Friend bought doubles when I asked for singles

This. I could not forgive this. I'm diabetic and rarely have a drink. If I did and a friend did this that would end the friendship. There is no possible good reason she did this.

I'd be furious if someone did this to me. The worst part is she didn't and had no intention of telling you.

I would struggle to trust her now. It's one thing to get someone a double as a nice gesture but you tell them before they drink it! And to do that 5 times is appalling.

If you drink 5 double rum & cokes how much mixed or ice is with the alcohol is irrelevant, it’s still the same alcohol content as if you’d downed the shots straight (but will hit you differently as you’re more likely to sip a mixed drink than a shot).

This isn't how units work. 25ml of spirits = 1 unit.

If you drink a single shot of rum neat, it's one unit.

If you dilute it with a pint of coke, it's still one unit.

Doubles are two units. If you put them in a gallon of coke, it's still two units.

Five doubles is ten units - not 2.5 units because they've had mixers with them.

It's not generous not to tell someone that they are drinking a double though.

There are plenty of reasons why people want to limit what they are drinking e.g. driving in the morning of the next day, ensure they maintain their weight for medical reasons that doesn't apply to most people, sober enough to do jury duty.

She may have ordered doubles for herself ..
The barman will always try to upsèll. Perhaps she was just being generous?

It’s UK drinking culture to pressure people into drinking more, or think ‘the more alcohol the better’. It absolutely isn’t ok, and it’s fine for you to let your friend know you don’t find it acceptable.

For my wedding I had a free bar and the bar staff thought it was a good idea to just free pour the spirits. Luckily I caught them doing it early and made sure they used the measures I had provided them with. If someone wanted doubles that was absolutely fine but I was not having my Aunt Greta vomiting on the floor because she thought she’d limited herself to 2 g&ts but they were actually 90% gin or someone limiting their drink because they were driving and then being over the limit.

Wouldn't bother me personally unless I suspected any ill intention, I'd view it very differently from a relative stranger though

She was well intentioned and made a mistake, she's your friend, what do you think her 'motive' was?

Agree with this.

It's not really OK for her to do that, but for a friend how I'd handle it is by kindly saying 'I know you meant well and were being very generous but it's important I know how much I am drinking so I'd rather you told me in future, or just got me what I asked for' - but perhaps phrased in a less awkward way than typing it out seems to be!

She was well intentioned and made a mistake, she's your friend, what do you think her 'motive' was?
If she had done that for me we would be best friends for life to be honest 🍾

No that’s not on really.
I sometimes drink doubles in a pub because some pubs use massive glasses to fill up with mixer and then I feel like I might as well not bother.
But it’s under my control because it’s my choice.
When dh and I go out he used to buy me doubles all the time but if we were out and I had 10 drinks that was really 20 shots of vodka, once I was in such a mess he had to carry me home and he now doesn’t do that anymore!

An adult would agree that it's totally unacceptable.

However if she was very young, and she genuinely thought she was trying to do something nice, as she said about cost and treating you, I would just have a word with her and hope she learns from it and forgive and forget.

But if she did it again I'd go bananas and dump her.

Yeah my thoughts too, I couldn’t get too worked up about it tbh.

That was in response to @maddiemookins16mum by the time they've added ice and coke you're looking at less than 0.5unit of alcohol per drink! It's how pubs keep you coming back for more. They have to serve the correct measure of alcohol but can add as much ice and coke as they like.

Id a friend do that to me, I countered it by every time it was my round I just bought a tonic water rather than a gin and Tonic for myself. But if she’s doing all rounds it’s not counteractaboe. I find it totally unacceptable.

I’d be annoyed and tell her to just be honest in future/ listen to you but if she’s otherwise a good friend I would move past it for sure. I think she had good intentions so couldn’t lose the friendship over it

100% what she said.

YANBU, however this is very common, my friends do it as well. It wouldn't spoil my friendship, but I'd be clear with her that you are angry and upset about it, and will be going to the bar in future.

I coykdbt get worked up about this. She probably thought she was being kind and you were turning down doubles to save money. While you might be annoyed, I don't think she meant any bad intentions.

I wouldn't like this. I often have a hard enough time being sensible and actually going home after one or two drinks, without someone else sabotaging my limited intake for me.

Yeah I'd be pissed off

It's clearly as if she knows better

Yes mine too - and we’d all fine it generous and nice. But we’d say after bring the drink back!

It’s not Ok because you need to know what you’re drinking! If she thought you were just being sheepish, she should have said when she got back from the bar. And then you could pace yourself.

She was wrong but let's face it, a single measure by the time it’s had half a pint of coke and half a bag of ice added barely tastes of alcohol.

I couldn't get properly annoyed about this! surely you could tell how tipsy you were getting and stopped ordering more! Kind of thing my friends do but just being generous.