To hate having stupidly small breasts?

Also completely flat chested but 🤷‍♀️. It's my body. It's healthy. It grew two children.

I think you need to re frame your thinking and tell your oh to keep his secret desires secret.

I agree with those who said he chose to marry you and I am sure he loves you as you are. You need to love you as you are. We are so much more than a cleavage. My best friend has relapsed breast cancer. You only get one life to enjoy.

And just what would Dolly say if she knew some man was comparing her to his wife? She would not stand for it. Channel your own inner Dolly.

Also, I think encouraging surgery as a solution to a person who is self-harming is actually scary.
I'm sorry you and daughter are bullied for something totally out of your control. People are cruel sometimes x

All that beautiful lingerie is also not usually available in anything as small as an A-cup, either. (For which my bank manager is probably grateful.)

OP, where is your self-love? You will never believe that your husband loves you for you, unless you do yourself. Are you really saying that a man who chooses a woman because of the size of her chest is someone that you would want to be with? Someone that shallow? It is normal for men to look at other women, it's your interpretation of this and reading all sorts of self-critical statements into it that is the problem. Toxic shame finds lots of dark nooks and crannies where it breeds and festers; this really has nothing to do with your bust and everything to do with your relationship with yourself; invest in that and I guarantee this issue will lose its power over you. I hope one day you find some peace.

What?! You're extremely lucky.

All the beautiful lingerie is never available in anything bigger than an E cup. Even as a size 10 I had FF boobs.

The loud and clear message is that only tiny women are deserving of pretty things.

As you get older small breasts come into their own I think. Larger ones start going down, and down...😬

Gp won't be able to help at all.You need ro research a reputable breast surgeon then get a consultation.

I was feeling insecure at one point. I have B cups now after breastfeeding, with stretch marks and loss of elasticity.

I searched on Reddit to see if anyone else felt them same. Half the results for saggy boobs and small boobs were NSFW results.

Now of course, you shouldn't base your self worth on explicit content. But the point is, there's a thing for everyone.

There is someone who would kill to be with a woman with your body. There are men who love A-cups and prefer them to larger boobs.

In relationships we're not all perfectly distributed. So, maybe you've been with men who prefer medium-larger boobs and were told that that is the only way by to be desirable. It's not true.

People have mentioned celebs already, and models.

Small boobs are super chic. I bet you look great in polo necks and all sorts of stuff that most women can’t wear.

I have small boobs and love them.

Plenty of men do prefer small boobs. It's about what size is in fashion and personal preference.

I used to have very tiny breasts (barely an a cup) and then went up to a D cup while breastfeeding. My boobs didn't shrink back and after breastfeeding I was left with what to me feels like big boobs that are super saggy :( I'd absolutely love to be flat chested instead.

But there's more important things. Rock your flat chested look - I'm sure you can look fabulous! Look at Keira Knightley.

If you get a breast augmentation do it for you noone else.
I had one and never looked back.

I would swap my 32F middle aged saggy, droopy boobs with armpit boob overspill in a heartbeat with you op. I hate them. They mean that I often have to buy clothes bigger than I really need to accommodate them. I have to buy expensive bras to fit them and still be comfortable. The grass is not always greener.

As people have said, sometimes self-acceptance is so out of reach that fixing 'the thing' is easier. I could list all the merits of small boobs, analyse whether large breasts are more attractive, and why we are obsessed with being viewed as sexually attractive, but if you are at the point of scratching your body I think proper therapy is probably needed. Your husband isn't helping this - does he know how sensitive you are about your breast size?

I feel exactly the same way as you OP.

Unless they've had implants, by your mid 40s (especially after kids) most women's big boobs don't look like the ones in porn/the media. I'm a 34E- sounds great? But they're riddled with stretch marks, very droopy, my nipples hang to my stomach and they're a weird shape- I have underarm boob fat but the top of the them are all thin and crepey 😂

I'm so sorry to read that you have been so low about this. I'm usually a proponent of self-acceptance but in your case (with the depth of distress this is causing), I wonder if surgery might be the best option. Only you will know. I would suggest going to an empathetic GP and explaining what you've said here. It may be possible to get a referral for surgery. Alternatively, why not have a consultation with a surgeon and just get information. Many private hospitals offer payment plans so that may be doable IF you decide the benefit outweighs the risk. You deserve to feel beautiful and sexy (not that I'm saying big boobs are in any way required for this).

I was self-conscious about my small boobs for years but ageing and a bit of weight gain has made them grow and I do love them now. However, despite my efforts at body-acceptance, I find myself considering labiaplasty! I don't know if I'll do it yet but I'm dating and I know the asymmetry I have there makes me self-conscious. Life is short and I sort of feel like if there's something I can do to make me feel confident enough to live more fully, I should go for it. It's a complex thing and very much depends on the individual. Good luck x

The OP has explained that she isn't slim. Small breasts are one thing on a slender frame, but on an average frame it's a different story, so the 'lovely clothes' won't necessarily look better on her than on a larger breasted woman.

Tbf, you do have one massive tit. Your bloody husband.