People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

I think if you have a word with the dentist they would go along with mentioning reducing sugar intake.
You can show her how to read the labels on food packaging especially the traffick light system.

I would be careful not to make too many changes at once though, one at a time is much less likely to cause issues than suddenly changing everything.

However I think it’s extremely rude of anyone to be commenting on your daughters weight

I don't agree with that. It's out of concern for the child's health. This is not about looks/ vanity. I think she's a lucky child there's people caring for her enough to say anything. It's easy for a parent who sees the child everyday to not realise they've put on a bit of weight.
I'd be very surprised if the comments were made out of spite.

9 month old twins is hard hard work, don't beat yourself up, this is fixable.

I would start by reducing the carbs or changing for wholemeal/higher fiber content whilst halfing the portion.
Maybe offer a decent low sugar yogurt and fresh fruit she can add to it over the double pancakes.

Half the carbs at dinner and up on protein, try adding grilled or baked chicken breast along side a smaller portion of nuggets if she makes a fuss and extra veg to keep her full.

I would keep pudding but again a smaller portion, no supper, she doesn't need that or change for a warm glass of milk 30 mins before toothbrushing time.

Maybe make a box of mixed Veggie sticks and cheese dip/salsa to keep in the fridge for after school snack that you can eat alongside her for encouragement, the girls will see it as well and hopefully follow suit when they wean.

You have a lot on your plate (no pun intended…!) and it’s good that you can hopefully address things whilst she is still young.

My suggestions is you’re interested as also have a similar aged DC:

Breakfast - is a choice of porridge, scrambled eggs, Weetabix or Shredded wheat.

School morning snack is fruit (but doesn’t always eat it).

Lunch - e.g cheese sandwich, fruit, veg sticks, babybel sort of thing.

Dinner - home cooked meal (spaghetti bol, roast, curry etc) fruit or yoghurt if she wants.

No more food /supper.

I also agree with this, sorry.

That is a LOT of food. Too much.

DD is about to turn 5 and has:

Breakfast - wholewheat toast with peanut butter (1 slice), I also offer a banana but she usually refuses, 1 cup of milk

Snack - apple or satsuma

School dinner

When she gets home a biscuit

Dinner - her portion fits on a side plate. Usually something like lentil curry, fish fingers and home made sweet potato wedges with green veg, bolognese. Followed by yoghurt and strawberries/blueberries

I think if proper are mentioning it, they are probably doing so out of concern.
I have a 7yo and I'd be telling her it's only an hour to dinner so snack is fruit or nothing.

Her diet is mainly processed junk food
There is very little nutrition in what she is eating. Just a load of sugary carbs in the cereal , crossaint, waffles, pancakes. Then a school dinner which won't be high quality. It might look good on paper but the reality is rarely anything like what parents think it is. Her dinner at home is more processed crap followed by more sugary carbs. There's no veg and very little fruit.

Sorry if stating the obvious there!

Would she eat porridge with berries for breakfast. Raw carrot and cucumber for school dinners.
After school snack plain popcorn. Dinner a higher proportion of the plate veg (if she's not keen on veg as a side look for dishes that incorporate veg like vegetable curries, veg based pasta bake etc) you don't need pudding after evening meal if she's had one at lunch. Instead of supper could she have a glass of milk?

One more thing I forgot to add is while it's important to change her diet please don't talk about weight in front of her as it can be so damaging. If she asks why the change you can talk about the dangers of processed foods and how the whole family is making an effort to be healthier.

And yes, as per pp, no need for anything other than fruit for a morning snack at school.

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This is just a lot of food, yes. And a lot of processed food too - which I appreciate is easier when you have your hands full with twins!

breakfast needs to be porridge with fruit or a sugar free cereal like shreddies or weetabix with fruit. Still easy but just more substantial and less sugary.

hard no to waffle yoghurt (not sure what it is but sounds delicious) and hard no to chocolate. Banana/sugar free yoghurt?

also why dinner and tea? Just one meal is needed and if she’s hungry after apples etc. I would stick with simple pasta/rice/chicken breast (not nuggets) and veg. or at weekends just batch cook spaghetti Bol or casseroles etc.

Why is she having pancakes mid-morning and then again before bed?
Where's the vegetables and fruit? Protein?

Why does she need fruit and a croissant for school snack? Normally that’s around an hour before dinner so a bit of fruit should be more than enough.

it does sound very sugary overall.

Ah OP it's okay she's very young so plenty of time to instil healthier habits if you start now. I would say that diet sounds like it's full of processed foods and carbs. If she eats healthy foods like meat or fish with vegetables etc that would be so much better. Food the rest of the family eat? So maybe examples might be curry and rice, mid chili con carne with jacket or sweet potatoes and vegetables, pesto chicken and vegetables, fajitas... Snack wise less of the carbs and more plain yoghurt and fruit... Less cereal as it's so processed and sugary it's easy to eat tons, more porridge with chopped banana and a very small drizzle of honey, overnight oats, eggs on wholemeal toast, natural peanut butter on wholemeal toast... Plenty of fruit and veg and protein generally I think.

Firstly most cereal is just sugary and doesn't keep them full. It's hard when you have younger ones to deal with as well and twins must be really difficult but perhaps you could look at something like porridge or weetabix for breakfast. You can add fruit and no fat Greek yoghurt.

Kids do need fats in their diets but not every meal.

If people are commenting on her weight there is an issue!

It’s very carby and low in veg. I’d try and up her protein eg does she like eggs for breakfast.

That's a LOT of food for a 6 year old. She doesn't need dessert after dinner if she's having dessert at school. And I certainly wouldn't be giving her supper after dinner. 3 square meals a day and a couple of snacks is ample.

She shouldn’t be eating supper?! It sounds like she eats lots of junk. Not a lot of fresh food? Maybe offer a banana or apple at supper time, certainly not pancakes. That’s a lot of food in a day.