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Sitting around on bed during the day

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Ferngardens · 29/05/2024 17:13

Fed up of my husband sitting around on the bed all the time. He just sits there reading or on his phone for hours over the week. Especially in day clothes I don't think it's very nice, plus bad for his back and the bed surely. I get why kids hang around in their rooms but think it's something people grow out of surely. I wish he'd find a chair or something to do! It annoys me when there's piles of washing on the bed and he's just there scrolling away. I feel like I can't go in the bedroom because he's just hanging around on the bed and it's irritating.

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Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2024 17:57

@Harara fair question LOL. I am preparing a meal (multitasking honestly).

Social media/dicking about on the internet has it’s place and almost everyone does it a bit but anyone who sees it as their sole form of recreation is a saddo.

Harara · 29/05/2024 17:50

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2024 17:47

I wouldn’t particularly care whether it was a bed or a chair and I don’t get the taboo about “day clothes” on the bed at all.

But I think grown adults who piss their free time away scrolling are lame as fuck and I would hate that.

But you’re on MN…? Not being rude, but isn’t there a bit of a contradiction there?

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2024 17:47

I wouldn’t particularly care whether it was a bed or a chair and I don’t get the taboo about “day clothes” on the bed at all.

But I think grown adults who piss their free time away scrolling are lame as fuck and I would hate that.

thistimelastweek · 29/05/2024 17:43

Sounds like he's hiding in case he's expected to contribute to normal family life.

Harara · 29/05/2024 17:41

Does he have a job? Does he WFH? Is he doing this within working hours, or outside them?

skippy67 · 29/05/2024 17:39

I completely agree with you OP. I hate it when my DH sits on the bed after I've just made it. Use a chair ffs! Tbf though, he doesn't do it for hours on end. More a maximum of 10 mins after finishing work. But I hate it!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 29/05/2024 17:38

Do you not spend time together downstairs?

bluetopazlove · 29/05/2024 17:36

What an odd thing for an adult to do ? Does he not have a life ?

PerfectForEloping · 29/05/2024 17:21

I’d be annoyed that he hadn’t put the washing on the bed away. Does he pull his weight around the house? If not, that obviously needs to change.

If he does, but just chooses to chill out on the bed, that wouldn’t bother me. People are different and your way of doing things isn’t the only way.

Day clothes on the bed aren’t nice? I don’t really see the issue. Unless he’s covered in mud or oil or something?