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Was this snobbery? Online dating

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TheQuickGoldSheep · 27/05/2024 21:58

I'm single and using the Hinge app. I'm in Liverpool and was talking to a man who worked as a teacher.
He told me he'd previously worked in two schools in 'very rough' areas of the city.
I asked which areas they were and he told me them, one of them has a poor reputation as it's deprived, the other not as much so, it's just an average area where a friend of mine lives.

I joked that I lived 2 minutes' walk from the first area in another inner-city area. People occasionally refer to my area as 'rough', but it's absolutely fine, it's largely a student population as it's very close to the unis, I've had zero issues.

He completely ignored my 'joke' and then proceeded to tell me where he lived, saying 'fortunately, it's not too bad here'.

If anyone's in Liverpool, he was referring to Kenny and Garston, I live in Edge Hill and he lives in Old Swan.

He randomly ghosted me anyway so 😅 I've been through Old Swan and it was just like anywhere else tbh.

It's true some areas are more deprived or run-down, Kenny doesn't have a great rep, but I guess the whole, X and X are rough but my area is good, sounded a little snobby.
Maybe he's put off by where I live?

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KreedKafer · 28/05/2024 08:48

He sounds a bit patronising.

Pigeonqueen · 28/05/2024 07:44

Well you didn’t click with each other if you feel he isn’t responding in the way that you’d want regardless of whatever it is. So block and move on. It’s a numbers game. (I met dh online 14 years ago).

Sillystrumpet · 28/05/2024 07:35

curtaintwitcher78 · 27/05/2024 22:34

And why's the cheeky sod making out Old Swan is Beverley Hills!

How does “it’s not too bad “ transflate to Beverly Hills?

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 28/05/2024 07:25

I personally think old swan is a bit rough and garston isn’t actually too bad- edge hill neither 😅

yellowsmileyface · 28/05/2024 07:22

Doesn't sound too snobby tbh, more matter of fact. Some places are simply a bit rougher than others. He wasn't exactly making out he lived in the Taj Mahal either, just said his area was "not too bad". I think you've taken something personally that's not personal.

He's probably ghosted because the conversation just wasn't gelling, as evidenced by your post here!

LieutOliviaBenson · 27/05/2024 22:36

Wow small world @TheQuickGoldSheep I live in Edge Hill too!

curtaintwitcher78 · 27/05/2024 22:34

And why's the cheeky sod making out Old Swan is Beverley Hills!

DeadMabelle · 27/05/2024 22:31

So this was just a chat on an app, you’ve never met? And you have different ideas of what constitutes ‘rough’/‘deprived’?

steff13 · 27/05/2024 22:26

I think most people on dating apps are talking to more than one person at a time so if I get ghosted I assume that there was somebody he liked better than me. 🤷‍♀️

Theredoubtableskins · 27/05/2024 22:21

How was it a joke? I don’t know the city at all. Was it accurate? You do live close by? How is that a joke?

NewName24 · 27/05/2024 22:19

Yeah, you are being a bit strange.
He was carrying on the conversation, about where you both live.

I don't know the particular areas you are talking about, but the fact that some areas of all cities are rougher than others, some are okay, some are a bit nicer, and some are really to aspire to.
People say the part of my City I live in is a bit rough. Factually, it is. It is a deprived area. Also factually, it is quite a big area, and there are some really nice parts too. It isn't where I would aim for if my budget were much larger than it is. I'm not being snobby about my area, I'm being factual.

QualityDog · 27/05/2024 22:07

I don't think it was ignoring your joke, it was just carrying on with the conversation. You said where you lived and then he responded by telling you where he lived.

Sillystrumpet · 27/05/2024 22:03

TheQuickGoldSheep · 27/05/2024 22:01

Yeah, maybe it wasn't a joke as such but anyway he ignored that part of my message so mustn't have been very impressed!

I really am not sure he wasn’t interested due to where you live op.

TheQuickGoldSheep · 27/05/2024 22:01

Yeah, maybe it wasn't a joke as such but anyway he ignored that part of my message so mustn't have been very impressed!

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Canadan · 27/05/2024 22:01

I’m not sure I get your joke. You were just saying you live next to the area.

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Sillystrumpet · 27/05/2024 22:00

I doubt it is where you live, and I don’t see how it’s snobby, if it’s run down or studenty it is what it is. Don’t be so sensitive,