People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

I'm not sure what's causing the confusion. PP's child has a BMI on the 64th centile and is officially a healthy weight and nowhere near overweight. Do you genuinely not understand that there is a range of weights that is healthy at any given height and age? Some smaller and some bigger but all healthy. And then there are weights outside that range that are too low or too high.

It's not a matter of opinion.

I don’t agree. Overweight children being the norm doesn’t make it healthy. Come back in a decade and see where those kids have landed on the adult BMI scale.

I really don’t understand the vitriol to the granny or auntie who has diplomatically said to mum who provides the food that mum needs to watch what she is giving her.
Op fully admits she had no idea her little girl was quite overweight.
The relatives will presumably see what mum is giving the little girl foodwise and the frequency of snacks.
If they hadn’t said anything mum would have carried on and in all likelihood she’d be in the category obese or overweight finishing primary school.
Surely it’s kinder to say something to food provider now and nip in bud.
The relatives don’t deserve to be called a cow or to fuck off for broaching it with mum.
There’s no suggestion they have said anything to child or within her earshot.

Like people have mentioned, just keep an eye and maybe cut down a bit on the snacks. I also have a 6yo and a little one (not twins - hats off to you for getting by) and it's relentless sometimes and the older one has been given nutritionally empty snacks too often just to keep them onside. My DC is on the thin side, but only because they're a terrible eater generally and super-fussy and I do worry about whether they're getting enough nutrients, especially protein. And yes, croissants, McDonalds and other junk are all very popular here 😬.

I agree with the poster who says don't mention it, just make some small changes. With the summer holidays approaching and two babies to look after, can you put your DD into camps at least a few days a week? If you can afford it, I definitely would - the worst thing for encouraging snacking is boredom and just being around the house with snacks available, but equally you must be exhausted and have limited capacity to get them all out of the house being active every day. I find it really helpful being able to drop the older one at camp with just a healthy snack and lunch 2-3 days a week in terms of keeping a healthy balance during the holidays.

Don't cause worry by using the word dangers, risks etc. she's too young for that! It causes a distinction between good and bad food which can lead to so called bad food becoming more attractive.

Just saying you're trying out new things.

There is no "wrong side of 50". There's a wrong side of 90 and a wrong side of five (or so). In between there's a wide range of healthy.

The centiles based on average children. A child sat on the 67th centile is on the wrong side of 50. You don’t want to be on the heavier side. But ignore the reality. Had no affect on me.

I'd only say, be careful. When I was younger, I was quite big (tall for my age and a bit on the heavy side. (I was very sporty and had regular dance classes so carrying a some muscle.) A visit by the school doctor saw me stuck on a diet (at 9!) and I cannot describe the sense of humiliation I felt at lunchtime when everyone else was eating from the regular menu and I was being given a plate of salad. I also ended up with a very uneasy relationship with food for many years afterwards.

I really could have done without the world and his wife's opinion on what weight I should be and what I should do to achieve it as I became ultra-sensitive about any mention of it - in fact, it sometimes still catches me, even now - so I'd tell those family members making personal remarks about your daughter to fuck right off. Yes, she needs to eat healthily. No, she does not need a running commentary.

I’ve just googled average weight of a 6 year old, the top range was 60 pounds, and your daughter is 56 pounds, so according to this she is at the top end. . If I was you, if you’re not sure, go to the GP, get them to weigh her properly and get their advice. If people are saying things- sadly I think they are most likely right based on these numbers. Just to add- from reading what she has when she comes home- it sounds like she’s essentially having two dinners and a snack on top- I would cut this down for starters, she really should be having pancakes as a snack on top of her dinner in the evening

That does sound like a lot, and a lot of pretty unhealthy and sugary things to boot, but it seems like you've taken that on board.
I'm originally from a different European country and I admit that I was shocked that nurseries and schools in the UK serve sweet puddings with every meal (not to mention hospitals!). For me, morning snack in school should just be a piece of fruit (assuming she's had a decent breakfast). Snack at home after school, again some fruit or a yoghurt, or maybe a cereal bar. Then a good dinner - but why yet another meal as supper? At most maybe a glass of milk? Those aren't healthy habits to set.

