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To think being a tenant is an absolute misery

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nellyelloe · 29/05/2024 21:42

For reasons I won't go into, we have found ourselves having to rent for 18 months after selling our house. Luckily we are now buying again so this won't be forever.

It has been the most eye opening 18 months of my life, and I feel SO sorry for people that are stuck renting. It has a genuine negative impact on my mental health. The constant reminders that it's not your home, never feeling relaxed as you're terrified of damaging something, the constant rent increases, the inspections. It's a total misery.

Now I do understand there are some awful tenants about who destroy houses, but that's not us. We haven't even put a single picture on the wall, pay our rent early every month and keep the house beautifully.

We have to suffer inspections every 3 months as per the contract. Now I know the landlord has the right to see how the house is being kept but it feels like an absolute invasion of our privacy every time, to have some 19 year old from the estate agents come round and take photos of the house and how we live. Every inspection fills me with weeks of dread even though I know the house is spotless and exactly as we moved into it. I stupidly didn't even think about it but we got our daughter a hamster and during the last inspection were really told off for it and told they would need to seek the landlord's permission as we had broken the no pets rule. After being a home owner for 20 years, it stupidly didn't cross my mind. Luckily we got the landlord's permission and a clause in the contract to keep Nibbles 🙄 I was made to feel like an absolute criminal for it, like I was storing a body in the loft. It is awful that people are made to feel like this over a pet, something that brings families and children so much joy.

The hinge fell off the integral dishwasher as it was old and dodgy. The 19 year old estate agent came round again to see if it was our fault or if it was due to reasonable wear and tear.....it was reasonable wear and tear as the dishwasher is 10 years old but again, made to feel like some careless idiot for a faulty hinge.

We have an app where we go on and pay the (£1700😬) rent and it has a lovely countdown on it saying when our contract ends...it's really unnerving seeing it and knowing they could kick us out at this point and we would have no right to stay, even if our house purchase doesn't complete in time.
Every 6 months, the rent has gone up £100. We are totally overpaying compared to other properties but again, we can like it or lump it. We are paying £300 more a month than we did 18 months ago. Our salaries have not increased. The mortgage on our house we are buying will be half our rent.

Renting is a constant reminder that it's not your home, that you need permission to breathe and you have people round to check up on you like a child has their parent check their room is tidy.

I honestly find it hellish. The housing system in this country is fucked. The renters reform act is now abandoned. I'm so glad I will be out of this soon but genuinely so sad for others who are in it for the long haul.

OP posts:
caringcarer · 31/05/2024 04:17

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 03:43

Sold up to... people who wanted to live in them?

It resulted in massive rent increases and more LL sold in Scotland than any other area of UK. Now Scotland face even more competition for private rentals. You must know there will always be people who can't save up a deposit or earn enough to get a mortgage based upon strict borrowing criteria of earning multipliers.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 03:43

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:45

Did you see what rent controls did to Scotland. More LL sold up so even less rental properties to go round those who need them.

Sold up to... people who wanted to live in them?

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 03:29

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:43

LL don't stop people buying their own home. It's the tenant either not having a deposit, having a bad credit history or not earning enough salary multipliers to pass the banks stress test. But don't let the truth stop you having a moan at LL's.

So on a systematic level - people owning multiple houses, and residential property being considered a major avenue for revenue generation - you don't think that contributes to ballooning house prices at all?

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:51

RubyBee · 30/05/2024 23:50

Or they want to massively raise the rent.

Rents tend to go up when mortgage rates do. If you were buying you'd have to suck up the mortgage rates increases.

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:50

CrowsEyeView · 30/05/2024 23:50

Know every landlord in the country do you?

No but I probably know a lot more than you.

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:45

GordonBlue · 31/05/2024 00:47

I think there is some recognition of that stress now though - so many more people are renting privately compared to thirty/forty years ago, that there's an understanding it has to be addressed at policy level - it's not good for the economy to have a third of the population living in insecure overpriced housing. Hence some of the moves towards regulation.

