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Is this friend just not a friend?

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Friendornot · 29/05/2024 15:56

Things she has said:

If I had a pantry in my house like you it would be much tidier than yours. (When visiting)

hmm I wouldn’t have decorated like that

shall we tidy up? (I had just tidied up and cleaned before she got here)

says shes popping in for a coffee and turns up with a load of kids she’s babysitting (I don’t know them) one breaks my kids stuff and the others laugh about special needs kids- she doesn’t say anything to kid

also gets really odd and off with me when I spend time with any other friends

I’ve known her less than a year.

also frequently explains things to me in a patronising way

we have things in common I just feel a bit baffled by her comments

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Catsmere · 30/05/2024 00:51

Hell no, she's no friend. Even without the nasty comments, anyone turning up to my place with a kid or kids in tow, uninvited, then one of them breaking something of mine, would never be spoken to again.

Babyandmexox · 30/05/2024 00:49

Isn't a friend at all! Get rid x

Crispsandcola · 30/05/2024 00:48

Yeah....drop her. I had a 'frenemy' like this and she'll only get worse. One example of her f*ckery: She looked through my wedding photos and said "oh, you were much too thin back then - you looked like a lollipop ha ha. You look so much better carrying a few extra pounds" - she knew I was insecure about my weight at the time.

Coconutdreamer · 29/05/2024 17:16

She is absolutely not a friend. You can find other friends with things in common.

I certainly wouldn’t be letting her over the threshold with a group of kids in tow - what a nerve.

Devilsmommy · 29/05/2024 16:05

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This 100%

determinedtomakethiswork · 29/05/2024 16:02

Really really awful. She sounds very jealous of you actually.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 29/05/2024 16:01

She doesn't sound like a friend but from your examples, I wouldn't want her as one. She doesn't sound like a very nice person

KreedKafer · 29/05/2024 16:01

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LadyKenya · 29/05/2024 16:00

How old are these children, that they know anything about "special needs kids", and laugh?

FeetupTvon · 29/05/2024 16:00

Get rid.

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