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To think being a tenant is an absolute misery

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nellyelloe · 29/05/2024 21:42

For reasons I won't go into, we have found ourselves having to rent for 18 months after selling our house. Luckily we are now buying again so this won't be forever.

It has been the most eye opening 18 months of my life, and I feel SO sorry for people that are stuck renting. It has a genuine negative impact on my mental health. The constant reminders that it's not your home, never feeling relaxed as you're terrified of damaging something, the constant rent increases, the inspections. It's a total misery.

Now I do understand there are some awful tenants about who destroy houses, but that's not us. We haven't even put a single picture on the wall, pay our rent early every month and keep the house beautifully.

We have to suffer inspections every 3 months as per the contract. Now I know the landlord has the right to see how the house is being kept but it feels like an absolute invasion of our privacy every time, to have some 19 year old from the estate agents come round and take photos of the house and how we live. Every inspection fills me with weeks of dread even though I know the house is spotless and exactly as we moved into it. I stupidly didn't even think about it but we got our daughter a hamster and during the last inspection were really told off for it and told they would need to seek the landlord's permission as we had broken the no pets rule. After being a home owner for 20 years, it stupidly didn't cross my mind. Luckily we got the landlord's permission and a clause in the contract to keep Nibbles 🙄 I was made to feel like an absolute criminal for it, like I was storing a body in the loft. It is awful that people are made to feel like this over a pet, something that brings families and children so much joy.

The hinge fell off the integral dishwasher as it was old and dodgy. The 19 year old estate agent came round again to see if it was our fault or if it was due to reasonable wear and tear.....it was reasonable wear and tear as the dishwasher is 10 years old but again, made to feel like some careless idiot for a faulty hinge.

We have an app where we go on and pay the (£1700😬) rent and it has a lovely countdown on it saying when our contract ends...it's really unnerving seeing it and knowing they could kick us out at this point and we would have no right to stay, even if our house purchase doesn't complete in time.
Every 6 months, the rent has gone up £100. We are totally overpaying compared to other properties but again, we can like it or lump it. We are paying £300 more a month than we did 18 months ago. Our salaries have not increased. The mortgage on our house we are buying will be half our rent.

Renting is a constant reminder that it's not your home, that you need permission to breathe and you have people round to check up on you like a child has their parent check their room is tidy.

I honestly find it hellish. The housing system in this country is fucked. The renters reform act is now abandoned. I'm so glad I will be out of this soon but genuinely so sad for others who are in it for the long haul.

OP posts:
caringcarer · 30/05/2024 21:19

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 21:02

@caringcarer I would like to see a system whereby homeowners could either rent long term or sell their houses to effectively the government/ housing association wherever. Either at or just below market rate, guaranteed quick sale no hassle. The housing stock then could be put on long term leases to those who need them. Or could be sold through a rent to buy scheme. It would also give variety and choice to the housing stock rather than 'council estates'.

I'd like to see this type of rental become the norm. With no attachment that currently exists in living in a council house!

Private rental for those who want more luxurious accommodation or more choice could then be in addition to the standard housing association rents.

I've just had a quick look on Rightmove. Where many of my houses are there are currently 132 houses up for sale under £250k. Absolutely housing associations should be buying some of these up but they don't. The other area I have btl houses there are in fact 234 3 bedroom currently houses up for sale on Rightmove for up to £150k. Nobody or nothing is stopping councils or HA from buying these houses. Yet you think they would buy my houses 🤷. Can you explain why they would buy my houses but not other houses on the market for the same prices I bought mine for? I'm not stopping anyone from buying a house in these areas. What I am doing is housing families who maybe can't afford a deposit or don't have the salary multipliers needed to buy. The rents I charge do make me a small profit but they are not much higher than local rent allowances. They are bought interest only and I'm making a slow but steady capital gain over time.

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 21:02

@caringcarer I would like to see a system whereby homeowners could either rent long term or sell their houses to effectively the government/ housing association wherever. Either at or just below market rate, guaranteed quick sale no hassle. The housing stock then could be put on long term leases to those who need them. Or could be sold through a rent to buy scheme. It would also give variety and choice to the housing stock rather than 'council estates'.

I'd like to see this type of rental become the norm. With no attachment that currently exists in living in a council house!

