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Having a second baby

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Happysallie · 29/05/2024 21:52

I would like another baby. I think it would be good to have a sibling for my current child etc. The baby would be much loved etc etc

But oh my god I cannot be bothered with being pregnant again. It feels like signing up for an endurance event.

I went to 42+5 last time. Almost ten months.

And there won’t even be a novelty factor this time round.

YABNU - pregnancy is boring

YABU - it’s not that bad

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motleymop · 29/05/2024 22:02

I didn't get the hip pain the second time around!
But, god, the lack of booze is awful.
But being pregnant is nothing compared with the newborn phase!!
Anyway, I vote: do it!

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Happysallie · 29/05/2024 22:01

WhyamInotvomiting · 29/05/2024 22:01

I loathe pregnancy. I'm the grumpiest pregnant woman ever. I spend the first 24 weeks battling HG and then PGP after that.

I'm 19 weeks with number 3 and this is definitely definitely The Last Time.

Amazing feeling through once you know you’re done.

Never again will you be obliged to say ‘no’ to an offer of a glass of Chardonnay.

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Happysallie · 29/05/2024 22:01

SpringShower · 29/05/2024 21:59

Yeah, I was SO over pregnancy with my second. And it was a crap pregnancy with hyperemesis, so I was sick for months. The only upside to the pregnancy was that I had her at 37+5, after also going to 42+5 with my first. And she was healthy and gorgeous, obviously! 😊

Those days post 42 weeks are pretty psychologically draining.

I almost cut off most of my family and friends

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WhyamInotvomiting · 29/05/2024 22:01

I loathe pregnancy. I'm the grumpiest pregnant woman ever. I spend the first 24 weeks battling HG and then PGP after that.

I'm 19 weeks with number 3 and this is definitely definitely The Last Time.

SpringShower · 29/05/2024 21:59

Yeah, I was SO over pregnancy with my second. And it was a crap pregnancy with hyperemesis, so I was sick for months. The only upside to the pregnancy was that I had her at 37+5, after also going to 42+5 with my first. And she was healthy and gorgeous, obviously! 😊

MaltipooMama · 29/05/2024 21:57

Totally agree, pregnancy was not the "magical" experience I'd heard about! I was lucky in that I barely got any symptoms and was still wearing most of my non-pregnancy clothes when I went into labour, despite going past 40 weeks and having a 7lb baby! But yes if I could skip the pregnancy and go straight to the lovely baby part I would do it in a heartbeat, I found pregnancy super boring!

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Happysallie · 29/05/2024 21:56

Mushroo · 29/05/2024 21:53

I could have written this. I’d love a second baby but absolutely do not want to be pregnant. Mine was even worse because I had gestational diabetes.

Not sure I can face 9 months without carbs…

There’s just so many things I’m already annoyed about and I’m not even pregnant.

Food stuff, watching other people getting pissed, travel limitations, the weird hip pains, the sleep, all the hoo-hah with work, the wardrobe.

Aahhhh.

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Overthebow · 29/05/2024 21:56

I found pregnancy awful both times but it was much harder second time round as I had my dd to look after too. No lie ins or naps when I wanted, having to run round after a toddler and carry her, and just no time to myself really to rest or prepare.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/05/2024 21:54

Have an elective c section or induction at 39 weeks,

Mushroo · 29/05/2024 21:53

I could have written this. I’d love a second baby but absolutely do not want to be pregnant. Mine was even worse because I had gestational diabetes.

Not sure I can face 9 months without carbs…

Pupsandturtles · 29/05/2024 21:53

Pregnant with second and it’s awful. Awful. But it’s a temporary awful.