Friend bought doubles when I asked for singles

What's the point of her asking if she's just going to ignore you

I'm shocked people think this is ok. It is a form of spiking... if it was a male friend people would be up in arms thinking had a alterior motives. At best she is naive and doesn't realise repercussions.

People saying that people should take responsibility for their own drinking... if you don't know you're having double what you think you are... how would you know?

How would you react if your daughter or son was bought doubles, told they were singles, then ended up losing driving license for being over limit next day, or out in vulnerable position?

You would be mad at their friend.

So why excuse this for yourself or op?

I would end the friendship. What she did is awful and I wouldn't be near someone like that.

Many years ago, a friend ended up in hospital with alcohol poisoning because of someone doing this. It's not okay.

I don’t drink so my first reaction was YABU, I assume people stop drinking when they feel intoxicated enough, but going by some of these comments I’m clearly the one that doesn’t understand the effects of alcohol.

I think if you’re upset about it then that’s what matters. You feel like a boundary has been crossed and that’s important to resolve if the friendship is to continue so it might be worth having a conversation with her about how you feel and how you’re not ok with it.

One of the problems is that now you could still have alcohol in your system the next morning eg when you come to drive to work, so could be over the limit!

If I was starting to feel effected I would stop drinking and have soft drinks, adults should take their own responsibility for what they drink

It sounds like your friend was trying to be nice. And she may have wanted to ensure she “spent enough” or spent her fair share on drinks. She didn’t spike your drinks….she got doubles. You could just thank her and say you really do mean singles next time.

i think its out of order she has no right to do that without telling you

look at the nonsense poste here about 1 unit being diluted by mixers people have no idea at all

@Bellie710 - I did say a period of 2 or 3 hours - it was an afternoon watching golf. So 2 small whiskies would have been 2 units, which would have been fine over that period (especially with food) whereas 4 (because the two drinks were doubles, unbeknownst to him) is not - as my friend discovered to his cost

This was about 25 years ago, before Scotland reduced its limit.

Personally I would say if you are driving you should not be drinking 2 whisky's even if it is over 2 hours!

If it was your friend who'd been doing all the ordering, how come when you went to get a round in the barman knew what to get you?

it's a form of spioing, tricking you into getting more intoxicated than you intended, without your consent. It's messed up. It's not kind nor polite.

Regardless of what is added to it, you’re still having a double measure, whether it’s got a bucket of coke and ice added or neat

This.

I have a very close friend who will buy me doubles and herself singles. Pour me double the wine and add lemonade to hers. She says it’s because I’m not ‘drunk enough’ I don’t drink with her much at all anymore.
unfortunately too much emphasis has been placed on all our good times involving copious amounts of alcohol and I’m obviously not as much fun if I’m not absolutely rat arsed!

Absolutely not okay, she’s basically spiked you. I’d be having a serious conversation if a friend had done this to me no matter how good their intentions.

A friend of mine lost his driving licence because of someone doing this

He thought he'd had 2 whiskies over a period of 2 or 3 hours - but his supplier/friend had been buying him doubles

Plus especially in Scotland where the blood alcohol limit is nearly half that in England being given doubles when you thought you'd had singles could mean that you were still over the limit the following morning, when you'd have calculated that you should be ok to drive

So no, it's emphatically NOT ok

Quite dangerous really and out of order. I went to a night out and a work mate kept buying me vodka all night. I don't drink vodka such a waste of money and no respect for my choices

Think you're over thinking it. Don't be cross with her, just explain it and don't let her buy you drinks next time.

This^
i think her reaction will tell you everything you need to know.

I think most of my friends would do this, if you are used to drinking at home pub measures never really taste of much as you always pour bigger home measures.

However I do know some people who if they said only wanted a single I would definitely buy them a single but the majority of my friends wouldn't care how big the measure was!
If this is a really good friend that knows you then I would say YANBU, if it is someone you hardly ever see YABU they probably just assumed you were being polite.

Are we talking English measures ie 25ml per shot or Scottish measures which are around 35ml? Because I think English measures only dirty the glass and I’d always order double English measures in a pub.

I think she was trying to be nice!

Just say to her, if it was a bloke doing that it'd be so rapey and creepy. Tell her don't do that to another friend.

I can’t do doubles, would end up really drunk, really quickly but my friends know this so they know when I say single, I mean single. I would be quite pissed off about this.