Having a second baby

Tbh I found first pregnancy the hardest as everything was unknown and everyone wanted to share their fucking oppinion.
After that I was relaxed knowing I know what I am doing and trusting my intuition.
Also, I spent some time in Europe so picked up different approach to pregnancy (more relaxed in some aspects, more rigid in others)

My first was 41+2, my second we started induction at 41+4 and even then he didn't want out and didn't come until 41+5 XD

Same here, well I wasn't induced but DC2 was born 41+4 and my induction was booked for 41+5. DC1 was born on their due date so I was expecting to be earlier second time around and started mat leave earlier so had loads of time off before they finally arrived!

Nope. I hated being pregnant.

I've done it once, never again.

I just hope my daughter won't resent me for being an only child.

I loathed being pregnant. It felt like most fun things were taken away. It did go a lot faster for me the second time round though, I guess busy with a toddler and also I think because my belly popped out more I had less pressure on my hips and found I wasn't in as much pain so i could do more, and I'd already returned to work and knew that having time off wasn't going to end my career etc so there was less stress about that.

I'm about to give birth to my third (literally, I'm in early labour), and I can't and won't ever do this again. However, I'm so excited to give my kids another sibling. There's honestly nothing like it. Being pregnant is rubbish but it's absolutely worth watching them grow together.

I'm so very sorry. Words do nothing to convey....
Wishing you and your partner all the best x

I didn't get to bring home my babies - lost my twin sons at birth in November but agreed pregnancy is so hard. I vomited up to 20 weeks and got pelvic girdle pain till the end. So sore. Will go again obviously as we want to be parents again and actually bring a baby home but the fear is real.

I hated being pregnant. I've no idea how I managed to do it three times. I know I got through the last one telling myself every day that I'd never have to do this again. It was totally worth it though.

My DC 2 came later and had to be evicted, DC1 came by himself 😂Labour was a couple hours shorter though.

Currently 36 weeks with my second. In a way it's helped to know what was coming and that it's temporary. I feel good knowing I'm almost near the finish line now.

YANBU - hated my second pregnancy, it was much harder than my first pregnancy but that is unsurprising given the fact I was chasing a toddler around and had gestational diabetes (worse the second time round, manageable the first pregnancy)

HOWEVER I wouldn't change a thing now

The small silver lining is that you'll most likely be earlier with a second/third/fourth baby in the future... Statistically they tend to come faster than you first as your body knows what it's doing. Apparently! Although, I do speak from experience as DC2 arrived at 38+2 after a sweep whereas DC1 was 40+5.

The whole pregnancy will fade away once the baby is here (to be replaced with no sleep ever again, obviously), but then that too will fade away when you see your two kids snuggling up together, making up stories and laughing - and crucially allowing you some time to scroll Mumsnet 😆 Having two is really, really lovely. Best of luck!

Ha I wrote a thread about this 10 months ago. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and never again!! This is our 2nd and last. I have had a much worse pregnancy compared to the first one and I cannot wait to be done and have my body back, wear nicer clothes (as nice as breastfeeding clothes can be) and eat and drink what I want again! And take ibuprofen when something hurts!

The one and only upside is that this pregnancy has absolutely flown by. Looking after a toddler takes all my mental strength so I've barely thought about poor neglected DC2 until I went on mat leave this month.

Do it and know you'll then be DONE FOREVER!

Currently about to start trying for number 2 and I completely agree, I absolutely cannot be bothered to be pregnant again!

😆

By the way, did we mention the acid reflux and gaviscon taken by the gallon?

I remember saying to my husband while pregnant with my first "If I ever say I want another one remind how awful I felt right now"... still had a second 😂

I'm not a fan of being pregnant at all but it bothered me less second time round and absolutely flew! I imagine that's because I've already got a kid I had to look after 😅 but he's older so I didn't have to run around after him or anything.

16 weeks into my first pregnancy and I've already been decided for weeks that I'm not doing this again (unless I forget significant amounts of it!)

I've not even had a particularly difficult pregnancy. I just hate not feeling like myself and a worse version of myself at that.

I hated being pregnant, 20 weeks of morning sickness each time, feeling tired, achy and miserable plus mild GD at the end with my first and a less than desirable labour/birth and complications during/after.

I did somehow manage to put myself through it a second time, pregnancy was almost as bad as first time round, no GD but added guilt for not being able to play with my eldest much and 'forcing' a sibling on him (he actually wants more but we are done 😅). Second labour was better at least (still no birthing pool damn covid) but we did have him in another country and healthcare was definitely better compared to the first time.

I told myself 'this the last time I ever have to do this' a lot!

I'm the polar opposite and love pregnancy 😂

I’m so crap at being pregnant that they offered to tie my tube while they were doing my C-section…

I'm pregnant now, 26 weeks, and it's torture....I'd love a second. I can't imagine ever doing this again.

Do it! Having two is brilliant!

I would have a third but my husband doesn't want another one. 😭