Page 7 | 20 year old daughter having to spend night at JFK airport.

FrenchandSaunders · 28/05/2024 10:06

I would have done the same OP. Not worth the risk. I don’t care if she’s 20 or 40 I’d still help my kids out when needed.

mjf981 · 28/05/2024 10:01

Wow at that price!!! Just wow. You daughter is very lucky OP. My Mum would have been at the end of the phone for moral support, but that would have been it at 20 y/o.

CatWithNoTeeth · 28/05/2024 09:56

Really surprised to hear people say JFK isn't safe! Don't US airports have stringent security like other places? Delhi airport is the most chilled place, I would have no issues being there late. Same with Bangkok airport. I was there 3am for a flight to Phuket and my gate was practically empty, I just lay down on the seats. No concerns at all, cameras everywhere. Heathrow can be a bit grubby depending on the terminal but definitely not unsafe.

Frangipanyoul8r · 28/05/2024 09:50

I’ve spent many a night at an airport as a young women. They are covered in CCTV and are the most high security environments out there - a much safer place to be than a hotel 🤷‍♀️

booksunderthebed · 28/05/2024 09:48

best of luck with the claiming process. Shame they can't give you a bit extra for all the stress and aggravation of trying to claim back money from them.

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DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 09:46

booksunderthebed · 28/05/2024 09:15

Wow, thats a crazy price!!! But at least she is safe, and hopefully you will recover some or all of the cost.

Another further hotel might have been cheaper but taxis would have also cost money.

I don't understand why jet blue are not covering it if its a connecting flight. Airlines often get cheaper prices from hotels as well.

@booksunderthebed DD will try and claim from Jetblue for expense of overnight accommodation. Will see what happens. I will only be able to make an claim on our travel insurance if DD has been turned down for cost of hotel in writing I think.

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N4ish · 28/05/2024 09:39

Didimum · 28/05/2024 09:36

Even when she thinks the travel insurance will cover it?

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Each to their own, the OP obviously did what she thought was best in the situation. My approach would have been different. Bowing out now, hope OP's DD has a smooth onwards journey.

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DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 09:36

Blimey. Just realised this is a trending thread on MN! Didn't think when I posted that it would generate this many posts!

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Didimum · 28/05/2024 09:36

N4ish · 28/05/2024 09:19

Yes, that's right. I don't think OP should have stepped in and organised an expensive hotel room. In her shoes I would have said 'that sounds annoying but you'll be fine and can catch up on sleep soon.'

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Even when she thinks the travel insurance will cover it?

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DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 09:34

N4ish · 28/05/2024 09:19

Yes, that's right. I don't think OP should have stepped in and organised an expensive hotel room. In her shoes I would have said 'that sounds annoying but you'll be fine and can catch up on sleep soon.'

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@N4ish If she was travelling with someone, I would have been happy for DD to rough it and sleep in the airport overnight as they would have been able to look out for each other and take it in turns to sleep and watch each other's bags. However, as DD travelling alone, the risk of falling asleep and having her valuables stolen is too great for my liking. I also didn't want her jumping in taxis and going round NYC on her own.
I am all for building DC resilience, but we all have to decide what level of risk we are comfortable with.
I have recently retired after working 40+ years. To me, the point of all that hard work was to build up sufficient financial reserves to dig myself or my family out of a hole if necessary. In my eyes, this was one such situation where I felt that the expense was worth it for peace of mind.

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Linux20 · 28/05/2024 09:26

DaughterStranded · 27/05/2024 21:43

Not an AIBU, but posting for traffic as really worried.
20 year old DD has arrived at JFK airport to find connecting flight to South Carolina cancelled due to signalling issues. The next connecting flight will go 7am tomorrow morning. There are no earlier flights to any nearby airports available.
DD has decided to spend the night at JFK airport. I am worried she will fall asleep and get robbed of her phone/money. Anyone else had this situation to deal with? Any advice or tips anyone?

Probably too late now, but we flow through jfk earlier this year and there are locked places you can hire to go sleep.

shearwater2 · 28/05/2024 09:24

MariaLuna · 28/05/2024 02:11

have a tendency to think that 'young people these days' are overly anxious, unable to accept things they can't control, and just generally lacking in resilience.

I agree.

Bollocks they are.

SheepAndSword · 28/05/2024 09:20

Can't see a problem with helping out a relative no matter their age.

I must look up this TWA hotel, never heard of it before and it sounds amazing!

