Married neighbour wanting me

I can't get past a smoker telling a non-smoker to have just one'. That just cannot be right? Perhaps the OP misheard?

What I do know is that some sorts have a very finely tuned antenna for women-who-might, who are worth a punt. They try and then move on if rebuffed. This one hasn't had an actual rebuff, just an "Ooh you are naughty!".

Maybe so, but all that he heard was "if you were single". So in his mind it's only a matter of time before you give in to your feelings for him!

If you don't spend any time alone together hie on earth is he plaguing you to be with him? He's hardly doing this in front of people. If he's texting you just block his number. You don't need to be in contact with him.

Someone else mentioned you are giving this far too much headspace. Your OP actually sounds a bit gushing. I think you are very flattered by his attention and he can sense that from you. He's hoping with a bit of persuasion he'll have sex with you. Or maybe he doesn't want to have sex at all but he likes winding you up.

Either way he sounds like a dick. Avoid and block him.

Sisterhood?! Its not very "sisterly" to tell a married guy you'd sleep with him if he wasn't with his wife is it 😂

What just because she is female there has to be a 'sisterhood'? are females not repsonsible for their own actions?

Literally noone said he cant help it - everyone called him an absolute sleaze.

But there are huge gaping holes in this story- she's never spoken to him alone and yet she knows what his sex life is like with his wife?

She told him she'd go for him "if he was single"?

She thinks he is a lovely guy despite the fact she's never apparently spoken to him on her own

Does none of this strike you as a bit odd?

It’s nothing to do with “sisterhood” or the lack of it. I haven’t seen anyone supporting the man. But thinking the man is a rat doesn’t mean people can’t think the OP has made things worse with her faux-innocent “But I don’t understand why he keeps trying! All I did was say I fancied him and would jump at the chance if he was single! How could that possibly have encouraged him?” routine.

Talk about sitting on your own doorstep.

Only in your wild imagination.

And since when does this 'sisterhood' mean you can't tell another woman you think she's done something wrong?

I've not seen anyone say he can’t help it.

If you weren't interested in him why did you (and I quote) say "I said if he was single yes."

You are either interested in him or leading him on. I think you like the attention tbh otherwise it would have been a flat no.

Not at all. He’s an absolute rat.
But it’s the doe eyed “poor innocent me” when she has TOLD him she fancies him that makes her almost as bad.
The only person in this scenario I feel sorry for is the poor wife!!

Got to love the tone of the thread. The man is just a man and can't really help it, poor little sausage. But the op is the villain and a manipulator for leading him on somehow. Seems to be the MN way though. So much for sisterhood 😀

I doubt that would discourage him. You have told him you fancy him.

Also the more I think about it, the more yuck I feel about your thread header.

It wasn’t: Unwanted overtones from a married neighbour

It was: Married neighbour wanting me

Alright Blanche DuBois!

A piece of advice.

Don't shit on your own doorstep.

I disagree with the posters suggesting it's a 'humble brag'. The OP isn't reading the situation correctly on this thread - nobody with self-esteem would feel it worthy of bragging about because it's not.

A man wants a fling. It doesn't matter who (or what), just anybody will do. OP, that is what this man is. I hope you were just bored and posting for something to do and that this situation isn't real because if it is, it's sad. Not so much what this twat is doing but your response to it, all giddy and gushing. It's embarrassing to read.

It's not that this man particularly wants you, he senses that you are available because you haven't categorically told him that you're not. Big difference.

I noticed this too. References to having a laugh with him.

Quite. The way the title is worded too is a bit of a humble brag.

I also think you are loving this.

I think so too. Anyone not interested would have said so and moved on not make a huge deal in a post about trying to "understand"why men do this. I've been hit on my married men. Cut it off instantly.

Oh come off it OP. You’re LOVING this and absolutely encouraging it.

No offence to you but it's because you're available, nothing more special than the wife. At the most different. I'd ignore him from now on tbh, any further interaction will inflate his deluded ego and he will misinterpret romance for flirting.

Wanted to be with you means a shag. That's all he sees you as. He sounds a dog.
His poor wife.

You can't say you aren't remotely interested and have replied as you did.

Story time... I'm not single but my DP works away for long periods. One of my neighbours is a gardener and used to do my garden. He started being inappropriate when my DP was away and even posted letters in my door saying he wanted to take me out. I confronted him and told him he better not set foot on my property again or there would be hell on. On 2 occasions he came into my garden and I was like the old guy from Monster House, shouting "get off my lawn" shaking my fist (i know OTT but I was so enraged by his audacity 🤣) he did attempt to leave "gifts" on my doorstep even after this and I logged it with the police and let him know this, in the middle of the street when I saw him. His wife knows what he does as I'm not the first woman he has propositioned. That's her choice and I won't stop saying hi to her because of him.

If you REALLY were appalled by it as you claim, you wouldn't have said "if you were single" you'd be shaking your fist out of the window 🤣

I said if he was single yes.

So in his mind he's got a green light to keep pursuing you.

Why not tell his wife? That will get the message across. And if you still want him single, will probably do the trick.

Absolutely! What was the point in telling him this, OP?

The answer you were looking for was "No, I'm not interested."