Thats very true and same as the adult population. If you look at photos of the beach from the 70’s, every adult looks what would be called ‘skinny’ today. They weren’t skinny, they were normal. What is considered ‘normal’ these days has drastically changed. So many people are in the obese category and dont even realise it because its so normal to see bigger people.

The croissants/pancakes/waffles probably don’t really register as junk food but 3 of those a day especially if she’s having Nutella on could be half the little girls cals on her mid morning snack, after school snack and snack before bed. Easily cut out or swapped for a healthier snack.

The OP daughter is simply eating too much. No one needs breakfast, then a croissant, then lunch, then another “snack”, then unhealthy chicken nugget tea, then a filling supper. That is at least two meals or 1000 calories per day too much.

I am not interested in engaging with someone who cannot work out that if a child is on the 67th centile they’re in the upper end

I fully understand that. 67th percentile is still within the accepted range for a healthy weight though.

What you don't seem to understand is the concept of centiles themselves and that 'heavier than average' is not the same as 'too heavy'.

Listen to this poster! Absolute double dose of common sense here!

Fortunately the OP recognises that there is something wrong and seems to have a good attitude, and is going to do something about it. She has taken her eye off the ball - it happens, and the kid is young enough that she can lose the weight without risking becoming a porky teenager.

also yes i get emotional over it. the other day i saw a very overweight boy around 10 years old and he couldnt even walk up a simple flight of steps without struggling to breathe. It was heartbreaking

sorry but 4 stone at 6 years old is massive. As her parent it is up to you to make sure she lives a healthy life and doesn't end up into a life of obesity and health declining issues. i say that as someone who has been severely obese my whole life and it started as a child.

@Isitautumnyet23 It explains why lots of parents don’t realise. Op says she thought her child was in line with rest of her class but it’s likely that at least a 1/4 are already overweight.

Keep things simple! The diet you are offering is not healthy.
No need to have any conversations with her about weight. Just change the habits.

It's only in your hands, if she gets used to it while she is small will be much easier as an adult.

You already acknowledged that something is not right and that's great!

Horrified at those statistics.

It can only be home that is the problem at that age - school dinners are healthy, most packed lunches are fairly healthy, primary schools generally ask for fruit for snacks and water to drink, kids run around all day at school at that age, so where are they getting the junk from to get so obese?

We always had sandwich, yoghurts, cereal bar, fruit, small packs of crisps etc in our lunch growing up, ate 90’s dinners (not overly healthy), has biscuits for snacks and there were barely any overweight children in our whole school. Children must be eating so excessively at that age and not moving to be obese.

We played constantly at weekends/school holidays. If we weren’t in the park, round a friends house, we were out on walks at the weekend. Its shocking that a child so young is starting a downward spiral into a life of health problems. We already know the horrible effects of obesity - diabetes, increased risk of cancer etc. A 4 year old doesn’t decide on meals/what shopping to buy so its up to us to not damage their health for life.

"Upper end" does not mean overweight. Over the 90th centile is overweight.

I am happy for people to respond to me. I am not interested in engaging with someone who cannot work out that if a child is on the 67th centile they’re in the upper end.

but furthermore, you’re child is either overweight and relevant to this post or not and therefore totally irrelevant.

If you are, in fact, assessing your child according to the medical criteria, why are you even stating "fits into clothes intended for their age" as an objective criteria? It doesn't really back up your critical thinking

It was just an additional, illustrative point - aimed at the other poster (the one who doesn't like people responding to her after she posts a load of ill-informed crap 😂) - who was insistent that my dc, whilst in the healthy weight range, was still overweight if they're above the 50th centile.

Limit the sweet snacks to special treats, not every day. I wouldn’t cut portion sizes at that age. Make sure she’s active, and tell other people to mind their own business! The last thing she needs is to hear comments about her weight.