People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

Well seeing as OP admits that she didn't have a clue the child was overweight until it was mentioned I doubt your parent can observe theory would work.

DS is just turned six and isn't even 3 stone, so yes it does sound a lot. But good to know so you can keep an eye on it. It's easy to lose sight of healthy weights in today's society.

I’ve had to decline the weight checks for all my daughters (I have 3) because up until age 5 they are all classed as obese. They suddenly then have a massive growth spurt and are tall and slim , it’s just how the girls are in my family. Currently battling the HV about youngest (3) and I’ve had to show her family photos to prove my point this is how we are!

Yes my thought process is its better than her daughter growing up to have severe body issues. Op can observe as a parent nobody needs to comment.

For context, my DS is 10, is of average (50th centile) height and weight, and weights just over 4 and a half stone.
So I would imagine 4 stone on a 6 year old of 'average height' looks slightly overweight

My DD5 has recently had the reception letter telling us she is overweight. This is something we knew and have been trying to do something about. It’s very hard when you have a child who really loves their food and is constantly hungry, plus at school they are given stickers for finishing their plate and DD loves a sticker and praise 😩.

For us, we have significantly upped her exercise (much easier in the spring / summer) and made very small changes to her diet. We don’t have crisps in the house anymore for example, so a snack is fruit or a pack of mini breadsticks (half the calories of a pack of Doritos). I’ve also reduced portion size so if her 8 year old incredibly active skinny sister has a whole wrap, DD5 has 3/4 of a wrap, but folded in such a way that it looks the same.

You don’t have to overeat by much at all each day to put on weight e.g. an overeat of 100 kcal a day would lead to a weight gain of almost 1lb per month, so think about how you can make small changes your DD won’t notice and hopefully she will grow into her weight.

Is she definitely 4 stone? Sounds a lot for a six year old. My daughter (5) is 50th centile for height so average and weighs 2st 8lbs

Just move all treats to weekend for a start - including waffle yogs, pancakes etc. it’s an easy rule to follow

As someone who's mum was like this, please listen to the people who are trying to tell you. I ended up being a fat kid it was hell.
I'm still fat. I have an awful understanding of food and wasn't taught well. I battle so much with eating well. Be a mother to her please and make sure to do the best by her x

did you mean to say 42nd centile?

So do you think it would be better if OP just continued to feed her child a diet of processed crap and blindly allowed her to become even more obese? Can you explain your reasoning for such a bizarre though process?

I have just panicked and checked as my 5 year old is almost 4 stone but he is 129cm tall so in the 42nd centile. He is great at self control of foods and choosing fruit etc I can see his ribs so I guess he is okay. I forget he is taller than many of his classmates but compared to the children on here he does seem heavy.

Oh ffs is this for real?

Yes I know what you mean. As someone who grew up with a sibling with an eating disorder I am a bit sensitive to hearing people comment about such things, but agree it sounds like they did do it kindly.

OP you might have never struggled with your weight and don't know how it is to put weight on easily. I'm the opposite. My kids are both underweight. I've always been stocky. People comment on their weight and height all the time, drives me mad! You can't win

It sounds like they have done it kindly though and Op wasn’t aware. Better to realise now and make a few simple changes than it carry on and her DD have health issues or struggle to join in sports or experience unkind comments from other children.

I'd never talk to them again tbh, and I'd tell them why. You're here parent you don't need them commenting now- it'll never stop and she will grow up with severe issues over it. There's actually a tik tok trend where girls I their 20s talk about these sort of comments and how they DO remember them being made when they were kids. It's disgusting.

Well it’s a good job someone did mention it considering what the child has been eating. If it had continued to go unnoticed the girl would be heading for obesity. At least now OP is aware and can make changes

Regardless of her weight people shouldn’t be commenting because frankly it’s none of their business.

Oh and a random easy, healthy snack - my kids both love frozen peas straight from the freezer.

Or are every day.

God twin babies, you must be drowning OP.

I'd make small changes - anything too drastic you'll just create more issues if my 6yo is anything to go by!

Did you know the tooth fairy only takes teeth if they're healthy?

Swap some of the snacks for fruit and then start dropping them. Reduce portion sizes at meals if necessary - weigh pasta etc. But do it slowly, and go easy on yourself.

Another thing I do is roast a infamous mumsnet chicken at the start of the week for quick easy protein during the week. It gets used for chicken salads for my dinner, protein snacks for the children (they love eating the legs cold) or 'shredded' to go on top of pasta or in wraps etc.

A farm shop near me sells the legs of their free range chickens very cheaply and I also buy a few packs to bake as snacks.

In the school holidays I have a shelf in the fridge of chicken legs, boiled eggs, carrot sticks, cucumber sticks, grapes, cherry tomatoes, natural yoghurt pots etc that they can pretty much help themselves to.

Sugar is the enemy not fat - you will probably find if you increase the protein in her diet to replace sugary stuff that she won't feel as hungry anyway.

Gosh. My 6 1/2 year old daughter is 5 stone. She’s very tall though and wears age 8 clothes for the length. I can see her ribs but I have noticed her tummy is getting round.

Thank you for the wake up call though as we are definitely sliding into bad habits here.