People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

Should you be able to see a child's ribs? Would that not mean they were underweight?

My sister was always on the chubby side.
Then, at 16 her body changed and she dropped all the “baby fat” (or whatever it was) and she remained slim forever. Still is.

The problem was our mum — Mum always struggled with her weight and always had my sister join her on some ridiculous fad diet or another — and how my sister didn’t end up with lifelong severe food issues is beyond me.

No chicken nuggets and more exercise, maybe an after school activity.

Some great advice here OP. Some parents just don't see their children quite the same (rose tinted 😍which is lovely really) as others may do. Now is a great time to make some changes and set her up for a healthy future. Good luck 🙌🏻

A child eating lots of beige sugary carbs and virtually no vegetables and protein realistically isn’t going to suddenly grow tall and slim. In all likelihood she’d continue to prefer beige carbs as she got older.
All credit to Op for saying I’ve not realised and will make a few tweaks. The little girl will be none the wiser.

9mo twins, that's tough op. Don't be too hard on yourself. She's only 6 and still time to make small changes. These people need to stop commenting in front of her, that will be more damaging than her diet.

I’d drop the supper completely OP. No need for it, and it would be one less job for you!

Avoid sugar free or low fat yoghurts as an alternative as they are full of ultra processed ingredients that are also linked to obesity. Best option is plain yogurt with fruit and/or a drizzle of honey

My daughter is six and three stone.. average height.. I imagine it would even out with growth as long it stays steady..

This stands out as probably the most ill informed daft comment on the thread so far. If your child is the weight, height and age that you state then she is also overweight.
The time for learning healthy habits on food and exercise is absolutely in childhood. It is much harder to start thinking about it in adulthood when you are already obese.

My dd is 3stone at 3 yrs 2 months! I don’t worry as she will do what her sisters did and from age 5/6 be tall and slim

Don't take any notice OP, if she was tiny and slim would they be telling you to feed her up?

My DD is 5, she 116cm and 3 stone 11lbs. She has a great appetite, eats a varied diet and is very active. They go through phases of growing outward and upward.

Kids have got a lifetime to worry about their weight, they don't need to be thinking about it at such a young age.

Have you read my comments on this thread? I’ve been nothing but kind and supportive to the OP.

you are honestly mental if you think a few comments she didn’t hear will be more harmful to her than her actually growing up overweight.

First thing I'd do is just cut out all refined sugar. Eat anything you like, but no refined sugar.

Second, eat vegetables every day.

Third, more physical exercise.

Yep, don't want people like that who are pig ignorant and rude to talk me.

And my 9 year old weighed just over 4 and a half stone at 136cm. She was almost 50th percentile. 😫

A round tummy isn't necessarily a sign of being overweight. Many children don't 'hold in' their lower abdomens. It's natural and healthy for them not to.

But we adults do, mostly, hold in our lower abdomens, muscles never relaxed, ever conscious that we don't want our tummy sticking out.

Omg people like you just want to stick the knife in on anyone and say there's an obesity crisis. Please. The poor little girl isn't responsible for that, some absolute cow saying she's filled out to her mum will do more harm than good.

People do not really understand what ‘very active’ for a child is. My DD 12 plays sport and trains hard 15 hours a week - she plays netball and hockey for the county. Sweat is dripping off her after matches and training. Her friend swims in regionals. She swims non-stop fast lengths for 14+ hours a week. Both eat well, not too much junk but they aren’t skinny. About 60th percentile. Even with their level of training they can’t overdo it food wise. I’d bet that your DD does nowhere near that amount of exercise so probably needs to cut down on the food.

I’m sure you’re aware but sometimes children grow taller earlier if they are overweight. I think a lot of people think “oh but he’s tall” and actually they are tall because they are overweight.

Glad you are doing something about it OP, best to get a handle on it now whilst you still have full control of her diet.

Sounds a bit on the heavy side to me. I have a 6 year old boy that is 45 lbs, 4 stone is 56 lbs for comparison

We wouldn’t be in this obesity crisis if people were a bit more vocal and a bit less offended by the truth. As a nation we could use a bit of a thicker skin.

The comments were made to mum not the child and sound like they were diplomatic eg ‘filled out’
Obviously not ok to be saying to child you are fat but that’s not what has happened from what Op says.
Mum in this case hadn’t realised as she was busy with 3 children inc twins, lots in class sound like they are similar to her dd, lots of parents don’t see it.
With a few small changes child could be a healthy weight soon and be none the wiser. Much more likely to have body issues if nothing is said and she’s overweight at 11 and can’t shop where her friends do/mean comments/can’t play sports.

Honestly look up the tik tok trend I was on about. Ops let her daughter down by not observing but it's still nobody's place to comment regardless.

But Op didn’t observe. Lots of parents don’t.

so better for a child to grow up obese and have body issues associated with that, than a couple of people commenting and them growing up a healthy weight?! The mind boggles