We need to do more though. Obviously it would be great if there were more social homes available but in the absence of that at minimum we need to re-introduce rent controls and also return to only limited grounds for eviction - sale, occupancy, occupancy by family member, bankruptcy, death. All of this so called accidental landlording isn't doing anything useful - apart from for landlords themselves lol.

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Did you see what rent controls did to Scotland. More LL sold up so even less rental properties to go round those who need them.

caringcarer · 31/05/2024 02:43

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:26

I've had it happen. A 19 year old with no experience of parenting scolding me over children's toys being out.

If someone is going to have that much power over me, I would like them to have a little training and experience!

And if there were fewer landlords, property would be more affordable, and people could buy their own house.

LL don't stop people buying their own home. It's the tenant either not having a deposit, having a bad credit history or not earning enough salary multipliers to pass the banks stress test. But don't let the truth stop you having a moan at LL's.

CrowsEyeView · 31/05/2024 01:30

GordonBlue · 31/05/2024 01:23

Wow, that is really quite stark.

And that's a sizeable chunk of the population, who are in that situation.

What's even more depressing is that the stress is caused by deliberate policy decisions. I mean, the UK was very much a rentier economy, prior to the 1960s. But, until then renting didn't mean insecurity. So although people didn't own their homes, it didn't matter. They didn't need to.

From the Industrial Revolution onwards, all of those lovely London, Manchester, Leeds town houses, all those writers and bankers and professors and so on living in them, they didn't own, but they didn't care, because they didn't need to own in order to have security. They paid rent, that was enough.

Even when more people began to buy, it was enough to rent right through to 1988 when the thatcher government made residential tenancies six months long. From a lifetime, to six months, in one fell swoop. And every single government that's come after, none of them have changed that. Even though it was completely normal to rent a home on a forever basis, even to pass it on to one's children, before 1988.

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Wow what an insight

GordonBlue · 31/05/2024 01:23

Wow, that is really quite stark.

And that's a sizeable chunk of the population, who are in that situation.

What's even more depressing is that the stress is caused by deliberate policy decisions. I mean, the UK was very much a rentier economy, prior to the 1960s. But, until then renting didn't mean insecurity. So although people didn't own their homes, it didn't matter. They didn't need to.

From the Industrial Revolution onwards, all of those lovely London, Manchester, Leeds town houses, all those writers and bankers and professors and so on living in them, they didn't own, but they didn't care, because they didn't need to own in order to have security. They paid rent, that was enough.

Even when more people began to buy, it was enough to rent right through to 1988 when the thatcher government made residential tenancies six months long. From a lifetime, to six months, in one fell swoop. And every single government that's come after, none of them have changed that. Even though it was completely normal to rent a home on a forever basis, even to pass it on to one's children, before 1988.

whatab · 31/05/2024 00:56

don't think it's a "first world problem " though. Housing is a basic need, and the stress of housing instability is vastly underestimated.

This. It's no coincidence there's a growing number of people in poor health, at the same time as a larger proportion of the population are private renting.

I was sure I'd seen something about the effect of private renting on health so I decided to google to check. It doesn't just affect mental health. It also damages physical health. Concerningly it's more damaging than smoking or being unemployed. I should imagine the constant insecurity of private renting is a major factor (I noticed the study found social renting was no different to ownership, in terms of being less harmful to health).

https://www.bmj.com/company/newsroom/renting-rather-than-owning-a-private-sector-home-linked-to-faster-biological-ageing/

GordonBlue · 31/05/2024 00:47

I think there is some recognition of that stress now though - so many more people are renting privately compared to thirty/forty years ago, that there's an understanding it has to be addressed at policy level - it's not good for the economy to have a third of the population living in insecure overpriced housing. Hence some of the moves towards regulation.