Private rental for those who want more luxurious accommodation or more choice could then be in addition to the standard housing association rents.

BurntBroccoli · 30/05/2024 20:48

Yes I had this experience too when we had to move out temporarily. It really opened my eyes to how horrible it is. The no pictures rule, the inspections, the lag to get anything fixed.
Landlord turning up at the door unannounced... our agent was really lovely though thankfully.
Oh and the shockingly high rents.

Yes it's totally screwed.

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 20:27

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 20:14

Tbh @caringcarer you would disagree because you're a landlord! My point is you shouldn't be allowed to be! It should be run professionally by large housing associations.
Ultimately it comes down to greed sadly! Having a safe secure place to live at an affordable price should be a basic right not something for the privileged to gain inflated profits from.

I also wish there were more housing accommodation houses. I find it really hard when I put a house on to the market. The EA gets their details and often there are 25 or so candidates wanting the house within 3 or 4 days of it going on the market. Because my houses are mostly 3 bedrooms candidates usually have a couple of kids. I look at their applications and honestly out of every 25 applications 20 seem absolutely fine to me. I would happily rent to any of them. I have to only pick one though. Then EA rings others and tells them they are unsuccessful. I've even had a couple of times tenants going back to EA offering more rent or several months of rent upfront. Very often they tell EA they have a DC in a local school so need to get the house as they don't want to have to move their DC to a different school. I hate having to say no to them. I get angry the council should be buying more houses and refurbishing them for families not leaving it to private LL's to do their job.

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 20:14

Tbh @caringcarer you would disagree because you're a landlord! My point is you shouldn't be allowed to be! It should be run professionally by large housing associations.
Ultimately it comes down to greed sadly! Having a safe secure place to live at an affordable price should be a basic right not something for the privileged to gain inflated profits from.

sheroku · 30/05/2024 18:06

I do agree with tenants with cats because I like cats

🙄

I am grateful every day that I don't have a landlord anymore.

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 17:37

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 16:07

The rules on landlords need to be much tougher!
None of this no children, no pets, no benefits, no pictures on the walls rules.
Standard Tenancy terms should be much longer term years not months.
If you only want short term tenants it must be advised as such.
Inspections should be no more than annual and only for maintenance purposes. No photos of tenants or their possessions.
Housing associations should be the norm and not individual landlords. Even if owned by individuals they should be managed on a professional manner not on the whims of the landlord.

Being a tenant was the worst time of my life.
First one blocked me in and pinned me up against the wall because I was 24hrs late paying the rent - due to being in an RTA and in hospital. Second I was harassed stalked and intimidated by landlord and his wife. Landlords wife ended up in prison as she viciously assaulted the next tenant they had and was done for GBH. Third was a dick who kicked me out because I couldn't afford a 50% rent increase yet refused to do anything about the state of the house I was in. I still rent now but from family and this is my home.

I think the LL has every right to stipulate conditions of contract. If they don't want DC or pets they have the right to stipulate this. The tenant has the right not to rent from them if they don't like the terms on offer. The contract is an agreement of terms. Most LL's do accept DC and pictures on walls. Some pets destroy properties so I can well understand some LL's not wanting pets in their properties. I've allowed 2 tenants 1 small dog but not from the outset. Only once I know they are keeping the house nice do I agree. I do agree with tenants with cats because I like cats. If someone works but gets a UC top up I accept them as tenants. I don't accept tenants who do not work at all as they don't pass finance checks.

shittestusernameever · 30/05/2024 17:00

When I private rented I didn't know that my landlord was friendly with one of the neighbours. Didn't matter what I did the landlord found out

Barbecues, kids parties etc..

Getting messages from the landlord that the grass was too long or the hedge needed trimming 🙄 because that neighbour was complaining, I moved.

Crikeyalmighty · 30/05/2024 16:26

@TheCadoganArms and I do kind of understand the inspections , although my agent never calls it that- just says can I pop round at your convenience just to check all is going well for you - because at one point we lived next door to a house that had indeed been used for a cannabis factory and this was a big modern 3 storey 4 bed semi - not some run down flea pit. You could have knocked me down with a feather, although I did find it odd that we never saw the neighbours!!

