and she cannot see them.

MabelMaybe · 30/05/2024 15:56

A childminder setting is supposed to replicate home life. If you had a baby sleeping and older siblings at home, you'd have similar things happening too. My gut reaction is that if you have more than one child, sometimes they both need you at the same time. My DC is older but babies sleep in their buggies at our CM too, outside if dry enough.

What did she say to you? Where would you prefer your DC slept if the CM also has older children woh want to be outside.

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Dinoswearunderpants · 30/05/2024 15:55

AmelieTaylor · 30/05/2024 15:54

It's not ideal, especially for a 3 year old (not SO bad for babies) & I wouldn't like it, BUT it's pretty common and to me, it's not enough to move him from a childminders he's happy with.

He's 3, does he need to nap there??

Yes he does need to nap. He still very much likes his sleep.

So you think it's fine for him to be left alone in the house whilst she's outside with others?

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AmelieTaylor · 30/05/2024 15:54

It's not ideal, especially for a 3 year old (not SO bad for babies) & I wouldn't like it, BUT it's pretty common and to me, it's not enough to move him from a childminders he's happy with.

He's 3, does he need to nap there??