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Wedding colour

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MRTvw · 29/05/2024 22:23

My brother in law (husbands brother) and his future wife are requesting that the family wear a particular colour in the wedding to match the bridal party.

I find it weird to be told I have to wear a certain colour, it's green which I don't ever wear and isn't part of my usual style / palette. I'm also confused as to why I have to be told what to wear why can't I wear what I want? The more I'm being told I need to wear green, the more it's annoying me.

Does anyone else relate? I know it's their wedding but they can't dictate what colour people wear surely? Never did that in my wedding. Just wanted people to be comfortable

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DPotter · 29/05/2024 22:37

Well my Mum and Grans would be mortified about wearing green to a wedding - meant to be unlucky. Someone did explain the superstition behind this but I've forgotten sorry.

I presume the men will wear a green tie with standard suits, so could you wear a dress with green scarf and bag ?

I personally find it very rude to ask someone to wear a particular colour / style especially if its not their usual as you will have to buy something you'll never wear again as it's not your thing.

Downgrade the present !

Abigaillovesholidays · 29/05/2024 22:32

It can be hard trying to find the right dress as it is without being limited to a colour!

Ponoka7 · 29/05/2024 22:31

It's for the photos. However it's common among some people from countries in Africa. There's a lot if sage about if a strong green isn't your colour. Don't be the odd one out on the family pictures.

Beautifulbythebay · 29/05/2024 22:30

We had very very few at our wedding.. As in dc and a couple of mates.. We all wore black and white. It was great! Except 1 who turned up with uninvited dc. 1 wearing a fuschia pink dress...

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 29/05/2024 22:27

I’m really sorry you’re related to such ridiculous, entitled wankers!

these kind of people really need to get over themselves

takealettermsjones · 29/05/2024 22:26

I mean, there are lots of nice shades of green. They're not asking you to wear neon!

They're trying to include you, make it clear you're family, make a nice colour palette for photos etc.

Why not just humour them?