Allthislovelygreen · 30/05/2024 16:11

Yeah. I really don't think I'd have anxiety or depression if I either a. Owned my home or b. Had a council house.

I've never been late for a rent payment in 10 years but knowing that landlord can give me 30 days notice at anytime has caused me to feel insecure all that time

I'm determined to buy a house this year

GingerPirate · 30/05/2024 16:11

I've been a Landlady for 20 years.
The appalling audacity of the tenants, the constant anxiety as for what's gonna get destroyed, what bills they gonna run up, what's going on in my properties...
The inspections are an absolute necessity, but
you are right, it's hell.
At least I don't have to work.

carerlookingtochangejob · 30/05/2024 16:07

The rules on landlords need to be much tougher!
None of this no children, no pets, no benefits, no pictures on the walls rules.
Standard Tenancy terms should be much longer term years not months.
If you only want short term tenants it must be advised as such.
Inspections should be no more than annual and only for maintenance purposes. No photos of tenants or their possessions.
Housing associations should be the norm and not individual landlords. Even if owned by individuals they should be managed on a professional manner not on the whims of the landlord.

Being a tenant was the worst time of my life.
First one blocked me in and pinned me up against the wall because I was 24hrs late paying the rent - due to being in an RTA and in hospital. Second I was harassed stalked and intimidated by landlord and his wife. Landlords wife ended up in prison as she viciously assaulted the next tenant they had and was done for GBH. Third was a dick who kicked me out because I couldn't afford a 50% rent increase yet refused to do anything about the state of the house I was in. I still rent now but from family and this is my home.

GordonBlue · 30/05/2024 15:26

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 30/05/2024 15:23

From experience, I'm guessing the 19 year old estate agent may be a smarmy little tick who lords it over the OP and thinks they know everything. Just a guess.

Also from experience, this sounds spot on.

TheCadoganArms · 30/05/2024 15:24

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 30/05/2024 15:23

From experience, I'm guessing the 19 year old estate agent may be a smarmy little tick who lords it over the OP and thinks they know everything. Just a guess.

Or just some young lad in his first job?

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 30/05/2024 15:23

rwalker · 29/05/2024 21:49

I don’t understand the relevance of the estate agent being 19

From experience, I'm guessing the 19 year old estate agent may be a smarmy little tick who lords it over the OP and thinks they know everything. Just a guess.

Gemmahearts94 · 30/05/2024 15:20

ALovelyCupOfNameChange · 30/05/2024 14:56

over heard her telling the neighbours we had mice as if it was our fault, I was so angry

you are so looked down on and judged for being “just the renters”.

Absolutely! She had to tell the neighbours incase they went under their floors too I get that, but she obviously didnt want to admit that her negligence keeping up the outside was the cause so she thought she'd just paint us as bograts and throw us under the bus. 🙄

TheCadoganArms · 30/05/2024 15:18

Crikeyalmighty · 30/05/2024 14:14

@heretodestroyyou I agree- one big problem is some right scumbags have ruined the trust factor for the rest of us that keep a place decent and don't need constantly checking up on.

It's the same with landlords- there are clearly some very good ones- but overshadowed by those who are happy to let out complete crap puts at inflated prices given the shortage out there-

I think you have hit the crux of the issue. As alluded to above I used to work (many moons ago) in the property market and have witnessed first hand the scumbag behaviour of both landlords and tenants.

I have seen landlords try and micro manage tenants and make ludicrous deposit deductions for blown lightbulbs and for insignificant reasonable wear and tear. I have also seen tenants leave properties in a state that can be only described as outright vandalism (plasterboard walls that have been kicked through, porcelain sinks broken, furniture destroyed) or skip town not paying the last months rent knowing full well the deposit will not cover the missing rent and the damage they have caused.

The frequency of the latter issue is why deposits went from one months rent to two or more. Decent landlords want peace and quiet and the only way they achieve that is if they rent out a property that is legally compliant and in a good well maintained condition so that the tenant does not need to contact them every other week to complain that something is not working.

RomanRoysSearchHistory · 30/05/2024 15:04

I've rented my whole adult life from 18-46, never experience anything mentioned so I feel perhaps I've been very lucky or you've been really unlucky.

