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To think you regret getting divorced?

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JoJoBluee · 28/05/2024 09:16

Any people out there who got divorced and now regret doing so?

If so, what was the reason for divorce and why do you now think maybe it wasn’t the right decision?

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JoJoBluee · 28/05/2024 10:09

So far it is pretty unanimous. I should’ve added to my original post, but given the responses so far so you mind also sharing the main reason for divorce?

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SnowFrogJelly · 28/05/2024 09:59

No regrets..
Wish I'd done it sooner

StarsBeneathMyFeet · 28/05/2024 09:51

I didn’t ask for a divorce until I was certain it was done. Felt like we had tried everything - joint counselling, individual counselling, date nights - he had just withdrawn and couldn’t be arsed to try any more.
Actually there’s not a day goes by that I don’t think ‘I’m so glad I divorced him’ when I think of all the awful things he said and did.
I’ve found it difficult to come to terms with living on a low income (he pays a reasonable amount of maintenance but with COL increase money is very tight), I wish I could offer DD more opportunities sometimes, but she’s much happier now and you can’t put a price on that.

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/05/2024 09:48

No, it was like being set free.

hamstersarse · 28/05/2024 09:44

I regret that I made a stupid decision to get married which meant my dc didn’t have the full 2 parent upbringing but I don’t regret the divorce. Given the circumstances, divorce was the only option and I don’t regret that at all and we’ve all made the very best of that circumstance

frankentall · 28/05/2024 09:44

My only regret is the financial aspects - otherwise getting divorced is one of my better decisions.

Hesma · 28/05/2024 09:44

My only regret is trusting a lying cheating knob!

DickJagger · 28/05/2024 09:40

Zero regrets.

PurpleWhiteGreen123 · 28/05/2024 09:37

I've been divorced five days!!!! Should have done it years ago.

WalkingaroundJardine · 28/05/2024 09:35

No regrets. It took me a very long time to be ready to do it but once I faced it head on I didn’t want to turn back to the hell that was my life before.

Fulshaw · 28/05/2024 09:30

I doubt many people regret being divorced as that would mean they are still in love their ex.

I imagine many people regret being in the position they had to get divorced.

ilovesooty · 28/05/2024 09:30

GabriellaMontez · 28/05/2024 09:28

I regret it took me so long.

Same here.

HebburnPokemon · 28/05/2024 09:29

Under what circumstances would someone regret getting divorced? It’s not a decision you can make in an instance. I’m confused by your post OP, care to elaborate?

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 28/05/2024 09:28

Nope. Getting married, now that was the mistake.

GabriellaMontez · 28/05/2024 09:28

I regret it took me so long.

Northumberlandlass · 28/05/2024 09:27

No regrets here - just wish I had done it earlier!

AFmammaG · 28/05/2024 09:25

Don’t regret getting divorced just wish I hadn’t married the twat in the first place.

TheSnowyOwl · 28/05/2024 09:24

I‘m not divorced but surely it’s like any relationship breakup, you might regret it if it want your choice or you might regret it for the fact it didn’t work out.

OzziePopPop · 28/05/2024 09:24

Zero regrets!

fedupwithbeingcold · 28/05/2024 09:20

No regrets whatsoever

CleanShirt · 28/05/2024 09:20

Also twice for me. Don't regret the first one, I was young and stupid. Stbxh left me for a younger woman in January and I don't think he regrets it either.

LividPink · 28/05/2024 09:17

Been divorced twice.

No regrets.

Just regret that both husbands hadn’t been able to do better.

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