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Can I wear trainers on a first date?!

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Permanentlydazed · 29/05/2024 15:55

So I’ve got a first date this evening, we’re only meeting for a drink in a local village pub/restaurant, It’s quite a nice one.
I haven’t been on a first date in a long time!
I don’t want to wear heels as I’m already tall at 5ft8,
so I was going to go for a floral mini/summer skirt and my nice trainers that are a similar colour with a long sleeve top to match…too casual??

I know people wear trainers for everything now but I’m starting to panic!!

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Mrsjayy · 30/05/2024 19:01

Permanentlydazed · 30/05/2024 07:46

He was!!

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Least you know before it went any further.

LeggyLinda · 30/05/2024 18:53

Oh. Sorry it didn’t go brilliantly. Still, at least you were in comfortable shoes (even if the date may have not been comfortable).

Talking about ex throughout a first date is a bit of a red flag for me and I would run a mile - at least you had the footwear for it!

PrincessOlga · 30/05/2024 08:38

Plenty more fish in the sea...

itsgettingweird · 30/05/2024 08:01

Meant to finish that sentence by saying he'd clearly shown you who he is 🙄

Hopefully the next date will be better

itsgettingweird · 30/05/2024 07:59

If that's how you'd usually dress for drink in village pub then it's fine.

I think it's sensible to show someone who you are from day 1.

Your outfit sounds nice too.

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Permanentlydazed · 30/05/2024 07:46

Mrsjayy · 30/05/2024 07:34

God he sounds dull as dishwater! oh well as a pp said keep going with comfy feet..

He was!!

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Permanentlydazed · 30/05/2024 07:45

Will keep plodding along and looking and making sure my feet are comfy in trainers as I go!
I’m not sure if I’m expecting too much but there was a bottle of water on the table he didn’t even offer if I wanted a glass…just did his and left me to do my own.

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Mrsjayy · 30/05/2024 07:34

God he sounds dull as dishwater! oh well as a pp said keep going with comfy feet..

Itsallsostressful · 30/05/2024 07:32

Permanentlydazed · 30/05/2024 05:08

Update on the date for you @Itsallsostressful
He was ok, quite boring and pretty much spent 2 hours talking about his ex wife, money and his divorce settlement.
We had dinner, which I wasn’t expecting! I don’t think we will be seeing each other again.

Awhh sorry to hear that ☹️. Still onwards and upwards with comfy feet !

whyamisotiredallthetime · 30/05/2024 06:02

Sorry to hear that @Permanentlydazed
Imagine how much more painful that would have been in uncomfortable shoes!

Next !

garlictwist · 30/05/2024 05:25

I would wear trainers on a first date and every date thereafter. I wear trainers to the office, I'm getting married in trainers. I don't think heels are an expected thing in 2024.

MariaVT65 · 30/05/2024 05:20

Ah sorry to hear about the date op. Definitely sounds like one to avoid! You’d really think anyone with a brain would know not to talk about their exes on first dates!

Glad your feet were comfy!

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Permanentlydazed · 30/05/2024 05:08

Update on the date for you @Itsallsostressful
He was ok, quite boring and pretty much spent 2 hours talking about his ex wife, money and his divorce settlement.
We had dinner, which I wasn’t expecting! I don’t think we will be seeing each other again.

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Itsallsostressful · 29/05/2024 19:54

We needs updates then OP !!!!

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Permanentlydazed · 29/05/2024 19:06

Thanks all! Have gone for the trainers.
I think it’s going to be a disaster anyway, he’s pushed the date back half an hour later as he’s running late!

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LeggyLinda · 29/05/2024 18:21

Wear trainers and anything else that makes you feel comfortable and “you”.

Honestly, although men get a bad rap, in general they will remember you not your clothes (unless you dress as a stripper lol).

I bet you could dress in jeans, t-shirt and trainers and then ask the next day “what did you think of my dress and heels” you’d get the same response either way.

Despite what you may have heard, people remember the person not the clothes. Just be yourself and enjoy.

After writing that I am aware that I have assumed your date is with a man. Sorry if that’s not the case. But I think the same applies.

PrincessOlga · 29/05/2024 18:05

Definitely wear trainers. Heels look too forced and "try hard" in my opinion.

As long as they are a nice pair (especially white or just a bright fun colour) I actually think they look BETTER (with almost anything) than heels.

TheKeatingFive · 29/05/2024 17:50

Of course

UtterlyOtterly · 29/05/2024 17:48

I'm too old to have a clue but DD wears dresses and trainers a lot. I think it looks good, far better than heels. Have a lovely date OP.

I wore walking boots for my first date with now DH, but that is because it was a "Would you like to climb a mountain at the weekend?" sort of date 😁

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Permanentlydazed · 29/05/2024 16:42

Thank you! I will wear the trainers 😊

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KreedKafer · 29/05/2024 16:28

Totally appropriate for a date in nice village pub!

Hope you have a lovely evening.

Itsallsostressful · 29/05/2024 16:09

Should say Hell to the yeah 😂

Itsallsostressful · 29/05/2024 16:09

He'll to the yeah you can wear trainers....have a great time !! X

BeaRF75 · 29/05/2024 16:07

Yes, of course. (Aren't heels a bit "out" now, anyway?).

Mrsjayy · 29/05/2024 16:07

Bobbieiris · 29/05/2024 15:58

Yes definitely wear the trainers, they’re comfy and more in fashion than heels now anyway ( non of my younger colleagues at work ever wear heels on nights out!!) . I wore trainers on my first date with my boyfriend a few years back 😊 good luck with the date!

My adult dds wear trainers with skirts and dresses.