These agent's charge a fortune to "manage" properties and landlords want to know they're actually getting some value for money for said management. I'd be inclined to demonise the agents rather than landlords per se. Absolute parasites and cretins, constantly taking from all involved.

maddiemookins16mum · 30/05/2024 15:02

I rented long term in a shit hole of a tiny flat. I couldn’t afford to move and rent nicer or buy.

It was only when I met my now spouse that I got on the housing ladder.

Renting was awful, I was made to feel like a second class citizen. Throwaway comments like ‘oh are you still renting’. Filling forms in, having to tick ‘rented’. I recall once at The Good Food shown in London filling in a survey, the person asked in a certain type of manner ‘are you a homeowner or just renting’. She lost me at just.

A shite landlord whose sole amount of repair work over 14 years was to stick some drawing pins (yep) in wallpaper that came away from the ceiling (yep) due to a flood in the bathroom above (another grotty flat he let out). Gas fires that were condemned and not replaced for weeks. The electric was on a meter, 50ps originally and then overnight he changed it to pound coins. Nightmare if you ran out and didn’t have any. No shower, so expensive baths. He came round whenever he wanted, rent was paid in cash, so every Saturday he’d knock the door and within 5 seconds let himself in to get his money.

It truly was a very low point, I was trapped there, hated it but couldn’t escape. ,

ALovelyCupOfNameChange · 30/05/2024 14:57

The other thing with the pets situation is
this landlord may be fine with it, but the next may not.

so now you get 2 months notice to find a home, that’s suitable, within budget, within catchment AND let’s you have your beloved pet.

ALovelyCupOfNameChange · 30/05/2024 14:56

over heard her telling the neighbours we had mice as if it was our fault, I was so angry

you are so looked down on and judged for being “just the renters”.

Bringbackspring · 30/05/2024 14:53

I know what you mean, OP. We rented a flat for a year while between houses and the whole experience was shit. It feels especially shit when you were previously living in your own home.

We used a big national letting agent chain and the processes were horrendous. It felt like we were having to justify our mere existence to the letting agents! I know you've copped some flack for mentioning the agents age, but to be honest I get what you mean. When you are a 40+ year old hard working professional who is used to living in their own home, probably have management responsibilities at work, responsible for multiple million pound projects, etc, etc, and you are then having someone who has just left school and has no life experience judge whether you are fit to rent a crappy flat or not! It takes the piss. The flat we ended up in was grimy, and we ended up leaving it in a better state than we found it. But they still make you feel like every tiny thing that's wrong with it is your fault, because you are a tenant and therefore you must be an idiot!

For balance, I've been a landlord for a brief spell and we just left our tenants to live in peace in a house that we handed over to them absolutely spotless.

Gemmahearts94 · 30/05/2024 14:33

We rented a 1950's house in a lovely street, a street I'd always dreamed of living in, we were really happy there for the few months, looking back I was really naive and when we moved in I spotted a few mouse traps in dark corners and silly old me assumed it was a precaution, no the house had a family of mice living beneath the suspended floors.

I started noticing clothes were getting random holes in them, woke up one day to a hole in the basket under my pram, still didn't click. It wasn't untill we were sat watching tv one night and a mouse ran past our feet that we called the letting agency.

over heard her telling the neighbours we had mice as if it was our fault, I was so angry it was clearly an on going issue as id seen the traps when we moved in, she was trying to insinuate it was cleanliness issue, even though she always commended us on how clean the house was. So glad we don't rent anymore!

and when the pest control guy came to fix it he told us it was because the house wasn't being maintained externally e.g vents didn't have the proper mesh coverings, and someone has literally knocked a brick out to fit the tv wire, giving mice an easy access route. Pricks

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 14:33

@heretodestroyyou, if you want communism why not go to live in a communist country?

ALovelyCupOfNameChange · 30/05/2024 14:28

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 14:20

The tenant signed the contract of her own free will knowing the clauses in the contract said no pets and no painting. Same as if you sign an employment contract you only sign if you agree terms.

You have little choice in accepting the terms when there’s a shortage within budget that’s suitable for your family, within the catchment of the school your kids go to.

again. I’m not saying the landlord is wrong for adding those terms. It’s their prerogative as the owner of the business

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