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"The" tapas evening : work WhatsApp group, received in error, I believe. WWYD?

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LadyinLavende · 29/05/2024 13:07

This is more a WWYD

I work in a large organisation with several large departments which are distinct ; there are some "colleagues" in other departments that I know by name but wouldn't recognise on the street, but there are others with whom I interact weekly or even on a daily basis.
There is one colleague, C, with whom I have been working on a particular project for which she has set up a specific WhatsApp group, but otherwise each "department" has its own group.
I have also recently helped C out with a personal development project she was working on outside work (it was only an hour, but it was in my personal time.)

I have just received a WhatsApp message from C on the project group saying "I suggest Monday 1st July for the tapas evening: I propose to bring homemade sangria.

I have not heard mention of a tapas evening before, but the use of "the" suggests to me that it has been discussed between a particuar group and they are trying to fix a date. I really think C meant to send it to her departmental group: a tapas evening is the kind of thing her department would organise, but having only arrived in the company just before Christmas I have no idea if last year all the departments had a joint "pre summer holiday" event, (tapas or something else) or if each department organises their own event.

So should I pretend I haven't seen it and let C realise her mistake? I am the only member of the project group who is not also a member of C's main departmental group.

Should I reply : "I don't think this was meant for me."
Should I reply "Yes, lovely, I'll bring homemade pizza."

Other suggestions?

OP posts:
EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 30/05/2024 20:44

You're overanalysing this.

FloofyBird · 30/05/2024 20:41

How do you know you it wasn't meant for a non work group?

LadyinLavende · 30/05/2024 20:23

CJ0374 · 29/05/2024 23:50

Glad its sorted and you don't need to take pizza to a tapas night! Although I have no idea why you thought that was even an option??? 😕

'Cos I think we are self-catering. C said in her initial message "I propose to bring homemade sangria", so the idea was to suggest something I could make to share. Don't worry, it probably won't be pizza, I have something more original I can make.
Passed C. in the corridor earlier but we were both busy so we didn't really chat : must remember to ask her where it is happening. Strangely no one else has answered the original message, although there have been other project-related messages.

OP posts:
AlwaysTheRenegade · 30/05/2024 01:35

@CJ0374 😁😁😁

Op you sound so sweet, have a great time. If you're hungry, double up on patatas bravas!

CJ0374 · 29/05/2024 23:50

Glad its sorted and you don't need to take pizza to a tapas night! Although I have no idea why you thought that was even an option??? 😕

Stripeysocks1981 · 29/05/2024 23:44

Lovely. Enjoy 😊

TheChosenTwo · 29/05/2024 16:43

Ahh that’s really nice, I hope it’s a good evening 😊

LadyinLavende · 29/05/2024 13:49

Yay! I asked if it was a mistake, and no, it's specifically an evening for our project group, so a select few, rather than a whole department.
Seems like honesty is definitely the best policy.

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NorthernGirlie · 29/05/2024 13:17

Do you want to go?

TheChosenTwo · 29/05/2024 13:12

Depends on whether or not I was interested in socialising with them. I have some colleagues who have become friends that I see outside of work, some current colleagues and some ex colleagues from my old place of work so I’m not ruling out colleagues becoming friends.
If you’re not fussed either way just ignore the message.
If you would like to join in just ask, was I meant to be added to this group? - gives you an opening and pretty much no one is going to say no!

Changingplace · 29/05/2024 13:11

I assume she’s just messaged in the wrong group chat, no big deal, I assume there are other people besides you & her in the group?

I’d reply saying something like, ‘was this meant for a different chat?’

Amx · 29/05/2024 13:10

I'd say I think you sent this in error.

Stripeysocks1981 · 29/05/2024 13:08

The first one. If she intended invited you, she will tell you.