We need to do more though. Obviously it would be great if there were more social homes available but in the absence of that at minimum we need to re-introduce rent controls and also return to only limited grounds for eviction - sale, occupancy, occupancy by family member, bankruptcy, death. All of this so called accidental landlording isn't doing anything useful - apart from for landlords themselves lol.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:28

NattyTurtle · 30/05/2024 22:05

So a 19 year old doesn't have enough "life experience" to be able to know if a handle was destroyed on a dishwasher? Confused Do you refuse to deal with anyone in a workplace who is 19 because they don't have enough "life experience"?

I couldn't care less if the person taking photos of my home is 19, or 99 - what difference does it make?

This is typical MN - people thinking they are entitled to "rights", to live in someone else's property and the owner should just hand it over and leave them to it, never ask them to leave, jump to it when something needs fixing but if the tenant breaks/damages something apparently that's just fine.

And yes, I rent.

It's not "someone else's property ", it's the tennant's home.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:26

NattyTurtle · 30/05/2024 21:42

The usual MN hyperbole. They are not judging your lifestyle, they are merely checking that you are keeping the property - which does not belong to you - in good condition. What on earth does the amount of "life experience" the person doing the inspection has have to do with anything???

Would you prefer that there were no landlords and everyone was living on the streets?

Written by someone with 19 years of three monthly inspections behind them.

I've had it happen. A 19 year old with no experience of parenting scolding me over children's toys being out.

If someone is going to have that much power over me, I would like them to have a little training and experience!

And if there were fewer landlords, property would be more affordable, and people could buy their own house.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:21

ALovelyCupOfNameChange · 30/05/2024 13:35

We shouldn’t. But in the scheme of things these are first world problems which I think is how they’ve been allowed to fester. The mental health impact on me and my children is huge.

I once had it described as living like your waiting for the earthquake. You know it’s coming, you don’t know when someone else is going to set it off.

I don't think it's a "first world problem " though. Housing is a basic need, and the stress of housing instability is vastly underestimated.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:19

NattyTurtle · 30/05/2024 21:57

What is wrong with you? The LL owns the house, why shouldn't they have the power to make choices about what the tenant is allowed to do. Do you really think a tenant should be allowed to do whatever they like with someone else's house??? Would you really buy a property then tell a tenant they can do whatever they want with it, treat it however they wish - why not let them trash it?

If people are so against renting then they should find a way to buy their own house.

Also for all you people who think LL = bad, tenant = good, my landlord also owns another property in town, which the tenant absolutely trashed. My poor landlord is still upset about it over a year later.

"Just buy a house"; Ha! Let them eat cake!

No. Just because you choose to make an investment should not give you such complete power over another person.

Of course a tennant should be held accountable for "trashing" a house. That's not the issue. The issue is the lack of stability and real estate agents going through underwear drawers.

FWIW, I own my own house, and I'm very glad of it. Outside of that, I would never choose to invest in domestic real estate.

GordonBlue · 31/05/2024 00:18

@XenoBitch yes theoretically the inspections are to ensure that any problems are addressed in a timely manner.

However letting is a largely unregulated activity, and one that involves sometimes eye watering amounts of money. It therefore creates the opportunity for some twat in a shiny suit to completely overstep their remit safe in the knowledge that there is no comeback.

LameBorzoi · 31/05/2024 00:13

XenoBitch · 30/05/2024 23:55

Surely it depends on the landlord?

I used to live alone happily on NMW, with money left over for a life afterwards. I was in a rented property for 2 years... low rent that was dropped when I viewed the place. It was never increased and I never had an inspection. Lucky..... but I had a leaky bathroom roof, a boiler with constant low pressure, a damp problem that wrecked a lot of my belongings, and no heating in the main living area as there was an actual rusty hole in the radiator. I reported all of the above. Someone even came out to measure up the radiator, and said I needed a new one. It never happened.
Also, the landlord's son and a surveyor let themselves into my flat when I was home... no notice whatsoever.