N4ish · 28/05/2024 09:19

Didimum · 28/05/2024 09:01

“Poor comprehension skills” – another classic out of the MN playbook. Want to go for the hat trick?

Comprehension is a-ok, thanks. She thinks daughter should have not called her mum (despite very likely just informing her that her flight was significantly delayed), sorted herself out (even though daughter did intended to just kip at the airport) and OP shouldn’t have stepped in.

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Yes, that's right. I don't think OP should have stepped in and organised an expensive hotel room. In her shoes I would have said 'that sounds annoying but you'll be fine and can catch up on sleep soon.'

booksunderthebed · 28/05/2024 09:15

Wow, thats a crazy price!!! But at least she is safe, and hopefully you will recover some or all of the cost.

Another further hotel might have been cheaper but taxis would have also cost money.

I don't understand why jet blue are not covering it if its a connecting flight. Airlines often get cheaper prices from hotels as well.

FTPM1980 · 28/05/2024 09:10

I have no problem with parents helping adult children out....21 is still young, and even at 40+ occasionally I need some outside help (usually from OH/siblings now).

But I think booking a £400+ room in a luxury hotel to avoid spending a few hours in an airport with other delayed travellers is absolutely crazy - especially in America.

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DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 09:03

Didimum · 28/05/2024 08:56

She likely didn’t have the money to waste on it. OP said it was expensive.

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Yes, this. DD has worked and saved for the trip. She is on a limited budget and was going to sleep in the airport rather than pay the money to stay in the TWA hotel. The cost for one night in TWA hotel was £440, so DD felt she couldn't justify the cost.

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Didimum · 28/05/2024 09:01

EmilyTheCriminal · 28/05/2024 08:54

Oh dear.

Read the post again. It is absolutely not what she is saying.

Poor comprehension skills?

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“Poor comprehension skills” – another classic out of the MN playbook. Want to go for the hat trick?

Comprehension is a-ok, thanks. She thinks daughter should have not called her mum (despite very likely just informing her that her flight was significantly delayed), sorted herself out (even though daughter did intended to just kip at the airport) and OP shouldn’t have stepped in.

FTPM1980 · 28/05/2024 09:00

It's an airport, in America.
It has some of the beat security in the world.

At 21 I was sleeping on train station floors and dodgy youth hostels across Europe.

Didimum · 28/05/2024 08:56

N4ish · 28/05/2024 08:52

No issue at all! A room sounds like a good plan but she should be sorting it all out herself.

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She likely didn’t have the money to waste on it. OP said it was expensive.

EmilyTheCriminal · 28/05/2024 08:54

Didimum · 28/05/2024 08:46

?? That’s exactly what she’s saying. Regardless, the daughter was already planning to kip at the airport anyway and her mother just offered her the room. Daughter didn’t call up ‘needing’ a solution, so what’s the problem? Just wanting to make OP feel bad for some arbitrary reason?

And why of why is every critical comment on here met with ‘hit a nerve?’. No, my kids are 6 years old and whenever I went travelling my parents only got a text message or two. It’s not that deep.

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Oh dear.

Read the post again. It is absolutely not what she is saying.

Poor comprehension skills?

muddyford · 28/05/2024 08:54

I slept at Tel Aviv airport, forty years ago. Uncomfortable but safe. Loads of security guards about.

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DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 08:53

VJBR · 28/05/2024 08:52

Just ignore the wankers with their perfect parenting skills. It doesn’t matter how old your kids are - some of us still like to help and protect them.

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Thanks @VJBR

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MerryMaidens · 28/05/2024 08:53

When I was that age JFK airport would be a significant upgrade on the various transport hubs I'd snoozed in overnight. My parents didn't know which country I was in.

Imagine phoning your mum for help at 20! Blimey. If you're big enough to get on a plane you're big enough to sort out any travel challenges that go with it. Why can't she book herself into a hotel? That's why you travel with a credit card.

VJBR · 28/05/2024 08:52

DaughterStranded · 28/05/2024 08:44

@MariaLuna I knew when I posted in AIBU that I would get at least one post like yours! There seems to be a theme on MN of some posters feel that it is a crime to provide any help to DC once they hit the golden age of 18.
Fortunately for me, the overwhelming majority of posters have been kind and helpful and have provided a wealth of useful information which has been extremely useful.

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Just ignore the wankers with their perfect parenting skills. It doesn’t matter how old your kids are - some of us still like to help and protect them.