Pulling my hair is weird behaviour?

@LazyGewl

It's not only on this mumsnet thread here and other threads topics ops on here and of course,
in real life some certain people too,
Have in regards of a blind spot on anyone elses feelings in any way,

the endangered art of being able to relate and think how this could feel and effect,
potentially someone else from different perspectives than oneself,

this is a quite a good example this particular mumsnet thread is and another hot topic mumsnet thread recently,
is in obviously different way of course,
which is the Grandmother assaulted by her teenage grandson,

🤔 certain posters can not,
even consirder even,
how someone yanking @thelastgoodbye hair like that could even be thought of unacceptable or offensive or even be consirdered boundaries trampling or pushing or provocative in any way,

Well lets amagine this potentially real life senerio of someone wears a wig for medical reasons such as Alopecia or recovering from cancer treatment
and an random individual on day out with mix of friends etc,
decides to yank someone hair who is recoving from chemo therapy treatments or someone from Alopecia,

And yet the ones on here judgemental posters about @thelastgoodbye feelings and reactions on here,

if anyone did that to themselves in real life they would feel either mixed feelings or find it weird or something off about this action/ not quite right,ect ect,

Certain posters on here and some other people in real life are of course hypocritical and Contrary when it comes to other people's feelings

VERY weird behaviour, and catty imo!

One of my mates older sisters once told him to tell me that my extensions "didn't match the rest of my hair" - Not sure why, I barely knew her and only met her for about 10 seconds on two occasions.

I didn't have extensions, I just had two different tones of pink in my hair at the time as I prefer the underneath to be darker! (and to be fair the dyes had both faded a bit!)

I honestly think it's just jealousy to be honest, it always seems to come from people who are insecure about their own hair length :S

Seeing this for what it was, pulling someone's hair, real or otherwise, is an assault just as much as if she had biffed you on the nose. The issue is what she actually did, not how close a friend she was. Totally unacceptable under any circumstances other than self defence. Having said that it would probably be much too heavy handed in this instance to press charges.

Was it you? It’s SUCH an inappropriate thing to do

Was this maybe a backhanded compliment
as in your hair is long and nice it can’t possibly be real?

was she ok with you the rest of the weekend?

I can’t stand the ‘lighten up’ and ‘it’s only banter’ people. It is just shorthand for ‘I want to be an unpleasant bitch to you and you mustn’t complain’.

What truly is thread worthy?

It's just idle chat & people can join in or not as they wish.

MN is infuriating for this. Everyone will say "Oh, I don't see the problem" yet if you were to do to them they'd see the problem soon enough.

You don't touch people's hair! It is overfamiliar and it's violating their boundaries unless you have already established a friendship where that is your mo.

Please OP, tell us the great story of the Banning at the Premier Inn. Pretty please.

To answer your question, she was super weird and rude, and if somebody had done that to me I'd have been sorely tempted to yank her ratty locks right back. Was it a hard yanking?

I'm surprised by the amount of people who think it's okay.

It was a bitchy comment designed to try and embarrass the OP then to pull on her hair is just uncalled for. I hate my hair being pulled, it hurts and I've had to teach children not to do it so why is it okay for adults to do it to strangers?

Of course none of the people on this thread would be happy with someone they don't know pulling their hair in a clear attempt to embarrass them. "Banter?" What would be funny about trying to show everyone someone had badly fitted extensions? Even weirder when OP didn't have any.

@Myblindsaredown

Why is it extreme 😕 that you think it's not assault then?

Your hair doesn't just grow out of vacuum

Your hair grows from a very personal intimate part of your being called human body

What gives someone the right consent whithout Your permission to yank or pull your hair or anyone else is then?

Or
even touch something that grows from an such an important and extremely personal part of who you are are made up that's called the human body

Do you understand 🤔 that better now

What if you were on a night out at a night club and a random man cause he fancied you decided it was OK to touch your hair Or Yank your hair with an attitude cause he is beholder of society's precious plums and two meats and veg male Penis,
he is entiled to touch your hair ,

Just cause he could and he wants to and just cause we live in man child ego centric society here in UK and around the 🌎 world,

How would you feel think about that then?

😂😂 good one!

I don't think people are trying to minimise the incident or asking her to talk about it in a fun way. It was clearly uncomfortable for the OP and her not-friend was out of order

People are just reacting light heartedly to her repeated clarification that she wasn't wearing hair extensions, when nobody is suggesting she was

Yes it was unreasonable behaviour from her, and it says more about her than it does about you.

You are however being unreasonable by not posting the other details from the weekend.

That’s a bit extreme really. Is it internet hyperbole or would you really slap a friend who tugged your hair and then class it as assault 😱

Pulling someone's hair without permission is an assault. My hair isn't long enough for anyone to yank but if anyone tried it, they 'd get a slap.

I adore curly hair, both the look and the touch of it - my son has very curly hair and it's great to touch it (he doesn't mind me touching it occasionally).

But I would NEVER touch a stranger's hair or even a friend's hair without being invited to do so. I hadn't thought of all your additional reasons, which make it sound even more gross but it's just invasive and intrusive and extremely rude.

It also puts you on the spot because you have to push back which can feel awkward and lead to confrontation.

Reading this thread though many people think their right to please themselves overrides anyone else's rights to personal space and autonomy.

Wow that's interesting. I wish I'd known this when I was younger. I was and am very much go with the flow and just enjoying being part of the group.

Because of that I didn't cotton onto the Queen Bee character or Chief Crony. It's becoming more obvious now. It's really quite pathetic but because the majority don't want to make waves no-one usually calls them out on their behaviour and often fawn over them because they don't want to become the target. As generally they make someone the target by picking on them or blanking them.

I find it quite entertaining when they blank me these days as I go full on attention giving (not fawning or ingratiating) so they have to at least look me in the eye e.g. hi there Ann how are you, with a beaming smile. They hate it.

@thelastgoodbye I once had a woman pull my hair - A complete stranger, in the street- It was very invasive.
I expect this woman who pulled your hair was jealous of your lovely thick, long hair.

I've had people pull and touch my hair. One very strange woman yanked on my ponytail when I was standing in the queue in Boots to get my attention. The only thing interesting about my hair is that it's very long (I can sit on it.) The colour and texture (dark brown with white, barely wavy and fine) are nothing to write home about. As I detest people I don't know touching me, (and once snapped at my ex-H for stroking my hair with greasy hands) I have a sort of feeling if people are getting too close to me and move away.

Well clearly not.

Maybe in your social circle but reading the voting, the vast majority of people would hate it and wouldn't have a laugh about it.

Perhaps those people who think it's hilarious should stick to doing with people they know and could be sure would treat it as 'banter' or 'a laugh' and leave acquaintances and complete strangers alone.