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MRTvw · 2024-05-29T21:23:17+00:00

My brother in law (husbands brother) and his future wife are requesting that the family wear a particular colour in the wedding to match the bridal party. I find it weird to be told I have to wear a certain colour, it's green which I don't ever wear and isn't part of my usual style / palette. I'm also confused as to why I have to be told what to wear why can't I wear what I want? The more I'm being told I need to wear green, the more it's annoying me. Does anyone else relate? I know it's their wedding but they can't dictate what colour people wear surely? Never did that in my wedding. Just wanted people to be comfortable

YorkNew · 31/05/2024 17:46

This wouldn’t bother me.

showerjelly · 31/05/2024 17:43

Todaysthedayhey · 31/05/2024 06:00

They’re clearly trying to have a theme at their wedding, and you’re part of the close family! So it’s being inclusive.
it’s one day.. their day… I would just do it.

More fool you!

They're getting married, they don't own the day or the guests.

Commonsense22 · 31/05/2024 17:43

It's weird and entitled of them but just a symptom of the instatiktok generation. They see these trends, mostly from the US, with super staged pictures online and want to replicate the moment.

Quitelikeacatslife · 31/05/2024 17:40

If probably be eye rolling like mad , and there are many many shades of green that don't go at all with each other, so won't even look co ordinated . But then again if you wear a pink dress you will stand out as someone who doesn't give a shit and I couldn't do with that drama. If you were going to wear something you already had at least go for netural (black , cream etc with green accessories

DeedlessIndeed · 31/05/2024 17:11

I'd be a bit annoyed but probably see if I could make-do with some complementary accessories?

I don't go to a lot of weddings or formal occasions, but have one or two classic, good quality "wedding guest appropriate" dresses that suit me and I can accessorise well.

It'd annoy me to have to go out and buy or rent something new to me, when I likely wouldn't wear it again (and I had dresses in the wardrobe that could easily be used).

Saying that, I appreciate some people do buy a new outfit for every occasion and probably don't even think of the inconvenience.

RampantIvy · 31/05/2024 17:05

NewName24 · 31/05/2024 16:16

Can't say making people feel uncomfortable in a colour they don't like wearing, or making people have to go out and buy something new when they already have clothes in their wardrobe, is 'being inclusive'. It's more like asking people to be props in a photoshoot.
Rather than the normal way of asking the photographer to record what happens on the day. So in a normal wedding, many people enjoy sorting out their outfit and turning up to celebrate the wedding of two people they love, rather than being asked to fit in to some kind of set up photoshoot.

Absolutely this ^^

Marblessolveeverything · 31/05/2024 17:02

@Alwaysalwayscold eh marriage is a legal contract - the religion is pic n mix on top.

Alwaysalwayscold · 31/05/2024 16:56

Weddings used to be fun. Now they're just bullshit and most of the people having them aren't even religious.

MartinsSpareCalculator · 31/05/2024 16:51

There would be not a single hope of me doing that. If you're not in the wedding party you wear whatever you want.

I'm a grown arse woman and have been capable of choosing my own outfits for several decades now.

NewName24 · 31/05/2024 16:16

Can't say making people feel uncomfortable in a colour they don't like wearing, or making people have to go out and buy something new when they already have clothes in their wardrobe, is 'being inclusive'. It's more like asking people to be props in a photoshoot.
Rather than the normal way of asking the photographer to record what happens on the day. So in a normal wedding, many people enjoy sorting out their outfit and turning up to celebrate the wedding of two people they love, rather than being asked to fit in to some kind of set up photoshoot.

Todaysthedayhey · 31/05/2024 06:00

They’re clearly trying to have a theme at their wedding, and you’re part of the close family! So it’s being inclusive.
it’s one day.. their day… I would just do it.

showerjelly · 31/05/2024 05:56

worcesterpear · 30/05/2024 21:08

I'd just go along with it to keep the peace, there are lots of options as in shades, prints including green amongst other colours, and just wearing green accessories with a neutral colour outfit. The only wedding I've been to where dress was stipulated was a certain historical period, but no-one took it seriously apart from a select few - most just had an accessory if that.

This is why people do this nonsense, because people go along with it to keep the peace.

worcesterpear · 30/05/2024 21:08

I'd just go along with it to keep the peace, there are lots of options as in shades, prints including green amongst other colours, and just wearing green accessories with a neutral colour outfit. The only wedding I've been to where dress was stipulated was a certain historical period, but no-one took it seriously apart from a select few - most just had an accessory if that.

NewName24 · 30/05/2024 21:02

Perhaps you could wear an outfit that you would like to wear, and get one of those luminous green training bibs to put on over the top for her photo palette ?

Or you and dh turn up in Irish rugby tops or football shirts and say that was the only green you have ?

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MRTvw · 30/05/2024 09:30

Thank you all for the responses. Glad I'm not going crazy here!

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Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 30/05/2024 08:11

I think it’s dickish behaviour.
What have the men to wear?
Green suits?
I agree with others buy a cheap green scarf and wear that.
Unless you can find a cheap green blouse or something.

Toooldforthis36 · 30/05/2024 08:08

“Lovely idea, however I’m so excited I’ve already bought my outfit and it’s in a different colour”

RampantIvy · 30/05/2024 08:06

Whatineed · 30/05/2024 06:35

A few years ago one of my team members got married and even stipulated the Pantone colour reference number of the beige everyone had to wear in her invitation . 😂

I know it was an Italian wedding in High summer and super hot but beige is an exceptionally difficult colour for womens formal wear!

Beige is an awful colour. It is so colourless and boring the photos would look boring as well.

If I had to splash out on a new outfit for a wedding I wouldn't buy a colour I hate. I would also be happy not to be in the photos.

Weddings are about two people making a lifelong commitment to each other. Photos are secondary.

showerjelly · 30/05/2024 07:31

sashh · 30/05/2024 07:24

I had a friend ask for her guests wo wear certain colours so I did. It made her happy.

It fed her entitlement!

I'm would t be friends with someone so shallow, much more self respect than that.

What do you think made her happy about looking at you wearing a dictated colour?

sashh · 30/05/2024 07:24

I had a friend ask for her guests wo wear certain colours so I did. It made her happy.

Whatineed · 30/05/2024 06:35

A few years ago one of my team members got married and even stipulated the Pantone colour reference number of the beige everyone had to wear in her invitation . 😂

I know it was an Italian wedding in High summer and super hot but beige is an exceptionally difficult colour for womens formal wear!

wizarddry · 30/05/2024 06:04

showerjelly · 30/05/2024 06:02

What's nice about it?

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They'll all look like bridesmaids

Marblessolveeverything · 30/05/2024 06:04

Is it cultural? I have in-laws and the culture is to pick a colour and all the guests wear it. To be fair the photos look stunning. There has to be one shade wearable. Can you rent a dress?

showerjelly · 30/05/2024 06:02

wizarddry · 30/05/2024 05:59

A lot of people try not to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids so this is a nice idea

What's nice about it?

showerjelly · 30/05/2024 06:02

DaisyCat33 · 30/05/2024 01:25

Yeah I don't get this. I'm getting married in August and I've basically told everyone to wear whatever they want. I even let my bridesmaids choose their own dresses. I want everyone at my wedding to feel as comfortable and happy as possible, and what they wear matters very little to me!

Never understand people who make such a big deal about how guests at their wedding looks.

The voice of reason and rationality!

Enjoy your day, as all your guests will!