to think I'm probably not going to meet anyone..

It's a bit hypocritical not to date single dads but if you don't want to you'll just have to accept it'll be much harder. Childless single men are like gold dust and will be snapped up quickly, usually by childless women...

I don't understand why you'd want to have another child in this situation! You say already that it's been impossible with kids' schedules to work around with dating single dads. If you have another child, then that's yet more complications.

What's in it for you or the maybe-another-child? Can you afford another child?

Also, speaking as the child of a single mother, I didn't enjoy being the illegitimate child of a single mother. Wished I had normal family like other girls at school. I never wanted children, I think as a result.

I have no one that would babysit them so I wouldn't even try to meet anyone. When they are adults I guess but I worry I will be too old by then 🫣

It will be harder if you winnow out single men but not impossible!

I know many single mums who have met wonderful partners

My kid’s dad didn’t see them for several years at all. Very slow reintroduction and now it’s one day every two weeks. It just sucks, doesn’t it? And makes it so much harder.
But if I can meet someone, it isn’t totally hopeless for you either. Especially as the kids get older. Don’t give up on it entirely.

Well yes probably for a long time if you don't want to date single dads but want someone without children to take on your child, it does happen but you are limiting yourself so will take longer especially in your 30s where a lot of men will have children. At least you get the opportunity to date I've been single 7 years because my kids dad won't have them so I've had to make peace with the loneliness. You get use to it.

🤨Yeah…. Ok.

It won’t just happen. And it’s difficult. I became a single parent when I had an 18 month old and a 4 week old. I didn’t date at all for 6 years. Nothing at all, because two young kids and no time and no life! Then I tried online dating, but with my kids still being kinda young, I never felt comfortable with the idea of a man being introduced to their life so I knew nothing would become long term, so I don’t have experience of dating with a young child.

My kids are 12 and 11 now, and I started dating a year ago. Went the online route again and went on dates with about 12 men, some nice and some terrible but you need to get out there. Five months ago, I met the man I’m with now and he is perfect (so far). We’ve had bugs to work out, but nothing of any consequence and it’s been so easy. I’m 35, and I did think for a long time that I’d be alone forever, but once you get yourself out there… you really might meet someone great. Mine is still very new, it’ll be months and months before I think of him meeting my kids but it’s lovely. I’m glad I gave the online dating a try.

That’s just a little snapshot of my experience. Meeting someone is possible.

They say you can create your own reality. Close your eyes regularly and feel what the perfect other half and other child would feel like in your life doing ordinary regular stuff and someday you might realise there they are. This kind of happened me. Focus on being your best self and the one Mr perfect will meet when the time is right.