Friend bought doubles when I asked for singles

What's nice or generous about it?

That’s really bad OP. If I give your friend the benefit of doubt maybe she thought she was being generous getting you doubles in return for the meal. But it’s not for her to basically dictate how much alcohol you drink, and to do it without telling you. You clearly said you wanted singles, she should have respected that. It’s your choice.

This reminds me of when I was about 19/20, an acquaintance of my mate got a job behind the bar at the local "dive" bar (my regular haunt). We spent the evening ordering double vodka and cokes and were both violently ill over market square at kicking out time 😬 embarrassing as we had only just infiltrated a new "cool" group of mates. It was the next day that we were informed that he thought he was doing us a favour by giving us triples (to save us money) so he essentially spiked us, I have no memory of getting home that night.

"It’s drink spiking - and is illegal carrying a prison sentence of up to 10 years. OP is the victim of a crime, fortunately without any serious consequences, but I’d tell that friend that that they are luck you aren’t pressing charges (the bar tender is a witness) and never see them again."

Jesus Christ @BusyMummy001 that's a bit dramatic don't you think? In the UK we don't "press charges", it isn't up to us. Of course you can report a perceived crime to the police, but after that time it's out of your hands.

I wouldn't get worked up over this. Presumably your friend just thought that if you felt more drunk than you'd like, you just wouldn't have any more. It's odd that she continued to ask each time though, knowing that she would order something different.

I couldn't get wound up about this.

Had a family member who insisted on always buying doubles so as not to appear cheap. Also would have the most expensive item on the menu as the shows class. And he's be paying and would insist that everyone had the 2 pound lobster as well even if they were allergic to seafood because it would show him up if they had the chicken caesar instead.

No she wasn’t being nice/generous - OP expressly asked for singles. If the ‘friend’ had been male, it would be considered predatory behaviour. If she had added E or some other drug to her drinks, it would be deemed predatory and illegal. As it is, the friend intentionally plied OP with additional alcohol against her wishes.

It’s drink spiking - and is illegal carrying a prison sentence of up to 10 years. OP is the victim of a crime, fortunately without any serious consequences, but I’d tell that friend that that they are luck you aren’t pressing charges (the bar tender is a witness) and never see them again.

I drink a few small wines, but I need to pace myself. I have explained this to people I drink with regularly.
Luckily I now live in a country where wine is served in reasonable quantities. Putting half a bottle in one glass is a ridiculous fashion in the UK.

The most common way people get spiked is where the culprit makes the victim's drinks stronger than they think they are. No drugs involved, just some extra alcohol.

Yeah it depends how much mixer you're getting in there but if I drank twice as much booze as normal I'd know inside 2 drinks

You can’t be serious 🤣🤣 Just don’t drink it? No need to be so over the top about it, nobody is trying to force you to drink it they’re just being generous.

Do you only ever drink one small wine? What happens if you’d have had a second small wine later in the evening, would the second half of the large be no good??

I keep thinking this is somehow about tennis.

Wow the reactions on here....hysterical much?

OP you said the drinks tasted stronger. So why drink them?! You should have asked her earlier in the night, is this a double? Then it could have been cleared up then and there. But instead you said nothing and continued to drink and now you're frothing about it.

Ridiculous.

I couldn't get upset over this. She probably just thought she was being generous.

I don't think there's much in the taste between singles and doubles. Triples however....

I'm surprised that people wouldn't notice a double, or notice that they were getting twice as munted as normal but I am a proper lightweight so maybe more sensitive than others

It is spiking. It's putting (more) alcohol in someone's drink without their consent or permission. You can laugh all you want but as a former bartender I've had to deal with the outcomes of "friends" doing this and someone ending up waiting for an ambulance. On more than one occasion

This.... you got to let people know.

I think just tell her straight. I know you were trying to be generous but you should have told me because I need to be able to trust my friends with something as basic as what’s in the food or drink they’re giving me. Please don’t do that again because I want to make my own choices about how much I drink

A local Bar man did this to me the night before my first Alevel exam. I said I wasn't drinking so he sneakily added vodka to my drink.

It would have been entirely different if she'd turned up with the drinks and said "I got you a double anyway". At least then she would be giving OP the information she needed to be in control of her own alcohol intake through the evening.

But it was deceitful to do it on the quiet, and I don't really know what the friend got out of that.

It IS spiking, its knowingly giving something that alters their state of mind, without consent.

Wtf is wrong with some people in this thread?

Literally, giving someone something they aren't aware of that alters their state, is spiking. Whether its a good female friend or a stranger...

That's not okay. At all.

Alcohol intake can be dangerous, and by doing this, she was jeopardising you health and safety potentially.

Definitely not ok. And not kind or generous. Does she have a drink problem or alcohol issues?

When you say never do it again you mean they never buy you another drink ever again and also inexplicably haven't spoken to you in years?