I am shocked at the several PP saying the agents looked through cupboards, and even underwear drawers during inspections. I thought the point of inspections was to check there were no issues that had not been reported... not how you are living.

But it shouldn't have to depend on the landlord. Housing is a basic need.

UsernameFail · 31/05/2024 00:11

I haven't read the full thread but as a landlord, my mortgage insists on quarterly inspections to ensure there are no issues.

I would also like to add that these inspections do not always work in favour of landlords. Whilst I ensure for everything reported to be dealt with or replaced immediately (I hate inconveniencing my tenants who are paying good money to stay in the property) for example we recently redecorated the property, installed new radiators throughout only for the 3 month inspection to come back and say interiors we're 'fine'. When I queried that with the person inspecting, they said I shouldn't worry it was their opinion at the time 🤷🏼‍♀️

BurntBroccoli · 30/05/2024 23:59

RubyBee · 30/05/2024 23:40

OP, I agree with you that renting is rubbish. I rented for twenty years before I was thankfully able to buy a place. I would have bought much sooner, but my ability to save was reduced by the massive amount I was paying out in London rents. I had a mixture of landlords over that time, but even the ‘good’ landlords were still funding their pensions using money that I earned working, just because they were in a position to own more than one home. I would ever, ever become a landlord after my experience, even if I could afford to.

There needs to be massive rental reforms in this country including long term tenancies, rent control and, of course, wider provision of social housing. Living with a clock ticking that you could be evicted after a year, have to change your kids school, struggle to find another place within budget - it’s so stressful.

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Absolutely - if more social housing was built, then rents would have to come down. There should also be a register of private landlords so you can check before you sign a lease. The register should be linked to homes fit for occupation and a type of 'MOT' should be issued.
There should be a limit on the number of houses a landlord can have so more first time buyers can get a chance to buy. No overseas registered landlords either.

Right to Buy was a criminal policy.

XenoBitch · 30/05/2024 23:55

Surely it depends on the landlord?

I used to live alone happily on NMW, with money left over for a life afterwards. I was in a rented property for 2 years... low rent that was dropped when I viewed the place. It was never increased and I never had an inspection. Lucky..... but I had a leaky bathroom roof, a boiler with constant low pressure, a damp problem that wrecked a lot of my belongings, and no heating in the main living area as there was an actual rusty hole in the radiator. I reported all of the above. Someone even came out to measure up the radiator, and said I needed a new one. It never happened.
Also, the landlord's son and a surveyor let themselves into my flat when I was home... no notice whatsoever.

I am shocked at the several PP saying the agents looked through cupboards, and even underwear drawers during inspections. I thought the point of inspections was to check there were no issues that had not been reported... not how you are living.

CrowsEyeView · 30/05/2024 23:51

RubyBee · 30/05/2024 23:50

Or they want to massively raise the rent.

Or can’t afford required repairs

CrowsEyeView · 30/05/2024 23:50

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 23:46

LL's rarely ask a good tenant to move out unless they need to sell up.

Know every landlord in the country do you?

RubyBee · 30/05/2024 23:50

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 23:46

LL's rarely ask a good tenant to move out unless they need to sell up.

Or they want to massively raise the rent.

caringcarer · 30/05/2024 23:46

LL's rarely ask a good tenant to move out unless they need to sell up.

RubyBee · 30/05/2024 23:40

OP, I agree with you that renting is rubbish. I rented for twenty years before I was thankfully able to buy a place. I would have bought much sooner, but my ability to save was reduced by the massive amount I was paying out in London rents. I had a mixture of landlords over that time, but even the ‘good’ landlords were still funding their pensions using money that I earned working, just because they were in a position to own more than one home. I would ever, ever become a landlord after my experience, even if I could afford to.

There needs to be massive rental reforms in this country including long term tenancies, rent control and, of course, wider provision of social housing. Living with a clock ticking that you could be evicted after a year, have to change your kids school, struggle to find another place within budget - it’s so stressful.

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