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How old is the child who drew this?

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374jtwqj · 29/05/2024 21:40

DS just gave me this picture. I know there is quite a lot of variation but how old do you think is the child who drew this?

How old is the child who drew this?
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willWillSmithsmith · 30/05/2024 11:35

It’s fine. It’s drawing. Drawing is not a life skill. If Picasso’s signature was on it it would sell for millions. I guessed five so not far out.

SensationalSusie · 30/05/2024 11:27

@374jtwqj

I was going to say six because that’s what my DS would have done at that age.

But he has ASD, ADHD, Dyslexia and Dyscalculia and is 2yrs developmentally behind. So the general consensus of 4 is probably bang on.

If he’s struggling in a number of areas approach his teacher/senco for a discussion and get GP to refer for assessment if necessary.

Bentoforthehorde · 30/05/2024 11:25

Art is subjective, there's not really such a thing as bad art, especially done by children. There is only what someone personally considers good.
His drawings should be an expression of something he is thinking/feeling/seeing etc not something he thinks will be judged.

Pin0cchio · 30/05/2024 11:20

You can't be "behind" in drawing because there is no level you need to be at. You can be completely crap at it for your whole life and it will not matter a jot.

You can be "behind" in things like speech/language, motor skills like walking or in reading, because actually you will struggle a lot in life/need support if you cannot reach the required level in these areas.

eb949013 · 30/05/2024 11:15

4

Lifeomars · 30/05/2024 11:14

Between 5 and 7, there is a lot of detail and all the space has been used, it is confident and there is good use of colour. So much depends on the child, how much time they get to draw, whether they actually like it and if it something they are naturally inclined to do to express themselves. It's a nice picture and I like it.

Pin0cchio · 30/05/2024 11:14

*Dishwashersaurous · Yesterday 21:54

2 or 3 or possibly 4. But definitely pre school age
wow. My 2 year old is still drawing wonky lines and circles.*

Mine could barely hold a pen at 2 but recognised all letters & knew their sounds and could read fluently, properly with phonics, at 4. He's still absolutely shite at drawing but top of his school on tt rockstars so go figure. Takes all sorts.

Lovemusic82 · 30/05/2024 11:11

I don’t see why it matters. Some kids/people are more artistic than others, I know many adults that couldn’t do much better, I also know 3/4 year olds that do amazing drawings. Surely learning to read and write is more important than artistic skills?

My dd loves drawing, she’s severely autistic and her writing is terrible. Everyone has different skills.

Pin0cchio · 30/05/2024 11:11

*Dishwashersaurous · Yesterday 21:54

2 or 3 or possibly 4. But definitely pre school age*

Ha

MumblesParty · 30/05/2024 11:09

It doesn’t matter OP.
My Mum, her siblings, her parents - all brilliant at art, craft, beautiful handwriting etc. I’m pretty good too.
My 2 sons are hopeless! They used to enjoy drawing and painting when they were really little, but not really beyond primary school. Both have terrible handwriting, despite the hours they were made to practice at primary school. Neither of them have the slightest interest in art. It’s just they way they are.

DS1 got good A levels and is at a Russell Group university. DS2 just got 6s and 7s in his mock GCSEs. Both very sporty, great coordination with a ball, just not with a pen! Lack of artistic talent is not going to hold my sons back, despite their dreadful handwriting!

Pin0cchio · 30/05/2024 11:09

Do your kids really draw everyday? DS hardly ever bothers. He usually reads or plays lego or with cuddly toys.

Nope! My DS likes board games, lego, reading. I'm not very good at drawing myself. I'm a happy, successful adult. It's not an especially essential skill.

Pin0cchio · 30/05/2024 11:06

My DS would have produced similar at 6 and isn't much better at 7. Eg unexceptional.

I'm honest with him that some people find drawing easier than others and that it doesnt matter, the point is to enjoy it! I also remind him that he's good at other things and almost no one is good at everything. He used to be bothered but has learned to be relaxed about it which i am pleased about. Its so important to learn resilience and cope with not being good at things and just keep having a go anyway.

KatharinaRosalie · 30/05/2024 11:02

The absolute melts that come on to every thread and write a much younger age. It's the same every time. 3 years old, good fucking grief 🤦‍♀️. It's so cringy.

Yes I would have said 3, that's what DS's drawings looked like at that age and I didn't really have the interest to compare them to other kids. Only when he was 7 and suddenly did stuff I couldn't do when I realised he is actually quite talented and the drawings were not typical for that age.

Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 30/05/2024 10:38

3-4

Cliedi · 30/05/2024 10:38

374jtwqj · 30/05/2024 10:01

Do your kids really draw everyday? DS hardly ever bothers. He usually reads or plays lego or with cuddly toys.

My kids do what they enjoy in their leisure time. I suggest activities but if they prefer other activities (that don’t involve a screen) then I don’t push it. Drawing isn’t an essential life skill. They can express creativity and work on fine motor skills in other ways. If you’re join for him to enjoy art would a paint set be more fun for him?

Willmafrockfit · 30/05/2024 10:04

get him some colouring pencils and pens op
encourage his art

374jtwqj · 30/05/2024 10:01

Do your kids really draw everyday? DS hardly ever bothers. He usually reads or plays lego or with cuddly toys.

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374jtwqj · 30/05/2024 10:01

Do your kids really draw everyday? DS hardly ever bothers. He usually reads or plays lego or with cuddly toys.

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muggart · 30/05/2024 09:57

Dishwashersaurous · 29/05/2024 21:54

2 or 3 or possibly 4. But definitely pre school age

wow. My 2 year old is still drawing wonky lines and circles.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 30/05/2024 09:09

HolyCannoli · 30/05/2024 01:41

You can tell him he does a much better job at 6, than I do at 36 😬

Same here, at almost 70. But I make a mean carrot cake!

user1492757084 · 30/05/2024 09:07

I agree.
The joy of artistic expression and freedom is the most important aspect of a child's artwork. It should never be judged. Interest in the work and asking questions about what it is about is confidence building.
Teaching children to work with various materials and to learn and experiment with a multitude of methods of application allows them to grow in artistic expression.

Firecarrier · 30/05/2024 09:05

5.5/6

Tooomanynames · 30/05/2024 09:03

6

PurpleFlower1983 · 30/05/2024 09:01

4-5 I would say.

MaryBethMayfair · 30/05/2024 09:00

My son is 16 and in truth, wouldn't produce a drawing much different from that.

  1. He has dyspraxia, which affects his ability to hold pens/pencils and therefore his handwriting and drawing abilities are hindered. He was told off for his handwriting and drawing (blamed on laziness) all through primary school and it wasn't until he was 12 that I realised there was an issue and started getting it checked out. He now has a scribe at school and has unlimited access to a laptop for writing projects etc.
  2. He's just not interested in art and doesn't focus his energies that direction. My son is great at football despite his dyspraxia because he practices so much. I imagine the same could go for art, if he was so inclined. He can achieve the same as everyone else, it may just take him more practice.