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"The" tapas evening : work WhatsApp group, received in error, I believe. WWYD?

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LadyinLavende · 29/05/2024 13:07

This is more a WWYD

I work in a large organisation with several large departments which are distinct ; there are some "colleagues" in other departments that I know by name but wouldn't recognise on the street, but there are others with whom I interact weekly or even on a daily basis.
There is one colleague, C, with whom I have been working on a particular project for which she has set up a specific WhatsApp group, but otherwise each "department" has its own group.
I have also recently helped C out with a personal development project she was working on outside work (it was only an hour, but it was in my personal time.)

I have just received a WhatsApp message from C on the project group saying "I suggest Monday 1st July for the tapas evening: I propose to bring homemade sangria.

I have not heard mention of a tapas evening before, but the use of "the" suggests to me that it has been discussed between a particuar group and they are trying to fix a date. I really think C meant to send it to her departmental group: a tapas evening is the kind of thing her department would organise, but having only arrived in the company just before Christmas I have no idea if last year all the departments had a joint "pre summer holiday" event, (tapas or something else) or if each department organises their own event.

So should I pretend I haven't seen it and let C realise her mistake? I am the only member of the project group who is not also a member of C's main departmental group.

Should I reply : "I don't think this was meant for me."
Should I reply "Yes, lovely, I'll bring homemade pizza."

Other suggestions?

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shearwater2 · 02/06/2024 15:23

I wouldn't say anything and wait to see if it was a mistake, or if further information will be forthcoming in another message.

Glad it is something you are invited to. I'd be delighted with slices of pizza at a tapas evening. If people are bringing food it would be nice if there is enough to eat and a nice range of things.

BobbyBiscuits · 02/06/2024 15:22

Firstly you should not bring pizza to a tapas night. Secondly, how do you know you're not invited? Do you want to go?
If so take it that you're included and go along.
I can hardly see the others shunning you on arrival. As long as you forgo the pizza!

UrsulaBelle · 02/06/2024 14:45

It could be proper Spanish tapas, or it could be a more informal tapas ‘style’ small plates/snacks thing. I’d ask, OP, but that chorizo and honey recipe looks nice. Spanish omelette/tortilla would be my suggestion.

5475878237NC · 02/06/2024 13:53

Tapas isn't Italian OP!

WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 13:34

IReallyStillCantBeBothered · 02/06/2024 10:25

What next, take some hotdog to curry night?

I got my greek and spanish mixed up.
Hail Mary, full of grace etc...

🤣

WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 13:30

TheOccupier · 02/06/2024 09:24

Stuffed vine leaves aren't tapas either. Tapas is (are) Spanish. Why are people so ignorant?

So that people like you have the joy of feeling superior?
Every day is a school day. You don't know what you don't know.

Do you host tapas evenings and turn guests away if they bring the wrong thing? Or are you just on MN to put strangers down about trivial things?

Crispsarethebestfood · 02/06/2024 13:22

OP I would have felt exactly the same as you but I probably wouldn’t have had the balls to ask and then I might have missed out on something I would have enjoyed. So well done.

Clarinet1 · 02/06/2024 10:40

I’d go for cubes of Chorizo and Manchego cheese!

LlynTegid · 02/06/2024 10:40

Hope it is an enjoyable evening, given the date hope no talk about politics or football!!

IReallyStillCantBeBothered · 02/06/2024 10:25

WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 07:52

OP I have no idea why everyone is having a go at you! Unbelievable what people try to turn into a bunfight.
You're not over analysing, you merely asked a question.
Pizza isn't strictly tapas but as I'm sure you're colleagues are polite, nobody is going to be having a go at you. Grab some stuffed vine leaves or something.

What next, take some hotdog to curry night?

EveryOtherNameTaken · 02/06/2024 10:25

Please make sure you learn about tapas or you might look foolish taking Italian or Greek food 😏

DojaPhat · 02/06/2024 10:12

I don't think yabu but I can't say that this would have even registered for me. I'd have probably just not done anything, but I guess if nothing you're definitely putting your best foot forward if this is a reasonably new job.

TheOccupier · 02/06/2024 09:24

WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 07:52

OP I have no idea why everyone is having a go at you! Unbelievable what people try to turn into a bunfight.
You're not over analysing, you merely asked a question.
Pizza isn't strictly tapas but as I'm sure you're colleagues are polite, nobody is going to be having a go at you. Grab some stuffed vine leaves or something.

Stuffed vine leaves aren't tapas either. Tapas is (are) Spanish. Why are people so ignorant?

WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 07:52

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WrenNatsworthy · 02/06/2024 07:52

OP I have no idea why everyone is having a go at you! Unbelievable what people try to turn into a bunfight.
You're not over analysing, you merely asked a question.
Pizza isn't strictly tapas but as I'm sure you're colleagues are polite, nobody is going to be having a go at you. Grab some stuffed vine leaves or something.

Segway16 · 02/06/2024 07:45

YABU to take pizza to a tapas night.
I also don’t understand why teams isn’t the main method of communication.

All the rest - not unreasonable, have a great time.

Eskimalita · 01/06/2024 23:51

Whatever you do don’t bring homemade pizza to a tapas evening. It’s not tapas.

RampantIvy · 01/06/2024 16:04

Doesn't your company use Teams as the main method of communication?

ironflan · 01/06/2024 13:39

Do you know it is definitely a works evening thing and not a friendship group outside of work?

TheOccupier · 31/05/2024 20:37

YWBU to take pizza to a tapas night! Pizza's Italian, not Spanish.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 31/05/2024 20:32

Yeah, you were stressing too much over a simple exchange, glad it's sorted

LadyinLavende · 31/05/2024 20:22

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 30/05/2024 20:44

You're overanalysing this.

Who me? What makes you say that?
It's all been cleared up satisfactorily : it was the right group, I have been included in something that I hadn't heard about until I got the message. I am looking forward to going:

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LadyinLavende · 31/05/2024 20:19

FloofyBird · 30/05/2024 20:41

How do you know you it wasn't meant for a non work group?

Because it turns out it was indeed for that group and C is not daft so if she'd send it to the wrong group it would only be one of the work groups rather than a totally unrelated one.

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